Do people comment on your weight loss

[bookworm8500]

Hi everyone,
I have lost 4 stone since March this year 😊 I have gone from 14 stone to 10 stone (I'm 5 ft 5).

However, I've only had 1 person comment on my weight loss who said 'wow, you're disappearing'.
Other comments have only been when I mentioned I still wanted to lose another 7 pounds.

I obviously haven't lost weight for the compliments BTW but there's a part of me that worries people haven't noticed and still think I'm really overweight 😬 Or do people not comment on weight loss these days?

I don't think it's particularly helpful to comment on people's weight loss so I don't do it. You never know if it's intentional or if it's because someone is ill, on medication that has made them lose weight. Also I don't think it's particularly nice to say someone looks amazing after losing weight as it might make them feel like they didn't before.

I've recently lost 2 stone due to medication I'm on, I was a healthy size 10/12 before but a few people have commented to say 'wow you've lost weight, you look great etc' and to be honest it makes me feel like shit. I was much happier eating and now feel worried about putting the weight back on when I get used to the meds.

Totally agree with this. I think people who haven't been overweight don't realise how people who are overweight don't feel they have a place in the world. I'm also really shocked at the low level happiness at my body I've had for so many decades.

OP, I’m 5ft 3 - was 13 stone and now two years on I’m 10st 6 so just lost almost 2.5 stone but it’s been gradual. Only one person has commented on it and that was someone I’d not seen for several years. As a short woman weight loss (and gain) is quite noticeable on me.

I have just under a stone left to lose before my BMI drops below 25. I reckon people might comment then but truly I don’t care if they do or not.

To be fair they didn’t comment when I gained weight either so it’s fair enough they’re not saying anything now either. They’re probably just playing it safe! Or maybe they’ve genuinely not noticed, as they haven’t seen a side by side comparison with past me - I’m not the type to do a before/after pic on social media 😂

I think in the case of the parent just saying “really” when you said you lost 5 stone, given the context it is a bit off that she didn’t really comment. Because in that situation you were discussing weight loss and it’s clear that you lost it deliberately so it’s a bit weird that she didn’t show any curiosity or interest let alone congratulate you.

I can understand why anyone else wouldn’t randomly bring it up though, as you can see by this thread some people get upset by that.

Wow this is SO true. It has truly resonated with me.

Come back with that comment when you are a size 18 and only 5ft!!!

Im now a size 12 dress and 8 jeans/skirts and Ive still got a belly on me, but Im back into the healthy BMI range. Still need another 1/2 stone to get to middle of the range but if it comes it comes, if not well, Im happy that I can now run with the grandchildren, get up and down off the floor , can go into any shop and buy something off the rack , not be bulging over into someone else's space on an airplane or public transport and not getting judging looks from strangers and people do judge no ifs or buts about it - only now thankfully they dont make comment out loud

This is so much how I feel

When I look back at my heavy years I was terribly low mood , I actually convinced myself I must have been depressed back then, but thinking on I wasnt, not proper depressed, just as the weight went on I retreated and my world became smaller and the joy went out of my life

What kick started me into finally tackling the elephant in the room, was our son was getting married. He lives in Australia and whilst it was going to be held there, I was going to use my excuse that I couldn't face the flight not to go. How mad is that? I was going to not attend his wedding because I was ashamed of my weight gain but couldn't be bothered to sort it. Then the wedding was changed to Italy - NO EXCUSE

I had the very best day, I was the first on the dance floor and last off. I danced and danced and danced - I hadn't danced for near on 10 years. So I was still a 59 year old granny with a face like a slapped arse, but I had confidence . I was in the photos. I spoke to guests, I made a short speech Daughters wedding, - I looked after the children and the elderlies. appeared in one photo and basically spent a lot of time alone

That’s so lovely. I’m so pleased for you.

I've lost 3 stone, and the few people who have commented are people I don't see much. Going from an 18 to a 12 is obvious in one hit, not so much if you're seeing someone every day or week.

A lot of people are so self involved that they literally won't notice or care.

I’ve had positive comments when I’ve lost weight.
And negative ones, when I’ve gotten fat.

I don't comment. I have a friend who sends before and after photos and I don't even comment on her weight in those ( although I will say ' I like your new hair' or 'you look really happy ' or something). It feels inappropriate somehow.

I never know what to say if someone has lost weight.

"You've lost weight!" Stating the obvious

"You look great!" What if this somehow implies I thought they looked crap before?

"Have you been on a diet?" Is this the safest option? But what if the person has lost weight due to illness and doesn't want to talk about it?

Etc etc etc.

When DS1 was a baby, my colleague (I met her for lunch) went on and ON about how quickly I had gone back to my pre baby size. I had really bad PND and couldn't eat at all - I just felt sick and anxious all the time. I would have rather weighed more and been happy.

I'm generally crap at noticing weight anyway though. One of my best friends lost three stone during lockdown and I didn't notice at all. I hadn't notice her put the three stone on either. She just looked like my lovely friend!