DIET FAILED AGAIN thread 6- everyone welcome

[thenewaveragebear1983]

We made it to 1000 posts on thread 5, here is thread 6

@TalkToTheHand123 it’s maddening when that happens, are you sleeping ok? I seem to lose easier when I am sleeping better. Not that we can make ourselves have a good night sleep.

I am doing well at the moment, just need to make sure I don’t drop the ball because it’s the weekend. Didn’t have chocolate last night for the first time since giving up alcohol. Cold chicken breast, mozzarella, avocado, roast peppers, tomato salad for dinner at 6 pm. Probably my only meal but if I feel hungry I will have 2 scrambled eggs or a tin of pilchards for lunch.

Hope you feel better @poorpaws , have a rest day if you can.

My sleeping is ok but could be better. Once I'm in bed I'm fine. It's just for some reason I don't seem to like to go to bed early.

I did some exercise last night and I feel less bloated today. I can feel tummy muscles a little this morning so I'll try to get in a routine with this, as this seems to be really helpful.

Tricky day today, really full on day at work and I'm really tired and hormonal as well. Not great.

I've got a long weekend this weekend so hopefully now I can have 3 decent days on track. Not drinking tonight, I fully intend to do the whole weekend. It's making me very grouchy though, I'd happily have had a glass or two to relax after work. Instead I did my housework and tidied up and walked the dog.

My hip is still really hurting/ pinching despite not running and that's making me really irritable as well. I really need to do some proper yoga this weekend (add it to the list 🤦‍♀️)

I'm sorry I'm such a grump tonight. I feel really tired and cheesed off but in reality it's probably hormonal.

@thenewaveragebear1983 sorry your hip is so painful. Must be really wearing. Hope the yoga eases it today and you have a really good long weekend.

I got my 5 mile walk in with DH yesterday evening and feel so much better for it. It was darker and cooler. Last mile was mostly under moonlight. I really enjoyed it. And this morning I dropped to my lowest weight yet. I'm enjoying that too for the moment because I imagine it won't last until tomorrow 😆 We are heading out to nearby Market town for a castle walk, lunch, cake and shopping.

Hope you all have a good Saturday!

@Storyland lowest weight yet! Well done! Skip the cake, all these little things set us back at least a day and aren’t worth it in my view. English apples are delicious right now, pick up a bag of these instead.

@thenewaveragebear1983 hormones and hip pain would make anyone grumpy. Badedas bath or bath with salts might be comforting?

All good here. DD home for the weekend with laundry, I make a big effort to cook really nutritious food she likes. I am 9st 2lbs this morning, bmi 21.3. There is still lots of fat around my middle but I think 6 months more in the gym might improve that a little.

Hi all. I need to keep remebering to do my mini situps. These seem to be the best method for my tummy. I do them for a couple of days then forget.

Mad a batch of soup for the first time in a while.

My official weekly weigh in: 9st10

Which is 1lb down from last week, 1lb up from yesterday (that will be the giant Yorkshire pudding with sausages, mash and gravy I had for lunch)

The cough has reduced a lot so I'm going to try and get back to running this week. Today is going to be spent mostly with family celebrating my birthday 🥳 so all good intentions are on hold until tomorrow 😇

@Storyland 🥳 Happy Birthday! Hope you have a great day. (You share a b’day with my 89 year old mum, she’s gone to Spain till Christmas, she is ageing really well!)

@Storyland happy birthday, I hope you have a really lovely day.

I've been reading back and you are all doing so well, wine free, exercising, lowest weight, wow!

I think I am the only one properly struggling. I just can't get in the zone and I have been trying. As soon as I've eaten dinner my head moves to "what can I eat next" and that continues until I go to bed. I need to figure out how to turn that switch in my head and knuckle down. It's been a long time since I was properly in the zone and I really need to get there soon.

My illness only lasted the one day and I think it was purely got getting any sleep. We went to our cafe a day later and there was a children's party there so the lady who runs it alone was a bit frazzled and to my taste the bacon was undercooked.

It's home alone Sunday, which I love. I had a lie in which I never do and Dd is popping over for an hour later which I also love, so a great day for me.

If anyone can coax, bully, cajole me back into the zone please do, I really need to sort myself out. I have so many clothes lined up for the charity shop that no longer fit (by a mile) so I need to get out of this mood and crack on.

Have a great Sunday everyone and Storyland enjoy your birthday.

I'm also struggling @poorpaws . I did a couple of good days this week but then yesterday had chocolate and wine. My mood is really crappy and I just feel totally meh about everything. I don't even want to eat, and yet I eat way over my calories pretty much every single day. I'm a real misery at the moment.

Aww @thenewaveragebear1983 I know just how you feel. I wonder if we could help/encourage each other. I just can't get in that bloody zone atm.

I've dieted all my adult life and have never been like this before. I don't think I'm depressed but this massive clear-out is getting me down. I just eat rubbish for dinner and then eat chocolate/crisps/sweets, anything really. I don't know the answer but my jeans are so tight this morning.

@poorpaws it's definitely the time of year playing a part for me. I resent the end of summer, I despise the long winters trapped inside. Our lives and hobbies (and our dc's hobbies) are all outdoors so I am already hating the wet and cold, the muddy dog, the muddy boots and coats and it's barely even started yet. We do kids football 7 days a week and not much else. I was just thinking today , life is just work isn't it? Work, and then after work, just more bloody work. Endless washing. Cleaning. The constant churn of food going into and clearing up of the aftermath of 21 meals a week. Pets- work. Having a nice home- work work work. It's relentlessly boring and I am so incredibly, simultaneously overwhelmed and underwhelmed with all of it. I am especially grouchy at the moment because I can't do the one thing I do to escape from it all because I can't even go for a run without being in pain. I'm tired, no matter what I do.

Sorry for being such a misery guts.

This afternoon I went to bed, listened to a nice hypno recording and slept for half an hour afterwards, which I really needed. I've made really nice slow cooked joint of beef with winter veg and ale gravy, and I'm about to make some dumplings which I've never made before, to add to the top. I have my non working day tomorrow so hopefully I will feel a bit brighter tomorrow and be able to get a few things fine and also grab some leisure time for myself.

@thenewaveragebear1983 ...you sound fed up...how old your DC ?
Mine are young adults and it's joyous not being on the mummy treadmill...that said my dsd with anorexia is losing weight again...she is currently living in London mostly at her lovely bf family home , and has started a law apprenticeship scheme and seems to be thriving at life...but has lost weight and looks so painful thin again..so I'm sure matter of time before sh#t hits fan there.
I'm trying to not catastrophise and enjoy the time with none of them actually needing me more than normal requirements...odd texts asking how to read a meter, what to do with a burnt tea towel and how often should they cut their grass...was this week's .
Hang in there , it gets easier
And I remember being so grumpy when I couldn't run...blame that

@thenewaveragebear1983 yeah I remember those days, you aren’t imagining the endless work, it’s a grind. I think like @Theredjellybean says you are missing your running which maybe was keeping you sane. My kids are almost 18 and 21, the dog died earlier this year (he was a sweet fellow but a lot of work), add in no more periods and wow is my life a lot easier. Hang in there. Audio books or a half hour of hypno recording every day might help, take your usual running time for yourself and do something that tops up your battery.

Thanks 🙏 ❤️ my dc are 20, 12 and 9, and yes, the grind is real. It's relentless. We'll get there I know, the weeks are just long and the mental load is high. Tomorrow I'm going to walk the dog then meet my friend for coffee, then I will have a few hours at home. I've not planned my food yet, I did get some protein powder today so I might have protein yogurt and fruit once I get back from my coffee date.

It's not good news from me, one and a quarters pounds gain ☹️ but I'm not surprised.

@thenewaveragebear1983 everything you wrote in your earlier post is the same for me. I hate autumn and winter. I hate the grey mornings, the black evenings, the cold, I hate it all. Cold rainy November is my birthday, December and I hate Christmas, January blues feeling broke after spending too much on something you don't even like, February short but spiteful.

Where I walk the dogs we have to cross over a very wet muddy field (years ago it was going to be built on but after extensive investigations the land was deemed too wet and boggy to build and far too expensive to drain). After the field we have muddy dirt tracks around the wildlife lakes and then back across the boggy field.

I don't have a back porch (just a small covering over the back door) so 3 filthy dogs with 12 filthy paws enter my kitchen and then shake all over the cupboards. This doesn't happen in summer, the field dries, the lake paths are dust and my kitchen floor and cupboards stay clean. It's a nightmare the rest of the year.

So yes, I feel exactly like you and the nightmare is only just unfolding this year. It's a very wet part of the country here so it's relentless. No, long term a chocolate bar doesn't help but in that moment I need one.

I don't know what the answer is, I just know I have to do something soon (NOW). My clothes are too tight I feel awful, my weight is galloping to an all time high and this cant go on.

@thenewaveragebear1983 I know how you feel, I truly feel your pain but we both have to find a solution.

Haven’t weighed, big roast yesterday so probably gained a bit. Decorators arrived at 7.30 am, they are good guys but it’s going to be chaos for a few weeks. Need to plan food for the week but tasked with getting new skirting boards right now!

Thanks for all the birthday wishes. I had a nice day yesterday. Pub lunch with family, and then last night watched Practical Magic with DH and shared a bottle of Prosecco.

I'm sorry for those of you feeling down. You've got a lot on and it does sound very stressful, and being out in the cold and mud so much when you don't fancy it is no fun.

I really enjoy this time of the year. The introvert in me enjoys retreating in to my home. Lighting candles, reading. And I've only got the one kid whose activities are thankfully all indoors which probably helps.

I do want to get back in the zone this week. I've been off plan for weeks now and want get some momentum back. That means:
👻 Focussing on 1lb at a time.
👻 Eating less
👻 Exercising 3 times a week

I've still got a dress that I love that doesn't fit. I would love to wear it for my graduation ceremony in December so that can be my motivation.

@Storyland I'm glad you had a lovely birthday

@poorpaws we can both totally do this.Moping about using getting me anywhere either so I'm going to be kinder to myself. I went and looked for some nice autumn clothes today but there isn't anything nice really, although i did get a pair of heavy jersey type wide leg joggers in matalan which I can actually wear to the office but could also wear to wfh and not feel like a total scruff. I've decided to embrace the hygge vibes and wrap up warm, light candles, snuggly jumpers. I've treated myself to a new desk chair that's heated and has massagers!! What luxury!

I met my friend for coffee which was a real tonic. Then after a mooch round the shops I came home, swept up dog hair, then went to lie down with my hypno recording and a hot water bottle.

We are having our bathroom renovated starting next week, another big cause of stress in my life right now, but I am clinging onto the thought of in 4 weeks having a beautiful bathroom with glorious green tiles, fluffy new towels, candles, underfoot heating. Things will get better ❤️‍🩹

@thenewaveragebear1983 yes, we have to be positive and do whatever we can to get us through to next Spring.

I wonder if my mind set changed just a little today. Because it's getting colder I added layers of clothing and I felt so big on the dog walk. I unzipped my thick coat at the bottom for extra room and had to unzip both pockets as that gave me another inch or so. I just thought of last year and how good it felt for that same coat to be really loose. But instead of getting upset I took a deep breath and thought "you have to sort this, you've done it before you can do it again". I keep replaying those sentiments in my head. I am so uncomfortable in my own skin because I'm overweight. I wind myself because my stomach is so big when I pick up dog poo. I could name ten good reasons that I have to lose weight without having to think.

Yes thenewaveragebear1983 we really can do this, we really can (and I am very jealous of your new bathroom).

@poorpaws I'm so excited, I can't wait! The current one is 20 years old and we have actual mushrooms growing in the cracks in the plaster. It's like a horror movie.

We can definitely do it. I keep having to remind myself that I know what to do, I actually like and prefer healthy food, and I enjoy feeling healthy. This isn't a chore!

I took ds to football and instead of standing out in the freezing rain I sat in the clubhouse (still freezing 🥶) but I sat and sent a load of emails, paid loads of school stuff, booked bits into half term football clubs, and looked on Amazon for all the things I need to buy. I went through all my delivery emails and checked items off and set safe place notes etc and all the crappy life admin i never get time to do. I feel much clearer now.

I think it's about little wins isn't it? One meal at a time, one task at a time.

Hi all. The cold weather reduces my alcohol fuelled trips out. I've been exercising a little more on a night time these last few days. I'm feeling a bit tired at times but I seem to have a bit more energy. I feel a little more toned also.

That's great @Talktothehand123 ! There are some advantages to these shorter days.

@thenewaveragebear1983 I need a life admin session too. Great idea to do it when the kid is at training. Stops it eating into family time.

Yesterday was alcohol free day and I didn't snack at all after tea. But eating during the rest of the day was just OK. Going to try and stay off alcohol until the weekend and tonight I'll do a bit of zumba . I'm easing back into exercise again slowly

I've had an ok day today. Tuesdays are normally awful for me so although I am ending up on around 1650 calories, we all know it could have been and often is much worse.

I had toast with cheese this morning, I took a ready meal for lunch with fruit, and for dinner I had soup with toast when I came in. I could easily have eaten actual dinner as well but I was at my calorie limit so I didn't. I did have 2 Jaffa cakes at work. You really really don't get much food for 1600 cals for you? Although I guess I ate high calorie/low volume foods- I could have really bulked my meals out. Still, I didn't do my usual Tuesday crash.

Tomorrow, I am booked in to the gym session in the evening. I'm really missing running now, but I'm still not pain free so I don't want to risk it, it will set me straight back. My new office chair has arrived so I am hoping that it is more comfortable sitting all day.

Food tomorrow, I could do with having a lot fewer carbs and more protein. I might skip breakfast and have a brunch instead, I have loads of eggs and a tin of mackerel in sweet chilli which would make a nice brunch. For dinner, I have chicken thighs and a green Thai kit so will do that with stir fry.

Well well well two consecutive days that I've been ok with food, that hasn't happened in a while. 😁

@thenewaveragebear1983 you did so well on a Tuesday, do you think we are both turning a corner or is that just wishful thinking? Either way, we've both done well.

I'm home alone again tomorrow which is difficult food-wise (no one to see how much I eat), but I really need a day to myself. DP has driven me crazy today. Once he'd changed a faulty wall socket in my kitchen he was pacing up and down like a caged tiger. I was busy sorting out the spare room and he kept hovering, watching what I did. I absolutely hate days when he cant get outside and he follows me around, watching my every move. So tomorrow I can work hard or be lazy and no one will watch me = bliss!

I hope you all have a good day tomorrow, this week is going so quickly.