Scallops, I think many of them are total narcissists, seriously. They think they are different and special and the rest of us are fundamentally flawed.
In fact I used to get little lists left around the house for me of all the things I just needed to do 'to improve'. I was kicked in the stomach for inadvertently interrupting him on the phone once, for example, because it was an 'important work call' and once dragged across DD's bedroom with my arm behind my back because I had attached a lock to the door of our ensuite loo, as I was fed up of the housekeeper walking in on me (no privacy was ever allowed for me). I was shut up at dinner parties and told what a fool I had made of myself after we got home, This is how upmarket thugs operate in the home. Betcha any money NL is getting doses of this and it's being passed off as marital quarrelling because she can be 'difficult' and 'moody'. I bet she even believes this herself.
Then there is my friend, who lived next door to another friend and happened to share a make of baby alarm. Those houses cost a couple of mill. They heard her top lawyer DH over the baby alarm sometimes ranting aggressively at his wife. He never actually hit her, to their knowledge. But the verbal abuse was terrible. She had given her own career up to breed on demand for him as well. Nothing we could do, believe me.
It's really, really dark stuff.