Child in the street called me fat

[GoldenDogs]

I was walking home just now and a child across the street stopped and pointed to his mum and said “she’s so fat!” Yes I am at a size 18 which is something I’m working on but to have a random child point it out has really upset me. I didn’t want to use jabs and wanted to do it myself but this has really knocked me so off to order some! little to no apology from the mum. Where is the best place to order from, where does every He else get them? and any other tips?

I remember when dd was 3 her saying that an old lady was old. I explained to her out of earshot it might make the lady sad. When kids are still making personal comments when they're older it can be because they have lazy parents who bring them up badly or parents who are rude/a bit thick themselves so set a bad example or because the child has SEN and finding it harder to get the hang of social skills.

Sorry to hear this - I would have given the mum a hard stare.
I've had a loudmouth teenager make a deliberately loud, rude comment about me to her sidekick. Not about my weight, but something I'm well aware of and can't do anything about. Not worth retaliating.

Please don't rush to weightless jabs.

Young children say what they see, often with horribly embarrassing results for their parents 😳 ( my sister was the queen of this)
Maybe use it as a kick start to get on the treadmill and start losing weight

A little extreme.

The kid could have easily shouted 'That man is so tall!/that lady has blue hair/ that man has a funny mustache'

Kids don't understand insecurities and boundaries the same as adults. Maybe its the first time the kid ever commented like that so the mum hasnt had the opportunity beforehand to talk about how it might make someone feel. Maybe the mum was mortified and just wanted to get away.
Maybe the kid is ND.

Small children can be blunt and point out any differences eg someone being bald, having big ears or a large nose. Most people probably already know that they have these features.

I’m sorry that happened, it must have been very upsetting.

injections might be the right thing for you, what else have you tried to lose weight? Eating in a calorie deficit and doing some weight and cardio based exercises may also be right for you.

WLI will help and make it easier for you to make the changes you need to to be healthier and lose weight. But for it to be successful it is all about changing habits and committing to those for life.

You could try a few weeks of tracking your intake and looking for patterns in your eating to try and make small sustainable changes. It could be portion sizes, emotional eating, mindless eating of high calorie foods or it could be that you’ve just been eating a few hundred extra calories a day for twenty years and it’s slowly crept up.

Finding good coping strategies and unpicking what has got you to obesity is really, really important.

Spend two weeks weighing and measuring everything you consume, religiously and go from there.

Some people are able to lose weight on 2.5mg and some people don’t really start losing until they’re in higher doses. In hindsight I went up the doses much quicker than I needed to. I made good progress on 2.5 and it helped me make changes straight away. The nausea, diarrhoea and fatigue were very tough going for the first month or so. They would ease over the week though.

I’ve lost 6st and intend to keep taking Mounjaro for as long as I humanly can. I start August 2024 and so I’ve spent a lot of money on it. I went up to 15 for only a couple of weeks and I’ve now tapered down to 10 with a view to very very slowly tapering to 2.5.

Make conscious choices, do your research and don’t take one child’s comment to heart.

I think if you said this, you would just prove that you were a poorly raised mannerless big shit.

You certainly would not be holding the high ground as an adult verbally bullying a small child.

Yes, good advice. Your (OP) response sounds quite knee-jerk and I would take some time to reflect on your current diet and lifestyle habits, do plenty of reading and make a plan. Tim Spector has a series of C4 at the moment called What Not to Eat which is quite insightful as well as the resources mentioned above.

I didn't have to wait long for it - nurse just said to me at one appointment with my diabetes and high blood sugar, shall we try mounjaro? then it was all ordered within a week and started promptly. I haven't had to see a psychologist either.

@Isobel201 is that because you are being offered it as a diabetic rather than as a bariatric patient? I think it’s different pathways so the prescribing criteria will be different.

Just a child. Still learning. Ignore.

How you feel about your weight is a different matter and I am so sorry you are feeling upset. I had a similiar comment one summer from an adult and it can cut deep.

After decades of yoyo dieting and doing it the "right way" I started WLI last winter and this summer wore size 10 shorts for the first time in 40 years. The cost is the cost but I buy less food, less snacks, less takeaway coffee and less "cheering myself up" treats like make up and clothes.

Less appetite for food and also for other stuff means I am not out of pocket at the end of the month as I expected.

It is lifechanging for me, my health is the best its ever been so I am on it for life.

Being prescribed it as a T2 diabetic with uncontrolled blood sugar is a completely different pathway to being prescribed WLI on the NHS solely for weight loss. The OP cannot access the process for prescribing to a T2 diabetic with poor blood sugar control, as she is not T2 diabetic (I assume).

@SilenceInside ah right yeah I see.

For whatever reason he found it notable. Maybe at nursery/ school they had been talking about healthy eating. I was in a reception class where the teacher said ' don't eat too many doughnuts or you'll get fat' . Maybe something like that happened and it brought the issue to his mind and the next day he saw you. For whatever reason it was notable to him, on that day. He said ' she's fat' , not 'you're fat', so in no interpretation was he meaning to be rude or mean to you.

The main point is, take your next actions based on what you feel about yourself, not what a small child said.

I'm sorry you went through this but try not to let it get to you...not sure of the age of the child but hopefully parent was suitably embarrassed and talked to them about it afterwards.
I once got a football kicked at me deliberately when I was out running by a group of boys approx age 8-10...the ringleader shouted 'running isn't doing you much good you fat bitch' - I was a size 10 😕I could only dream of being that size right now 😂honestly felt like rattling the ball off his head but decided to pick it up and punt it as far as I possibly could in the other direction rather than get done for assault of a minor (it actually worked really well for someone who hadn't kicked a ball in 20 years)

DS is now 19 but I can still remember when he was about 4 and said very loudly, “WHY IS THAT ORANGE MAN SOOO FAT?”

It wasn’t Trump, but an extremely obese man in an orange tshirt. I told DS off and explained why it wasn’t a nice thing to say. And 15 years later I’m still mortified. But kids do tell it like it is. Good luck OP.

probably because he was saying it to his mum not me and he repeated it twice, if that was my kid i would have said something to them about being rude!

child was about 4 or so i have no idea but it was the mum that could have corrected them and said it wasnt very nice or we don’t talk about people like that, rather than mumbling something under her breath

She probably mumbled “be quiet, she can hear you” and hoped he would be quiet. Sometimes calling them out immediately makes them repeat it louder.

My dd said the same at 3. She asked me “Why is that woman so fat”? Obviously I had to explain it to her that it’s unkind to say that someone is fat.

Kids usually don’t mean any malice. They’re just saying what they see.
I’ve had my crooked teeth pointed out to me more than once (I work with children).

Kids say what they see. There is nothing to be upset about. My kids tell me all the time that I have a big belly.

just because something is true doesnt mean it cant be upsetting to have it shouted and pointed out from across the street?

Rude little c*! And I probably would’ve said that to them as well!

Whenever I hear about some brat insulting someone I can’t help but think about the Ricky Gervais scene in After Life when the kid calls him a P**o!

Completely agree with you @GoldenDogs I’m sick of parents making excuses for rude kids! Where do you think they learn these things??? yep! exactly the parents!

Give Mounjaro a go and see how you get on? You need to bear in mind the net cost will be much lower as you will spend far less on food, both at home and while out.

Many people on the medication lose their interest in alcohol so that’s another potential saving if you drink.

Good luck 💐