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Breast cancer worries tiny lump

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Bex4567 · 02/05/2025 18:21

Trigger warning ........breast cancer

Hi im hoping someone can help me as im spiralling...
Ive had breast cancer worries for a while i have just had a baby shes 13 weeks old..

I deceloped a small area on my breast that become sore and red..having bad anxiety i jumped straight to breasr cancer but my docter isnt concerned.i then felt a lump in the nipple but this must have popped instantly as no longer there.

I then kept looking at my breast and noticed my right breast by my nipple looks indented...
Ive been examined by 4 differnet docters all who have felt the area and felt no areas of concern.ivw been in that much of a panic they have referred me to the breasr cljnic for reassurance..one saying there 99 percent sure it isnt cancer.

However now when i hold my breast and use 1 finger to feel around in that area i can feel a small tiny like dot which is harder than the surrounding area its tiny about size of a grain of rice but ive gone into turmoul and now fear its that small no docters can feel..i no i shouldnt examan myself with 1 finger but ive found it now and cant stop ...
My docrer said i will feel lumps and bumps if i feel like this and there only referring me to reassure me as ive been examined by about 4 docters in a week

Please help me i think im dying i havnt eaten for 4 days

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Fluffyunicorn1 · 31/05/2025 12:48

Bex4567 · 31/05/2025 12:30

Ultrasound im 39

I have duct ectasia it was diagnosed by ultrasound after I had some discharge in my left nipple. Like you I have health anxiety as well and battle with my brain to trust the doctors. If you look into duct ectasia it can cause things like discharge, lumps, inverted nipple amongst other things but is completely benign. I spiralled a bit after the appointment because my health anxiety told me they missed something. Almost 3 years later and I still have discharge occasionally but nothing else has changed. I know now that they know what they are doing. The reason they tell you to examine yourself with flat fingers is because if you go poking you will feel milk ducts, fat, muscle etc and mistake these for abnormal lumps. You will also make yourself sore from poking and prodding

Bex4567 · 31/05/2025 13:48

I unserstand what your saying and thankyou its just scary coz its tiny and like a poppy seed which is worrying me it to deep to be seen on uktrasound.im not sure how deep down they can see

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TheFormidableMrsC · 31/05/2025 14:09

Bex4567 · 31/05/2025 13:48

I unserstand what your saying and thankyou its just scary coz its tiny and like a poppy seed which is worrying me it to deep to be seen on uktrasound.im not sure how deep down they can see

That’s not how it works. It is for the whole breast. I don’t think anything anybody is going to say to you is going to make a difference unfortunately. You’re prodding yourself which you’re not supposed to do. I think it’s largely in your head because of the anxiety. That is what you need treatment for. I’ve had breast cancer and you most definitely have not. All boobs have lumpy bits at one time or another. I’ve got several fibroadenomas that I’ve had for years. A poppy seed lump is exceedingly unlikely. They’ve told you what you’ve got and I really think you need to take some advice about getting help for your mental health.

Bex4567 · 31/05/2025 14:31

TheFormidableMrsC · 31/05/2025 14:09

That’s not how it works. It is for the whole breast. I don’t think anything anybody is going to say to you is going to make a difference unfortunately. You’re prodding yourself which you’re not supposed to do. I think it’s largely in your head because of the anxiety. That is what you need treatment for. I’ve had breast cancer and you most definitely have not. All boobs have lumpy bits at one time or another. I’ve got several fibroadenomas that I’ve had for years. A poppy seed lump is exceedingly unlikely. They’ve told you what you’ve got and I really think you need to take some advice about getting help for your mental health.

Thats not strue they inky scan part of brest which i was concerned about npt whole brrast

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Bex4567 · 31/05/2025 15:03

That wqs meant to say the nurse women circled the airer i wad concerned abiut ans scanned that i dont no how deep they go ..iwas worried aswell as he was very quick i wasnt in there 10 mins so dont no it was done properly

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TheFormidableMrsC · 31/05/2025 15:42

Bex4567 · 31/05/2025 14:31

Thats not strue they inky scan part of brest which i was concerned about npt whole brrast

I’ve had breast cancer and I can tell you that they scanned the entirety of both my breasts and my armpits to check my nodes. As I said, nothing is going to reassure you. You just want somebody to tell you you’ve got cancer 🤷🏻‍♀️

TheFormidableMrsC · 31/05/2025 15:42

Bex4567 · 31/05/2025 15:03

That wqs meant to say the nurse women circled the airer i wad concerned abiut ans scanned that i dont no how deep they go ..iwas worried aswell as he was very quick i wasnt in there 10 mins so dont no it was done properly

For goodness sake, you really are unwell and need to seek help for that.

MinnieMountain · 31/05/2025 16:15

OP won’t listen though @TheFormidableMrsC . I’m only trying to get through to her that she has health anxiety rather than breast cancer as I’m on a long train journey with little to do. One might almost think she is enjoying the attention.

TheFormidableMrsC · 31/05/2025 16:21

MinnieMountain · 31/05/2025 16:15

OP won’t listen though @TheFormidableMrsC . I’m only trying to get through to her that she has health anxiety rather than breast cancer as I’m on a long train journey with little to do. One might almost think she is enjoying the attention.

Indeed. I can’t think of anything further I can say that would be useful. I don’t think she’d believe it even if she paid for a mammo and an ultrasound that she considers long enough. I hope she finds the strength to visit her GP and get treatment for her anxiety before it ruins her and her children’s lives.

Bex4567 · 31/05/2025 16:26

TheFormidableMrsC · 31/05/2025 15:42

I’ve had breast cancer and I can tell you that they scanned the entirety of both my breasts and my armpits to check my nodes. As I said, nothing is going to reassure you. You just want somebody to tell you you’ve got cancer 🤷🏻‍♀️

They didnt scam my whole breast only the area. I even asked consultsnt why they didnt do whole breast or nodes and she said ultrasound only doea pecific areas....

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TheFormidableMrsC · 31/05/2025 16:35

Bex4567 · 31/05/2025 16:26

They didnt scam my whole breast only the area. I even asked consultsnt why they didnt do whole breast or nodes and she said ultrasound only doea pecific areas....

It doesn’t matter what I say. It doesn’t matter what anybody says, even those of us who have had fucking breast cancer! I don’t know what you want. Pay for private and tell them they’ve got it wrong too. Or do the sensible thing and admit your mental health is very poor and seek treatment.

Bex4567 · 31/05/2025 16:38

Ig they do an area hoe much shows up on scan only a small bit or large

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Bex4567 · 31/05/2025 18:10

TheFormidableMrsC · 31/05/2025 16:35

It doesn’t matter what I say. It doesn’t matter what anybody says, even those of us who have had fucking breast cancer! I don’t know what you want. Pay for private and tell them they’ve got it wrong too. Or do the sensible thing and admit your mental health is very poor and seek treatment.

I understand what your sayjng and im sorry if your affended but when i cam clearly feel something in my breast thats small amd hard its very hard ..i dont no why the ultraskund hasnt picked it up surely it cant be normal tissue

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MinnieMountain · 31/05/2025 19:29

I don’t care if this gets deleted- YOU DON’T HAVE BREAST CANCER YOU FUCKING IDIOT. Stop obsessing. Your poor family.

TheFormidableMrsC · 31/05/2025 19:51

Bex4567 · 31/05/2025 18:10

I understand what your sayjng and im sorry if your affended but when i cam clearly feel something in my breast thats small amd hard its very hard ..i dont no why the ultraskund hasnt picked it up surely it cant be normal tissue

The ultrasound didn’t pick up cancer because it’s NOT THERE. If it was, it would have done. I feel you’re being wilfully obtuse. I’m out, you’re beyond help.

TheFormidableMrsC · 31/05/2025 19:52

MinnieMountain · 31/05/2025 19:29

I don’t care if this gets deleted- YOU DON’T HAVE BREAST CANCER YOU FUCKING IDIOT. Stop obsessing. Your poor family.

I agree! It’s also really insulting to us who have been through this. I accept that there is a mental health issue but that is being ignored so you can’t help somebody like this. She won’t be happy until she’s told she’s got breast cancer.

Bex4567 · 31/05/2025 20:56

MinnieMountain · 31/05/2025 19:29

I don’t care if this gets deleted- YOU DON’T HAVE BREAST CANCER YOU FUCKING IDIOT. Stop obsessing. Your poor family.

Thankyou

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Bex4567 · 31/05/2025 21:07

TheFormidableMrsC · 31/05/2025 19:51

The ultrasound didn’t pick up cancer because it’s NOT THERE. If it was, it would have done. I feel you’re being wilfully obtuse. I’m out, you’re beyond help.

All im sayimg is they dont scan the whole breqst only area i told em about and i dont no how wide the scan goes

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Knittedfairies2 · 31/05/2025 21:09

Stop prodding and poking yourself. If you don't believe what the professionals have told you, there's nothing anyone here can tell you.

zizza · 31/05/2025 21:16

Save up and pay for an MRI

TheFormidableMrsC · 31/05/2025 21:36

zizza · 31/05/2025 21:16

Save up and pay for an MRI

She’ll still argue it’s wrong.

MrsMontyD · 31/05/2025 21:47

I’ve also had breast cancer, the ultrasound would pick up any problems, any areas of concern they’d have done a biopsy there and then. You’ve had a diagnosis, they’ve told you what’s wrong. I agree you need to see someone urgently about your health anxiety.

ncduetooutingsituation · 31/05/2025 23:02

My breast cancer was diagnosed via ultrasound, following a routine mammogram. It was right inside my breast, and couldn’t be felt externally. The radiographer tried after seeing it herself.
I had surgery deep inside the breast to remove it, and it was reconstructed.
I am fine, and the treatment was fast, and effective.

Ultrasound is very effective in the diagnosis of cancer that hasn’t been identified by observing a lump.
You should be very reassured after the procedure.

In the months after pregnancy the breast tissue feels very different, due to hormonal changes. You were right to flag something that felt abnormal to you, and investigations have been concluded.

You should seek a therapist for your anxiety over this.

loobylou10 · 31/05/2025 23:18

what have i just read? Seriously OP, you need to seek help for your anxiety. You don’t have cancer, the ‘hard’ thing you can feel is breast tissue, it takes many forms. What exactly are you wanting here? What will make you stop this obsessing?

TheFormidableMrsC · 31/05/2025 23:45

loobylou10 · 31/05/2025 23:18

what have i just read? Seriously OP, you need to seek help for your anxiety. You don’t have cancer, the ‘hard’ thing you can feel is breast tissue, it takes many forms. What exactly are you wanting here? What will make you stop this obsessing?

It won’t. The most frustrating thread I’ve ever read. She will do the square root of fuck all for her anxiety while continuing to insist she’s terminally ill with an imaginary cancer that she believes wasn’t picked up by ultrasound. Despite the many women, including me, who have been in the situation of ultrasound where they say “we need to biopsy” and subsequently discovering that we do have cancer, the OP insists that they missed her imaginary tumour that has varied in description from a shard of glass, to a salt grain,
to a poppy seed. OP does not accept that if she was terminally ill, her teeny tiny primary tumour would be enormous by now and she’d be extremely ill. She is not interested in anything other than somebody telling her she has cancer. I had a MIL like this. Utterly draining. OP needs to be seen by somebody to deal with her health anxiety but she won’t and has ignored every suggestion that she addresses this.

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