Do people comment on your weight loss

[bookworm8500]

Hi everyone,
I have lost 4 stone since March this year 😊 I have gone from 14 stone to 10 stone (I'm 5 ft 5).

However, I've only had 1 person comment on my weight loss who said 'wow, you're disappearing'.
Other comments have only been when I mentioned I still wanted to lose another 7 pounds.

I obviously haven't lost weight for the compliments BTW but there's a part of me that worries people haven't noticed and still think I'm really overweight 😬 Or do people not comment on weight loss these days?

I've lost 3 stone this year ... not so many comments -

• one from a check out lady at my supermarket who just asked if I was ill and when I said no she said that I looked good.

• one from my cleaning lady who didn't mention weight but just said to me "if you want help to do a wardrobe sort out let me know"

• And the best, most lovely one was from a woman who I bump into maybe twice a year in work related circles who came up to me and said " I just wanted to let you know that you looked great before and you look great now" she said it in such a lovely smiley way and made my day.

But if not - no comments

This is the annoying thing.

all my life people have commented when they see me. “Ooh you’ve lost some weight”.

i actually got a bit paranoid at one point thinking people must think of me as fat, then when they see me again realise I’m not as fat as they remember. Someone actually did say to me I was fat from the side but not from the front (I was 9st at that point)

when I actually have lost weight, 2.5 stone, nada.

I've lost just over 2 stone and not one person has said anything. DH notices and reckons it's more noticeable when I'm in a dress. I even said to my mum the other day, 'I think I need a SMALLER size dress' not a peep. I cant wait to wear a fitted dress xmas day to see if anyone notices then!

• And the best, most lovely one was from a woman who I bump into maybe twice a year in work related circles who came up to me and said " I just wanted to let you know that you looked great before and you look great now" she said it in such a lovely smiley way and made my day.

That's lovely.

My best was, "you look great. No, sorry, you look like your hard work is paying off." Woman in my office.

It's not a safe subject.
DH is overweight but has been dieting over the last few months.
A friend told me that she thought he was doing really well and had lost at least a stone.
DH's response was to grumpily say "I thought I'd lost more than a stone" despite telling me, up until then, he didn't think he was doing very well.
Another friend told me she'd lost 2 stone on the Cambridge diet and, tbh, it was hard to tell because she was so very overweight to start with.
I've been asked if I'm pregnant a couple of times because I carry any weight on my stomach. I tried to take comfort from the fact that I was too old to be pregnant so must look dazzlingly youthful...
But no. I just have a big tummy.
So generally, I think, people don't mention weight much at all these days.

Commenting on people’s bodies is rude, most adults know this these days so wouldn’t dream of mentioning weight loss, any more than they’d mention weight gain.

I've lost 4.5 stone. The people who comment are:

1. Over 45 (and not everyone I meet of that age)
2. Not British

I think it's very much a social thing. I've seen shock in the eyes of some people, some of whom are close friends, but they've said nothing. I've had some 'you look well' type comments. And a few times I've said myself something (when relevant) like 'I've lost a bit of weight recently' and they've immediately taken up the cue and said 'you look amazing' etc. as if I've given them permission to mention it. But otherwise it's silence on the matter. Members of my family have said nothing at all.

I don't mind at all either way, although my German friends have gone into a lot of detail in questions on how much etc and that level of directness does feel quite weird.

I was diagnosed with cancer last year and now weigh seven and half stone but I look even less. Yes, pretty much everyone has commented but not in a bad way just questions like “Did you have to buy a whole new wardrobe”, things like that.

Yeah thinking back, I definitely have had the “you look well” comments.

I totally understand the apprehension of direct comments, thinking about it further. One of my friends told me that she feels uncomfortable with her weight, she lost weight due to stress. I wouldn’t feel supportive if I commented on her weight as I don’t know if it’s intentional, so I imagine others might feel the same. So I suppose as much as I’d love a compliment, I understand why people might not comment.

I've lost 18kg since June, 6.1 BMI points. But I work remotely, we moved house over the summer and my youngest is disabled so I don't leave the house much to see old friends. The only person to have noticed is my partner, who has also lost weight since we moved.

I prefer it when nobody says anything, though. Years ago I lost a lot of weight after having a baby and the stream of contents became overwhelming - I felt like I was under a microscope at times.

This. Losing weight tends to make you look better so when i notice that someone has lost weight I normally think they look good so I tell them that - ie "you look great" rather than "you've lost weight"

Only a close friend commented and our cleaner who is from abroad, it’s generally not something people would ever comment on where I live. I’m pregnant right now and it very obviously shows because I look like I’ve swallowed a watermelon and it’s the same - except for close friends nobody says a word. It’s quite funny at work to be honest because I can see that people are curious, they are obviously staring but won’t offer congratulations and won’t ask unless I tell them first! I told my team and close colleagues, but didn’t advertise for the whole (large) office.

I find people comment when I lose about 1.5 dress sizes and also when I buy new clothes or wear more fitted clothes. As in they don’t comment if I’ve lost weight but wear my old clothes.

I've lost 5 stone and yes I have had comments.
Some people don't want to say anything in case of causing offence?

That's so funny! You have to take the compliments whoever they come from I guess 🤣🤣

This is very true 🙄
Well done on 7 stone, that's amazing!!

Wow, OK then!

People are learning not to comment on weight loss and pregnancy bumps anymore, it is good in a way as weight loss could be because of cancer etc. But I know it's nice to get a compliment! To be honest I got sick of people commenting on mine after the first month and it went on for a year before people just accepted this was me now.
Believe me they will have noticed though! Congrats ♥️

I've lost over 4 stone but noone has noticed yet, but my clothes fit a bit looser. I did it for me. Not anyone else.

I’d be wary of commenting these days as it’s a minefield.

Haha I was just thinking I pretty much agree with @GrumpyOldElfette - I wouldn’t comment on anyone’s weight at any time, even if they mentioned it first in most cases. Mainly because I don’t welcome anyone’s comments on mine. I want other people to respect my boundaries so I demonstrate this by not bringing up or discussing anyone else’s weight.
I would hate anyone commenting on my weight loss, it’s for me and my health, not for what I look like and I don’t want any attention drawing to what I weigh or what I look like or what I’m eating.

But it’s very personal, other people may delight in conversation about their weight loss.

However the fact that there can be very different responses to this is a very big reason people choose not to bring it up at all!

Thanks so much everyone, this is so interesting and good to know I'm not the only one. It definitely sounds like people are worried to offend. It sounds every accurate to me.

Also I work full time (I'm a radiographer) and spend my life in scrubs or an NHS jumper which are now huge on me, but hides the weight loss. I must get a smaller uniforms actually.

Well done to everyone on this thread who has lost weight! Here's to a healthy new us 😊

I was surprised how few people commented when I lost loads of weight. A few people mentioned it, just the once mind, but a lot of the time it just never came up. I guess they didn’t feel close enough to me to comment; who knew?

My SIL lost several stone and got lots of compliments but then put it all back on. What do you say then? Best not to comment unless they bring it up. It’s a personal journey

I saw an ex-boyfriend who said "Christ, are you hiding smarties under there? You look awfully flat chested - are you ill?" Such a charmer.😂