"The day you see a group of women lining up naked masturbating furiously because they've been offered the chance to abuse another person for free, is the day I'll join the rest of the porn scum on Saturn."
For what it's worth, I think this is mostly a silly comment!
However: -
Some women enjoy porn. Many woman are not 'allowed' or don't allow themselves to enjoy porn (read, for example, Nancy Friday). Those who enjoy it probably don't ask too many questions concerning the precise circumstances of its production, any more than the increasing numbers of women profiting from it ask too many questions. Disassociation at each stage!
Female sexuality is, typically, different to men's, however, these things are on a spectrum. I've had sexual relations with women whose interests, tastes and capacity for disassociation when having sex with a real person (me!) have, quite frankly, been frightening (although I'm sure that none of you nice MN ladies with your mumsy, nurturing, good and sensitive natures are like that, lol)! However, not all women use their sexuality in a benign, enlightened and kindly manner for the greater good of their small province of humanity. For some it's about direct gratification; for more, about the gratification of other needs - the use of sexuality instrumentally. Men and women typically disassociate in different ways. It's to do with upbringing, identity, inheritance, cultural and imaginative resources, etc - all, no doubt, reflecting and refracting biological imperatives to some extent. Some is to do with morality. Love fits in somewhere too. Men and women are the joint authors and custodians of this inheritance. It's a kind of dispensation. It's complicated, but that's what it is. In any event, do not wish for the day when you see a group of women lining up naked masturbating furiously in the circumstances described. It may come. What women allow themselves today is very different to what they allowed themselves 30 years ago. Who knows what will happen 30 years hence. I do not see less disassociation over time - I see more.
Although I'm a man and have been accused of being a pornographer, rapist, paedophile, a prick and everything else on this forum, I have a son who will not be like Max Hardcore and a daughter who will not be like Felicity. I cannot equip them to protect themselves if they are trapped in a situation where they are overwhelmed by physical force and cannot fight their way out or find another means of escape. However, such situations are rare. Felicity, for all the trembling chins and expressions of admiration for her bravery in adversity and satisfaction that Max Hardcore is in prison, will probably have a daughter like Felicity. She is a tragic and compromised individual. I haven't read much in posts here from women about how to make their daughters less tragic and compromised. The only solution, it seems, is to send certain pornographers to Saturn
Except, you cannot send people to Saturn. That is a fantasy and another form of disassociation. It's better to understand the problems and find solutions here on earth because that is where the problem is made. Ranting about it, fixing your eyes on only that which you wish to see and expressing shock and outrage is also form of disassociation and does not help. Indeed, it contributes to the problem. In a sense, it is the problem.