High weight is destroying my life

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It's my first time posting please go Easy on me , basically as the title says my weight is destroying my life , I have gained 6 stone since having my daughter, I'm a mess , my body aches , I can hardly walk as even 5 or 6 steps leaves me with lower back pain and breathlessness , every bone in my body ache and I constantly feel tired and run down
For context I finally bit the bullet and weighed myself at the GP on Friday , I am 29 stones in weight I am disgusted to say
My life is a misery , I cannot run round after my child , can't go anywhere without thinking about the seating, recently went to a concert , I always have to book the Isle seats or its a no go
The main issue for me at the moment is My Job , I work full time and worked at home all through covid in an office Job , the last two months we have been back office based and its hell (I work for NHS)
I cannot park my vehicle anywhere near the building I work in meaning even the relatively short walk from my car to the office is is leaving me dizzy and sick, I'm tired all the time , even if a colleague suggests going the shop at lunch time for a walk or fresh air I always make an excuse as I can't face going because I know I can't manage it, there is some suggestion at work also that we will be taking on responsibilities that involve a 30 min walk each day , due to my sheer size I simply cannot do this , I don't know what to do , I can't afford not to work
Days out with family I'm constantly having to sit down , DH Is always the one running round after our child at the park
It's getting to the point that I can't physically manage at all , I'm joining slimming world , DH thinks I should go off sick at work for 6 months and get myself better and fitter , luckily I do get sick pay , would a GP sign me off for this? I feel like I'd be better off dead than living like this and only have myself to blame , my mood is rock bottom.
I spoke to the GP about weight loss surgery

OP, ignore any comments recommending low carb, soup diets, or any diets at all.

You're very obese - you don't have to remain this way though. But until you pinpoint "why" nothing will fix this long term. Weightloss surgery is a huge decision that shouldn't be taken lightly unless you really exhaust all options.

Do you emotionally eat? Binge eat? Are you just very clueless about nutrition?

The good news is, at your weight small changes will help you drop the weight fast. If exercising is too much right now, don't - you don't need movement to lose weight (but adding it gradually as you can will be great for your health overall).

Depending on what your diet is like, you can do so many things:

• cut out fizzy drinks or at least reduce heavily
• cut out alcohol, or at least reduce heavily
• cut out 1 snack a day if you're snacking frequently

Etc. It's about making sustainable changes now so you don't yo-yo and end up in the same place. You can absolutely do this as long as you are patient, dig deep to understand why and make small changes, prepared to change your lifestyle forever.

The Fast 800 is a nonsense fad and I really wish people stopped recommending it.

It does pact your metabolism, because eating below your BMR leads to more muscle degradation than necessary - when you lose weight you lose fat and muscle. Less muscle mass leads to many things, including a lower TDEE/BMR due to the fact that muscle is the key component in your body requiring energy, not fat.

FFS the Fast800 is absolutely not a fad diet. It's based on very solid science, particularly from the University of Newcastle and the work of Professor Roy Taylor.

Genuine question, how does Ozempic help anyone lose weight sustainably?

How are you going to not pile the weight back on if you lost it without making lifestyle changes? Your appetite comes back when you get off Ozempic/Saxenda so what do you do then? Magically just change your eating overnight?

Scientific research is often contradictory. Many dietitians and medical professionals are heavily against diets like the Fast800 and it's very much for a reason.

I agree it is supported by Diabetes UK and a lot of the people on the forum have followed the Newcastle diet and are now in remission, some of them have been in remission for 20 years (you dont stay on it for 20 years, but it helps to follow it for 12 weeks) then introduce low carb healthy food and it will be much easier x

Slow and steady weight loss. Don’t set mad goals. Just cut out a bit and plan to eat things you love but which aren’t massively fattening. This is something you can sort out. Don’t beat yourself up.

@Miajk

Yes saxenda does help you long term when you come off it

You have had a reset using normal everyday foods. No dodging/avoiding carbs. I have maintained my weight while off all meds. I don't eat because it's lunchtime now, I eat because I feel physically ready to. So it's for the right reasons and I don't overeat

Having said that I did lose a good few stone on a @BIWI low carb thread a few years ago

Unfortunately I could not sustain that for 2 reasons. 1/ food cost and 2/ practicalities when eating out/with others/socially. But it did work well as I wanted weight loss to train for a marathon, and her boot camps ( threads here on mn) got me to the finish line a healthy weight

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Such a supportive thread.

Good luck OP, some great advice on here. You're so brave to make the decision to address it and for all the right reasons.

I'm so sad to hear that people have commented on your appearance. There's a lot of "fatphobia" out there and it's awful, my parents included - is like they can't help commenting when it's none of their business, and they have no idea what is going on for others. It's not kind or helpful, please try to see that it says more about them than you.

Best of luck, keep posting, you'll be supported here

How do I get hold of this please?

Right OP let’s get positive. The fact you are feeling this way is a good thing make this your rock bottom. Only way is up or should I say down on the scales!
The worst thing about being overweight is that not only do we feel crap, hate looking in mirrors, get judged, it’s easier to put on weight than it is to lose it! We need food to survive so diets are constantly thinking about food to meal plan/count points.
I’m not sitting here from my goal weight telling you it’s easy, far from it but I tell you this when you get on it and stick to it you will feel good. More energy off the bat. This is what angers me the most when I go off the rails it’s always so much better when I give it 100%
The weight loss surgery, I have been there and got a credit card to pay for it. After my consultation I decided no it was too risky and I wasn’t going to risk it for my DD.
Set yourself small achievable targets. This week walk up and down the hall 5 times in a row each day. Next week make it 6 and so on until you can confidently walk around the block.
Slimming World is brilliant when done properly and the food is so good and filling. Do what your DH said get signed off, say stress or anxiety. Spend the time focussing on you. Go to sw club and stay at the meetings, this is a must for success. Do your daily targets. Batch cook and be prepared. The fakeaway recipes are great for the weekend.
If you want a partner in crime send me a DM because I really need to get back on it. As soon as I read your posts I wanted to send you support and love! It’s just shit to feel that way. Writing this I realise this is all the things I need to do too to start fresh. Best of luck, you can do it x

@Queenie6655 If your BMI is high enough or you are diabetic you may have luck getting it prescribed. If not you have to pay for it privately (which is what I did). I get mine from Boots or Superdrug.

Or Asda!

Asda doctor online. They look after you. It's a proper doctor and they do inform your gp too.

Well done for getting out for walk , take it step step day by day or else you will get overwhelmed.

Thank you

I didn’t follow Fast 800 to the letter but I did cook from their recipes and they were amazing. High protein, high good fat, low carb. That’s been the biggest reason for my loss imo, that and the intermittent fasting.

And to answer a previous question, I didn’t put weight on when I stopped taking Saxenda. I kept losing. The appetite suppression is a side effect, it doesn’t last forever. What the medication does is longer term than that. You feel fuller for longer, even when you’re no longer taking it, and you become sated more quickly.

But that’s the point, you don’t. They trigger you into feeling hunger and sugar cravings are real caused by sugar . Once they are out of your system you don’t crave them.

Also Fast 800 is quite strict and focused on health - getting your insulin levels stable. There’s none of that constantly thinking about food or points or fat and sugar like other diets . The opposite, you sort of forget about food. Which as a greedy emotional eater is a blessed relief.

How much energy and muscle does it take to cart 29 stone around everyday? I think Ops muscles will be fine.

Yes, muscles will be fine, and bone density too. My sister has always been very slim and has the beginning of osteoporosis (osteopenia I think). Sometimes being a higher weight can help other areas but not to a high extreme.

Keep on focussing on being healthy. I am doing the same so please PM me if you need any support or just to chat when you are struggling.

Today I had porridge and berries for breakfast, with a benecol drink, and at lunch turkey chilli concarne from the Waitrose Thrive range with added veg. I am testing my blood sugar levels as not meant to have too many carbs but seem to be tolerating the rice so far

x

@ThatGirlInACountrySong because wheat has been so genetically modified it’s now classed as processed crap along with dolmio and ice cream.

you can eat it of course but it shouldn’t be a staple part of your diet. Just like you can have cake just not every day.

Can You show me where it's 'classed' as that....and who is classing it?

Op, many people have already covered any advice I would give you. Think about your mental health too. Do nice things for yourself, exercise will help your mood and making it part of your routine now will help down the line when you start to lose and can do a bit more. Best of luck. You can do this.

Sorry OP to derail your thread but reading all of this has been really interesting to me and highlights why ( I think ) there is so much conflicting information , differing opinions and utter confusion re what works well , what's advisable , what suits our body type and lifestyle .. it seems so simple to reduce calories , although many moons ago at WW I worked out that I could have a crisp sandwich and a fudge for my daily intake - which is obviously really stupid and unhealthy

For those of us who struggle with weight and think we are reasonably clued up .. I'm not sure if I should IF with keto on a red day , or pay SW to manage unlimited pasta rice potatoes, find my blood type or reduce my cals to 800 and run fast !!! I don't want to inject unnatural drugs into my body or pay a surgeon to cut me open , I want to eat healthily , feel satisfied , look better , feel fitter and the multiple variations of this is absolutely mind blowing !

Sorry , rant over

How has your day been OP , any small gains ?