I'm so pissed off!!!
Two (male) colleagues come over and started chatting to the guy that sits next to me about a new (female) colleague. My neighbour started by saying that she seemed nice, well qualified etc. But rather than engaging with that and keeping the conversation professional, the others started talking about the way she looked and her assumed sexual prowess.
- she is quite "plump"
- Agreed, she is very "curvaceous" (sp?)
- I bet she is good in bed
There were more, but I couldn't hear very well as they lowered their voices. I heard the word "sexual" amongst the mumblings.
It's not the first time this sort of thing has happened. A few months ago, another new female colleague was about to start work and came for a tour of the office. When she has left there was loads of "phwoars" etc, and I remember a couple of comments:
- She is MY new girl, nice isn't she?
- Aww, why do you get the nice looking one and I'm stuck with old .... downstairs?! (referencing older lady, late 50's)
Another time, I was questioned by the same moron colleague as above. The conversation went something like this:
Him - "Mrs UmYeah....oh, actually, are you a Mrs or a Miss?"
Me - "I'm a Ms"
Him - "So you aren't married then?"
Me - "Nope"
Him - "But you have a kid, right?"
Me - "Errr...yes"
Him - "That would never happen in .....(country) where I'm from!"
Him - "How does that work then?"
Me - "What?"
Him - "You not being married and having a kid?"
Me - "Do you need me to explain the process to you?! I feel sorry for your wife......."
I'm so fucking sick of all the comments and judgements!!!! It makes me wonder what they say about me when I'm not here, and that's not a nice feeling.
I'm also quite annoyed and ashamed of myself that I didn't stand up and question them this morning when they were talking about that poor woman. It's just so fricking awkward when people are senior to you, and you know you will just get looked at like a stereotypical "hysterical feminist" if you say you are unhappy.