Can you be a feminist housewife?

[wigglybeezer]

Can you be a feminist if you don't have a career but your DH does, especially if this situation has been going on for a long time (13 years in my case)?

I don't feel downtrodden by the way, merely a bit bored and lacking in choice ATM. I earn a small amount of money, so don't have to ask DH for everything but I'm wondering if my Granny (who was a hospital consultant) was a better feminist than me. I just found a photo of her and her pals at medical school where she has noted on the back that there were 18 female medical students out of 180!

dont sweat it lenin im not doing that links,proof,old threads unreasonable demands for concrete proof

SM do you actually read anyone else's posts?
No one wants to be paid. Everyone is giving you examples of how women who SAH are not simply maintaining their own families but actively benefitting their schools, communities, and society in general.

And some women and some men do NOT want 50:50 child care or working hours. Some of us are just fine and dandy exactly as we are, thank you very much!

do read back,gen up on the discussion about paying sahm a salary

From which the conversation has moved on, SM, no?
I certainly wouldn't ever want to see the state pay women to raise their own children.

no,carer allowance has an eligibility criteria,andf the carer provided must be approved by LA and be assessed by sw as providing regular and substantial amount care and the care given is monitored and expectation of participation in meeting,review and care planning. the carer is assessed. its a poor comparison

housewife are not currently assessed to be in receipt of benefits.cb was universal,now means tested

It often seems that going to work is seen as the feminist thing to do. I'm having to go back to work next month when DS2 is only 5 1/2 months old. I don't want to but have no choice if we are to keep the house and everyone fed and clothed. DH's industry is in decline generally and pay is frozen so there is no chance of me being a SAHM even though we are all happier when I'm not working (mat leave has been great). What's "feminist" and "freedom to choose" about that?

in most cases its family yes.and sw meet and assess the carer situation and claim

feminism doesnt guarantee right to sahm role DrC.economic circumstances and recession are determining your return to work.like most other families its the money that cuts it. your freedom of choice to chose sahm is balanced against ability to meet financial demands.and it is hard if it feels like a wrench to you

Dr Coconut, I agree.

Most women I know who work do so through need rather than choice.

Have you read the rest of the thread coconut?

I"m not sure anyone would argue that there's anything remotely feminist about being forced to go to paid work when you'd rather look after your children. That sounds more like late capitalism to me.

Do you think the role of the carer is valued as a result of carer's allowance though Lenin? Sadly I don't think it is.

there is a sw carers assessment undertaken to determine if regular and substantial care is provided, assess and cost any potential care package,meet all concerned

slightly different process for mental health and children

carers also undertake self assessment

It has, and it has had little impact on the status of that work. The amount involved is not enough for financial independence, and to roll it out as a universal benefit for all carers, including those of young children, would be a massive tax burden.

it would be a huge and unfair tax burden
i would also expect to be paid,certainly not fair to pay some womens for childcare but not all

lenin applications for carers allowance undergo a carer assessment.as a minimum to met carer,discuss care provided and frequency.