My dh and I have just had a huge argument about rape. He thinks that girls can do things to protect themselves
. I think that blaming victims is ridiculous, and men who rape do so for power and control and because they feel entitled to the objects they think women are. Dh thinks we can dress less provocatively, stay in groups, don't get drunk, and make ourselves safer. I think this is victim blaming and rather sickening . I appreciate if you get drunk and can't look after yourself you have made yourself more vulnerable , but I don't accept that we should teach our dds his ethos. In fact I'm appalled. Should I be ? I'm genuinely reconsidering him as a person,I'm so shocked By this. What would you think? Do?