SaF oh absolutely. In an evolved society it's the mother-baby that is the central unit and everyone else are helpers. I try to enact this in my life somewhat, which is why I decided to become a SAHM. SAHMing has its own problems (economic dependancy) but there is no question that my primary identity is as a mother not a wife, and DH supports this role (I co-slept with the baby, while DH slept separately for some time after the birth so we could get maximum sleep, but also to give me space, that sort of thing)
I've got a book I haven't read yet called "The Neutered Mother, The Sexual Family and other twentieth century tragedies" by Martha Fineman. Here's the blurb:
"Unlike other work focusing on similar themes, The Neutered MOther argues that it is the nurturing tie between mother and child, and not the sexual bond between husband and wife, that should be protected and subsidized as the center of society's concern for the "family" "
Looks interesting. I'll let you know 
Blackduck yes she argues that marriages work more for women than men, but I guess I'm thinking about how the whole show would fall apart if we lived in a matriarchy>
and that this is why such brutal and violent measures against women are deployed to keep the patriarchal status quo: in medicine, in the judicial system (women go to jail for a long time for killing an abuser but men get let off with a few years for killing their wives), rape culture, keeping women poor. IT's really a brutal regime.
Of course, women would still love men, but then it really would be their choice to do so... but the patriarchy doesn't want to leave anything to chance.