Someone I know is working through a rape and they are struggling with the consent issue. I have pulled some stuff off the current thread to show her but a while back there were some really good links about the way that women are socially conditioned to be nice and polite and say yes to men and then we expect them to throw this off when they are about to be raped and that this is actually impossible for lots of women to do. Does anyone know this link? I have tried searching but it was a while a go it was posted and I can't find it.