Do people comment on your weight loss

[bookworm8500]

Hi everyone,
I have lost 4 stone since March this year 😊 I have gone from 14 stone to 10 stone (I'm 5 ft 5).

However, I've only had 1 person comment on my weight loss who said 'wow, you're disappearing'.
Other comments have only been when I mentioned I still wanted to lose another 7 pounds.

I obviously haven't lost weight for the compliments BTW but there's a part of me that worries people haven't noticed and still think I'm really overweight 😬 Or do people not comment on weight loss these days?

I mostly just get asked if I'm ill does wonders for my self esteem!

I would think it is rude to comment and don't want any comments myself I don't do it for other people

2 stone isn't that noticeable especially if you haven't changed shape

I do think people are concerned to comment in case you are sick

I've lost 5 stone and no one has commented on it except my husband. Admittedly I was at a very high weight originally and am still big, but the weight loss is noticeable and still no one has commented.

I'm quite glad they haven't and assume they're being too polite to mention it in case I take offence or am losing weight for a negative reason (illness, stress etc).

Years ago I lost weight very significantly and was really distressed by all the 'compliments' I received. Every single one felt like people were telling me how dreadful I'd looked before. People were nosy about how I lost it and everyone wanted to talk about how I'd just put it all back on again. My body is not public property, I wanted to tell them all to fuck off.

I did, by the way, put it all back on again and more. Now I've lost weight again and have to gird myself before every social interaction because I'm so worried about people commenting, and I'm practising polite ways to tell them to shut the fuck up. But I've been pleasantly surprised to discover that no one has so far, and I think social norms around it has changed - for which I am profoundly grateful. It was so damaging to my self esteem, and going through that again genuinely made me anxious about losing weight this time.

I never comment on someone's size other than a compliment of "you look amazing", more of general mention on health and wellbeing.

I'm 2.5st down and only my best friend has mentioned it. I've worked really hard in the gym and restricted my food to get to where I am. I'm proud of myself having worked my arse off, I'm officially "only" overweight on the BMI as of this week having been obese BMI for the last 20+yrs. Still have more work to go to get to a healthy weight.

I never comment on weight loss. It breaks my heart a little when people go on about how ‘amazing’ someone looks when they’re slimmer because although it’s meant well, it’s basically like saying you looked like dog shit before which is awful. You are still the same person and more than a shallow evaluation of your body weight.

Yes I always felt extra embarrassed if I gained weight because of all the loss compliments 🙈
I think you realise how observed you are

And also sometimes people who are at their sickest with anorexia, cancer etc get told they look amazing.. it's awful.

People probably do notice but don’t comment. As someone whose weight has always yo-yoed, I have learned this is best. If you have lost weight good for you and your health but don’t do it for external validation because if you praise someone for weight loss, doesn’t that mean you also have the right to comment if they put the weight back on?

I’ve learned indirect compliments:

wow, that shirt looks great on you!

those jeans are really flattering, where did you get them from?

etc. don’t directly compliment size of body shape, but communicates they are looking good.

But that’s the same thing. It’s still a judgement on someone’s body.

The word ‘flattering’ is even worse than the implication that they’re a better human now they’re less fat.

If you have to make any judgments at all, just compliment their inner beauty.

I think she is probably on a weight loss injection. it really reduces your appetite.

Or she has an eating disorder 🤷‍♀️

I don't understand the fascination these days with being slim and taking weight loss injections to achieve this.

I'd rather be happy and healthy than an unhappy size 8-10. Btw I'm a 12 and have no desire to go back down to a 10.

@thelaststone aw that lady at your work's comment is so lovely! You can say things nicely to people 😊

Yes, everybody I know. I’ve lost 3.5 st over the last year and gone down three dress sizes. Only one person I know has been a bit negative but is apparently ‘worried’ about me. I’m now the perfect BMI for my height and certainly not skin and bone. I feel great.

But the people on the injections are an awful lot more than a size 12 to start with. That's their goal.

If someone looks different (in a positive way), I usually say something like - somethings changed, it really suits you. You look really happy/relaxed/good

Then they can tell me it's ozempic, or Botox or their new job or whatever. I'd rather not straight comment on weight loss

It's weird no one has said anything about a big weight loss though. You must know either very polite or un observant people!

I've lost over 5 stone this year, and it's only really the last couple of stone that the comments have ramped up.
Currently it is constant. Don't get me wrong it is really complimentary, people are telling me I look great, but starting to get a bit embarrassing especially when they ask how much and how I did it. I use mounjaro and while I'm not ashamed of that it really isn't anyone's business.

Notably though, I work in a small team of me and 3 men, we are really close, get along great and see each other every day, and not one of them has said one word to me. I guess that's men though.

They are for obese people,many of whom are not healthy and happy and have spent years battling their weight and the various physical and mental problems that come with being very overweight. They are not for size 12 people who would quite like to be a size 10 for their summer holidays.

Not been a size 20 then? When you have been obese all your life then being a healthy weight seems well beyond your reach until a magic medicine makes it easy.

I’m a size 12 after my weight loss and could not be happier. Just being a ‘normal’ size and feeling like I fit back into the world again. (I am pretty horrified to be honest at how low level unhappy I have been about how I looked for what has been most of my adult life.)

I'm exactly the same. Been an 18-20 for more years than I care to remember, and the effect it has on mental wellbeing is astonishing. Thinking about my weight literally consumed every aspect of my life.
Now I'm a size 12 and have never felt better. Not just physically but mentally and emotionally too.
People who have never been obese don't understand the impact of weight loss, whether aided by injections or not.

I don’t think people understand how much obese people internalise the fat phobia all around us. Fat shaming does nothing but make people even more unhappy.