Child in the street called me fat

[GoldenDogs]

I was walking home just now and a child across the street stopped and pointed to his mum and said “she’s so fat!” Yes I am at a size 18 which is something I’m working on but to have a random child point it out has really upset me. I didn’t want to use jabs and wanted to do it myself but this has really knocked me so off to order some! little to no apology from the mum. Where is the best place to order from, where does every He else get them? and any other tips?

Don't feel pressured into because of a thoughtless comment from a child. You can still do it your way if you want to.

Kids say all kinds of stupid things - my son mentions my fat tummy (I'm not at all, I'm a size 8-10 after WLI) but it's squishy and it's a descriptive word which he hears me use about myself. I am teaching him not to use it with others... but my other DS once saw a man with dwarfism when we were walking in the park once and shouted 'look at that tiny man' and I was mortified, I don't think he heard as he was far away but even so. Children often have no filter. And are bloody rude.

That said, WLI were a great tool for me. I ordered via MedExpress and they were fine but I don't think they are the best for maintenance. I've stopped now but if I was looking for somewhere for long term I'd probably look at Oushk or Pharmulous.

Kids are unfortunately truthful and say things withiut the filters we learn as adults :(

The mum should explain that we shouldn't comment on peoples bodies, hopefully she will have that conversation with the kid.

If you want to lose weight maybe its the kick up the bum you need. If you don't want to, ignore the little gobshite.

I do want to lose weight but this has definitely given me a kick as it was very unexpected! Wasn’t even on the same side of the road as them, I know kids say unfiltered things but that’s usually when you have some kind of interaction with them. Can you take it as a weight loss boost or does it need to be used the whole time? I’ve had a look and it’s very expensive

Haha, my 5-year-old niece was proudly spelling out words and using them in a sentence, and sang me a song about how I was F. A. T. fat. Much as I was tempted to respond with a T.W.A.T. song back, I did have to laugh at her total innocence of the crushing insult she dealt me.

Kids are brutal, and they have no idea 😁

I’m sorry this happened to you. MJ has been great for me but for the vast majority of people it’s a drug for life so think about it carefully before you start.

No once you start, you'll have to stay on it for a while. Check your BMI and see if you could get it on the NHS?

I mean the first 2.5mg pen can be bought for £104 from a few pharmacies. There is also a 5th dose you can get out of the pen. So £104 for 5 weeks. Thats £20 per week.

You really don't spend £20 a week on chocolate/alcohol/takeaways/crisps etc? You won't want them on MJ so thats where your jab money comes from.

You can switch provider each pen to the cheapest one to keep the cost down with welcome/first time client codes.

Only go through providers on monj.co.uk and youll be grand.

You know you are fat. Kids say what they see. If the kid was young and comes from a slim family he is pointing out an interesting or surprising difference he sees. I had to have words with my kids when they have expressed such surprise or amazement about seeing someone who has a physical feature they have not seen before. Its anormal part of a child experiencing the world.

Do what you think is best for you, but don't take on board a kids' observation.

I think the Mum was probably highly embarrassed. It would have been more soul destroying for you had she had also shouted ‘Sorry!’ Across the street.

Get the jabs. It’ll be the quickest, most effective way to shift it.

I don’t think I’m the first fat person they’ve ever seen.

You would have been in shock at hearing this but the best policy is to say something along the lines of 'I may be fat, but at least I can lose weight. You will always be a poorly raised, bad mannered little shit'.

Then watch his feckless mother's face fall.

Once we were waiting in the chippy and an extremely large man came in (he must have been 25st+) and made a very long order (could have been for multiple people of course!)

My young son said, very loudly, 'Mum, I don't think he needs all that chippy, does he?'

I was absolutely mortified, apologised and waited in the car for our order. I told him it was rude to comment on the mans order but as a child and ASD he found his comment very factual.

It goes up to £300+ depending on the dose? I guess you have to up the doses to have an effect, I don’t think I could afford £300 a month so that’s why I was wondering if you can use them as a kick start for a few months

I never went above 5mg and lost 5stone over about 10 months.

I never went above 5mg.

It won't work as a kickstart though, not unless you radically change your diet and exercise. You have to do the hard work.

I’d rather pay privately I think, don’t want to wait weeks and weeks for it and I looked into it and it said you would require counselling and to see a psychologist. Think I’d rather just buy it online

Oh really that’s amazing! Thank you

Don't let the comment of a child be the thing that makes you take a decision about whether or not to use a prescription-only medication for obesity! It sounds like you don't know much about how they work, so if you do want to pursue that route do a lot of reading around it first so you know what you are signing up for. You won't be eligible for them on the NHS. For Mounjaro on the NHS via your GP you need a BMI of 40 or higher, plus 4 specific weight related health conditions. Wegovy is occasionally prescribed for those referred to specialist weight management after other interventions have been worked through and failed.

The child was rude for whatever reason, the Mum should have been profusely apologising. It's a crap experience, and I have been there myself. It'll take a bit of time for the shock and upset to fade.

It wouldnt be weeks
My friend has just been prescribed NHS jabs and she had been on the waiting list 2 years for WL services. Her BMI is 40+ and she has the accompanying addition issues needed to qualify.

Shes under weightloss management and has to have weekly video appointments and weigh ins and had to attend 2 courses where they basically told her an apple is a better snack than a snickers!

I'd be surprised at a size 18 if OP's BMI was high enough to qualify on NHS unless she's 4ft something. I was a 14-16 and my BMI was 31.

@GoldenDogs for every person who lost all their weight on the lower doses there will be people who have needed to move to the higher doses. You can't predict in advance what kind of response you as an individual would have. It's best to budget for the higher doses, just in case. At least to have considered whether that's possible for you.

If it’s any consolation, I can remember telling my nephew not to annoy the man who was lifeguard at the pool and my nephew loudly informing me he it was a woman because he had a large Afro and a blingy earring. In fact, my nephew did this quite frequently and also loudly insisted a woman was a man because she had short hair. They are not the best at judging things, my nephew obviously used hairstyle alone to determine gender, and was oblivious to the person’s physique.

How old was the kid?

I'm sorry you went through this op. Yes, kids do say tactless things, but they are growing up in a world where it's encouraged on tiktok for example so it may be becoming more common. (There's a disgusting trend, I believe, with adults fat-shaming women and film their reactions.)

You can use this incident to help you to exercise more, eat healthier and maybe try the jabs if you can afford them, but let it be your choice to benefit your health and your life.

Best of luck.

Please don’t let this upset you - “out of the mouths of babes” etc, and the mum was probably embarrassed.

By all means try the WLI if you need a kick-start but remember, unless you fundamentally address your eating habits it is not going to work long term.

I expect you know what you need to do. What works for many is intermittent fasting and a healthy Mediterranean diet based on lots of vegetables, moderate amounts of lean protein and small quantities of complex carbs, healthy fats and dairy. Little or no UPF, refined carbs and sugar.

Useful resources:
The Fast 800 by Dr Michael Moseley
Dr Becky Gillaspy’s short videos on YouTube
The Blood Sugar Solution by Dr Mark Hyman