What about that submissive wife thing/book that seems to rear its head on here from time to time? That's pretty much the same thing for westernised secular women I think.
There is always a woman who comes on saying something along the lines of, "You can mock if you like, but it really does work - my DH is much more attentive and sensitive etc etc"
It always makes me want to say: yes - because you're doing everything his way - bet he won't be quite as attentive and sensitive when you disagree over something and stand your ground. What does that remind me of? Oh yes, an abusive relationship.
How to get your partners to be nice to you - do everything they ask.
Not an equal relationship is it.