Can I have some tips on explaining female masturbation to dd please

[LaurieFairyCake]

She knows what 'wanking' is because she's at secondary school and at primary they explained ejaculation. Ive explained blow jobs, anal sex and rape to her as they have all been mentioned in lessons.

I think there is very little said about female masturbation and the whole of sex talk in the playground is centred around boys masturbating.

I need a book or some tips please to start me off. I could just explain that women have orgasms too but it would be ME introducing the topic rather than on it being child led. All our conversations so far have been asked by her to clarify things.

I am of course outraged that more than 20 years after I was at school people still don't talk or joke about the female orgasm. It's still not part of general conversation.

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(#24) Stay silent until you?re about to orgasm ... then let yourself go. Your animalistic noises will drive him wild.

...or he'll jump out of his skin

I think the idea that women can have pleasure/orgasms without men is too much for most to handle. It strikes at something very deep and sensitive in men. Mind you, its not new. Havent archeologists found dildoes in Egypt.

My dd found out that touching herself felt nice a long time ago and hasn't forgotten since, so I've never really talked to her about it (except for the not in public conversations when she was tiny). ds on the other hand although he also used to fiddle when he was small stopped for some reason, and when I've talked to him about it he has been slightly shocked at the idea (he's 12). I think it's a harder conversation because it's more personal than most of the sex education chats, I guess because it is about the here and now rather than the possible future.

Hi all, Im not quite sure how to put this. Maybe its just me? Im 35 now and I have masturbated since i was 13(near enough every day-in work atleast once) i cant help it. Boys can do it or why cant we?

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I'm certainly disappointed to find that schools will teach about male masturbation but not mention female masturbation.

And I agree it is a feminist issue.

I've no advice on how to broach the subject though. Apart from 'When they covered masturbation in class did they just do male masturbation or did they cover female masturbation too?'

And I would contact the school and ask if it is covered.

As for the poster who talked about the question box. I think that it would be good if teacher pretended there was a Q every time instead of leaving it to chance.

Thought this was a very interesting read

I cannot imagine discussing masturbation technique with my dds! They are in their 20s and I guess have figured it out for themselves.
I really don't think they would appreciate tips from Mum on how to find their clitoris.
Too much for me personally, but if you have that kind of open relationship then go for it I suppose!

ZOMBIE THREAD (though I doubt much has changed in 3 years, sadly)

Boys are told they go blind or other terrible things will happen if they masturbate.

Why aren't girls shamed from masturbating like boys are?

because back in biblical times the men in charge didn't know enough to know that women masturbate? Or because women masturbating didn't throw seed on barren ground? They were already damned for binning an egg every month as a matter of course, and being so messy about it to boot!

Everyone knows woman masturbate. But for some reason masturbation is seen as "dirty" when boys do it and boys are told lies about terrible things that will happen if they touch themselves.

Female masturbation doesn't carry the same stigma and girls aren't told such lies. Rather the contrary, girls are often told masturbation is wonderful, not dirty and is just "pleasuring oneself".

Everyone?

hubawuvu wrote - "Female masturbation doesn't carry the same stigma and girls aren't told such lies"

A Google search for what girls have been told about masturbation will show that your belief is not an accurate description of the experience of many girls.

This is interesting as it's never something I've ever thought about.

I first 'played' when I was 11, which I feel a bit odd about because I know it's young.

I don't ever remember it being described to me. It's one of those things girls talked about at high school and they were all like 'eeeee I'd never do that' whilst each one of us were secretly thinking 'yep I do.'

I left school in 2009 by the way (I think) so not sure how much it'll have changed by then? Female masturbation was very taboo, I mean it was discussed and everyone knew about it, but girls who did it were known as 'dirty'.

This thread reminds me of the girl who used to masturbate next to me in primary school, in the classroom :( she really needed someone to explain to her what she was doing but not once did we ever get a lesson on it. We really should have.

If a boy did that in school he would be arrested and become a sex offender.

A girl does it and people turn a blind eye.

Poor menz not being allowed to wank at school.

"boys are told lies about terrible things that will happen if they touch themselves."

All boys? Everywhere? Or just those being brought up in strict religious households which, let's face it, tend to have various destructive ideas about female sexuality as well.

Huba, you know you're just talking utter shit now don't you. There is and always has been far more stigma around women masturbating than men, after all men wank because they 'need' sex, it's like a human right for them. Whereas, of course, only dirty slut women need sex and therefore only dirty sluts masturbate.

After all, not much porn about where men are sat alone wanking is there? However a woman sat bringing herself off is par for the course.

Do try and use your brain occasionally, it helps when seeing through bullshit.

Was anyone super thrown by the fact that yesterday was a Wednesday?

Were you looking up wanking and ended up on this thread? Or purposely bumping zombie threads from the same date to confuse?

Masturbation is such a private thing. I've never discussed it with other female friends. Actually, the only person I ever discussed it with in my whole life is my husband.

I suppose it's something some women are likely to do more spontaneously than others depending on how you are designed down there.

I don't know any books but I suppose that to explain that women, like men, have an organ that when rubbed, pressurised, touched brings about great pleasure that culminates in orgasm is enough for her to get the idea. The rest should be left to her and how curious she is about "practising".

I never ever talked about this with my mother. But then again, a different generation. I'm in my early forties.

I'm in my early 40s, I don't remember any talk about masturbation at school but Mum got me 'Have you started yet?' when we had the period talk and that definitely had a section about masturbation because that's what prompted me to try it. Mum went to an all girls school where she received no sex education and so she was determined to make sure we knew everything we needed to and not ban anything, I read some very dodgy erotica as a teenager but was always allowed to (Mums school had a banned literature list). I remembered being very shocked that my two flatmates claimed not to masturbate (one said she'd never orgasmed) when I was 22. And I ha another flatmate who claimed to read the introductions to the chapters in my Nancy Friday book but not the fantasies. I suddenly felt vey guilty that certain pages fell open more than others...