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Bariatric surgery thread 3

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HotSteppa · 23/11/2021 19:44

Relocating to shiny new thread for all those going through or considering weightless surgery in all its forms.

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ClappyFats · 27/07/2022 01:05

bornonvalentines - I'm sorry to read that. Let us know how you are in the morning. 😘
WitchesWalk - How are you feeling?

Hi to twins, rain and WeR. I'm reading and absorbing all of this info. Hoping to have my sleeve in November.

fudfootedfannybangle · 27/07/2022 07:43

Ugh slider foods. I have an antique 😂 gastric band with no fill. On Monday I couldn’t get lentil soup down and threw up multiple times. An hour later in need of food/energy a bar of chocolate went down no problem. But soup? 🙄

WeRTheOnesWeHaveBeenWaitingFor · 27/07/2022 08:29

@Twinsandsome I’m 7 months out. I couldn’t eat a slice of toast because bread makes me uncomfortable but I can eat a whole baked potato with filling and salad. I can eat unlimited crisps too but try not to have them in the house.
An evening meal for me would generally be a whole salmon fillet grilled with veg or 2 vegetable sausages with half a tin of beans or 3 slices of halloumi and salad or veg/prawn curry no rice. Lunch might be 2 cracker breads with peanut butter or cheese and a banana or a small baked potato with cottage cheese. Breakfast tends to be protein yogurt or smoothie. The I’d have snacks too -latte, baby-belle, fruit, hummus etc i also have the odd square of chocolate if the kids have something I like or a few bites of their icecreams.

WeRTheOnesWeHaveBeenWaitingFor · 27/07/2022 08:33

@WitchesWalk @bornonvalentines
Hope you guys are feeling okay, it’s hard at the beginning.

MindBodyChocolate · 27/07/2022 19:44

Hi everyone, I was sleeved nearly 2 years ago and was on the original thread :) I thought it would be helpful to give an update.

I started at 19 stone 2 and lost 6 stone after a year. I then had a small uptick at about 14 months and since then have settled at around 13 stone 7. I’ve gone from a size 22 to a 14 and look pretty good ;) My resting heart rate has gone from about 80 to 60 and I can easily run 5km when even a walk before was a struggle.

I feel amazing physically and mentally. Not a day goes past where I’m not pleased I had the op. There’s no one food I can’t eat although bread is so filling I tend to avoid it.

on the less positive side I miss fizzy drinks but this is quite minor. After the first year’s weight loss, if you want to lose more it takes a lot of effort. It’s really important to stick to the rules for as long as you can to make the most of the quicker weight loss at the beginning. I’ve also spent a small fortune on new clothes.

The hardest thing to get used to has been other people’s reaction to slimmer me. I am treated so much better, more politely and nicer I was when I was big and this makes me sad that outwards appearance counts for so much. I’ve also struggled with male attention (sounds like a humble brag but it’s not) which I didn’t get as a larger person and it makes me feel quite uncomfortable and I don’t know how to react.

in short it has been amazing and life changing for me and I hope everyone starting out has a positive experience.

Twinsandsome · 27/07/2022 21:55

@MindBodyChocolate i can remember you going for the op from the Original and 2nd thread. It’s so lovely hearing from you and your experience. I will be 4 months sleeved in august and have not come across anything I can’t eat either food wise I do well though I am disappointed in myself that I’ve started eating toast and can manage a whole slice with either avocado and bacon or an egg as I feel I’ve maybe stretched my stomach already. Need to stop eating slider foods and do some work mentally regarding self savatage and remind myself I only have another good 6-8 months of this tool being as effective a possible and need to use it. How are you finding maintaining? Do you still get restriction? Xx

MindBodyChocolate · 27/07/2022 22:04

Hi @Twinsandsome! yes I still get a lot of restriction but I have to be much more conscious now of not carrying on eating when full. So it’s more effort now but still so much better than I ever was before. And I also am very conscious of not snacking or eating slider foods because it’s easy to get back into those habits. I’m not perfect at all though - I love a bit of chocolate but now it’s a few squares rather than a few bars 😊

Twinsandsome · 27/07/2022 22:23

That’s great to hear @MindBodyChocolate I love hearing from people further down the line. I’m going to try and make a conscious effort going forward to think about what I am eating. I have lost 5 stone almost but I have about another 10-11 to go to reach a healthy BMI which means I really need to knuckle down. Xx

fudfootedfannybangle · 28/07/2022 08:57

@bornonvalentines how are you doing now?

@MindBodyChocolate thank you for the reminder that it’s 12 months to sort your shit out! 😁

I’m still dithering about my return journey. When I had my band I drove myself home 2 hours from hospital and felt fine, but I was much younger and a less invasive procedure.

but I’m wondering if I need to break up my return journey more. I’m going alone so will be flying back alone then I’ve got a 2.5 hr train ride to get me to the next city along.

do you think at that point I should literally call it a day and check into a hotel and then do the final leg the following day?

WitchesWalk · 28/07/2022 14:21

Had my op on Tuesday. Yesterday I felt so bad. Very sick every time I moved. But today so much better. Tubes all out. Just need to learn I can’t swig water but little sips is ok.

Twinsandsome · 28/07/2022 16:46

@WitchesWalk a straw is great for making sure it’s sips x

McLarenette · 28/07/2022 17:16

How are you doing @MGBop2022? I hope your struggles are improving.

ColeslawSandwich · 28/07/2022 17:38

Hi @McLarenette thanks for asking. I’m not much improved tbh. Still feeling nauseous all the time and can’t face eating or drinking anything. When I do eat I end up throwing everything back up almost immediately.
I’m forcing myself to drink to stay hydrated. I ended up in ooh last week and had some anti sickness injections.
I reckon I’m getting about 100-200 caps per day.
I’ve decided to go back on the liquid diet for a while to see if that helps.

ColeslawSandwich · 28/07/2022 21:41

*cap=calories

Twinsandsome · 28/07/2022 21:49

@ColeslawSandwich how far out are you and was it a sleeve or bypass you had? Xx

ColeslawSandwich · 28/07/2022 23:21

I had a mini gastric bypass with a minimiser ring on 7/7.

bornonvalentines · 29/07/2022 17:06

Hello, 4 days past my NHS bypass and am feeling well enough to sit up in bed and type so I'll try and summarise.

5 year in pipeline including Covid, so was glad to be admitted on Monday after having had last minute prescriptions for BP and iron medications.

Don't know if it's typical of NHS, but didn't meet surgeon pre or post op. I'd say 99 per cent of Nursing Staff were Phillipino (sp) and whilst of course they know their profession, no one had enough English to understand my Bariatric related questions in hospital. I was crying in agony on night one, and pain relief was sporadic at best. I later learned from the Bariatric Nurse on the phone that my surgery took 4 hours as I lost so much blood. My drain leaked on Night one so badly that my bed was wet, but with 9 patients on ward and one HCA and one nurse no one could change my bed until next day. Or my drain. There were clearly phsychiatric patients on my surgical ward, screaming all night for help, and several other elderly patients crying as no one could empty bedpan or move bed. I figured that if you didn't scream you didn't get seen.

Next morning I begged my husband to get me discharged but they did a blood test and said I was dangerously anaemic, I had to stay one more night then they were about to discharge me when they realised they'd forgotten to do a six hour iron infusion. Finally got home late Wed.

In terms of pain now, no gas pain but stitches/inside stomach feel bruised inside. On paracetamol and gingerly trying broth, yoghurt etc.

I do think Bypass is a necessary operation but I will never forget what I and the other patients went through on a public ward.

Twinsandsome · 29/07/2022 18:08

@ColeslawSandwich have you tried foods at different temperatures to see if you’ve any better luck with them? I was fine no nausea beyond the day of my op but there was a couple in my group with nausea and trouble keeping stuff down unless it was hot so like blackcurrant made with hot water or heated up custard etc and then on the opposite end there was ones who needed everything cold. I hope your nausea passes for you. My fav ‘meal’ following surgery was an actimel it was Devine!!! X

Twinsandsome · 29/07/2022 18:11

@bornonvalentines that sounds awful you poor thing. To be honest I was terrified of the language barrier etc going away but all the nurses used google translate and the surgeon came every single morning and evening to check in so it’s shocking yours was NHS and still language barrier and no communication for your surgeon esp as you lost so much blood. I hope your home now and starting to feel better x

WitchesWalk · 30/07/2022 08:33

@bornonvalentines I’m sorry your experience was crap. But hopefully now you are home you can hunker down and nurture yourself.

I’m home and having trouble believing I’ve actually done it. I feel weirdly absolutely fine. Off shopping this morning for some ingredients and juice.

bornonvalentines · 30/07/2022 13:23

Hi everyone, thank you for your kind words. You are right to speak about nurturing: at the moment I'm in the 'what have I done?' phase, to be honest.

Eating and drinking, restaurants and entertaining were the huge joys in my life. Of course I'm on the liquid stage, so all that is out at the moment, but I kind of feel joyless at the moment. Maybe I'll feel better when I do the weekly weigh in?

Sending love to all on this journey. Boy, it's tough.

ColeslawSandwich · 30/07/2022 19:57

@Twinsandsome i think you’re right. I’m best with ice cold drinks and warm food.
it’s the all day nausea that’s the hardest to deal with.

Twinsandsome · 30/07/2022 20:49

@ColeslawSandwich ask your doctor to give you some anti sickness the wee ones that melt under your tongue to see if that will settle your nausea for a while but honestly it will pass keep going. @bornonvalentines i had the grieving process almost that I won’t be fit to enjoy food again but I’m now 13 weeks post op and I do enjoy food again and so far have managed to get away with not telling anyone outside my house and my sisters that I’ve had the OP so managing to go out for coffee and pass myself in work lunch settings it gets easier. I just really need to rein in my slider foods in to get the weight coming off again x

bornonvalentines · 30/07/2022 20:55

@Twinsandsome Bless you, you are a great help on here. I'll get over myself and perk up, I'm sure.

fudfootedfannybangle · 31/07/2022 10:45

@bornonvalentines what a horrendous time for you, I’m glad you’re home and on the mend.

I’ve had most of my surgery abroad (lived overseas for decades) and so am used to language barriers. The only truly terrifying moment was when I haemorrhaged and really needed someone to explain what was going on…

@WitchesWalk im so glad to hear you feel great - that’s really encouraging.

I’ve booked the final legs of my journey now. In the end I decided against an extra night in a hotel back in the uk - I’ll just want to get home.

nearly bought some new pyjamas yesterday then thought “what’s the point? They’ll be swamping me in a few months”.

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