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Weight loss chat

A space to talk openly about weight loss journeys and challenges. Mumsnet hasn't checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. You may wish to speak to a medical professional before starting any diet.

BigMoFos w/c 23 November

57 replies

LongMeg · 23/11/2007 11:28

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TigerFeet · 23/11/2007 11:31

Littlefish and LongMeg - you are stars

Must do better next week [kicks self]

Littlefish · 23/11/2007 13:59

No kicks TIgerFeet. Just lots of positive thoughts .

This time next year, we will all be thinner than we are now. Isn't that a happy thing to be aiming for.

Well done LongMeg. What a fantastic total for 2 weeks. Is your job a permanent one? It really does seem to be helping you with your weight loss.

LongMeg · 23/11/2007 14:21

Yep - it's a permanent one. Term-time only though (so watch it all pile back on again over Christmas!). I just don't have the time to eat crap anymore, and I'm more active - an extra walk to school and back, and on my feet all the time turning skipping ropes or playing ball or running around after the kids.

Tiger, you're doing fine - no need for kickings from where I'm standing.

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Kewcumber · 23/11/2007 14:39

OK so those of you currently motivated (well done Littlefish), how do I get my mojo back? I just don't care at the moment. It's looking like the problem with my achilles heel is related to deteriorating cartiledge in my ankles ( no doubt casued by my weight) and I still don't care enough to rush out and lose weight. I'm not exactly stuffing my face so its not a true binge fest IYSWIM. But I have stopped taking the metformin (why?!) and am not really getting much exercise.

Helpful suggestions anyone?

TigerFeet · 23/11/2007 14:42

When you find out Kewc, let me know

I thought I had shaken off my chest infection but I have been coughing all day again (5 WEEKS FFS). My body is in a shit state really [sigh]

I blame it on dd's sleeping or lack thereof shenanagans. I am permanently knackered.

TigerFeet · 23/11/2007 14:46

sorry that post was a bit me, me, me wasn't it

Sorry about your ankle Kewcumber. Have you been told it is down to weight or could it just be deteriorating anyway?

Kewcumber · 23/11/2007 14:54

oh don;t worry Tiger - misery loves company! Actually I'm not miserable exactly just can't be bothered I suspect very mild depression but just can't work out why.

No they haven't (yet) told me that its weight related but often deteriorating cartilige is - I'm waiting to have some old lady insoles made to correct the position of my ankles and waiting for physio then I go back to consultant in jan.

LongMeg · 23/11/2007 14:57

I was going to ask if you were depressed, KC, but you've answered the question. You do sound a bit down. Motivation is really hard when you're feeling depressed; I don't know about you but when I'm down I just never feel that I'm worth the effort of looking after myself.

Is it too simple to say "Get thee back on the Metformin"? Probably ... but I shall say it anyway. If you are insulin resistant then you aren't doing your body any favours by not taking the medication. Presumably the medication helps with that and the PCOS? Has to be worth continuing with, surely?

I'm a fine one to talk because I am a bugger for not taking my thyroxine when I feel well ... and then I look at the long list of problems that I could cause myself by stopping, and I feel pretty damned foolish for not taking them. I don't know what the consequences of not taking your Merformin are, but it might be worth thinking about that.

It's hard to exercise when you are in pain, but I think it's helpful if you can do some exercise at least. Makes you feel better, gives you a more positive outlook - it's a really good pick-me-up when you feel a bit down. Is there any exercise that you like which doesn't put pressure on your ankle? Swimming, maybe? I suffer horribly with my knees and it's hard to find any exercise which doesn't aggravate it, but I do find that without exercise, my weight-loss efforts always come to nothing.

My biggest motivation is my daughter, and I know I'm crap at losing weight but she is the reason that I know I must do it. I want to be around for her, to see her growing up. I want to be fit enough to keep up with her and not be huffing and puffing along at a snail's pace while she's itching to run off. I don't want to be an embarrassment to her ... and I know that I am. Taking it to its most extreme, I don't want to drop dead with a heart attack and leave her without her mum. Maybe thinking about your lovely little boy and all the fantastic things you want to do with him and for him might motivate you?

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littlemisssensible · 23/11/2007 15:01

Hi all,

Forgot to weigh this week but I'm really not motivated at the moment! I suspect at the very least I've stayed the same as I seem to consuming buckets of sugar laden tea as well as cadbury type treats which currently litter the office! I'm going to try cutting out the sugar (again!) and the biccies (again!) next week but I'm really not sure it'll happen . If you come up with any motivational tips KewC please pass them on.

My sympathies to MrsJC and TigerFeet, lack of sleep makes it impossible to do anything at all, and eating healthily is impossible! [hug]

But well done to LongMeg and Agalch and an extra big CONGRATS to Littlefish!

Littlefish · 23/11/2007 15:07

KewC - I was just thinking the other day, that it must be nearly a year since you went to Kaz for the start of your new life. Do you think it could be anything to do with that? It's been a hell of a year for you - so many enormous changes, and possibly now, a feeling of anti-climax. Just the feeling of every-day ordinariness.

Apologies if I'm completely off the mark. Just the musings of a concerned friend.

Littlefish · 23/11/2007 15:09

PS - I wear old lady insoles. I've been wearing them for about 3 years now. They make it sooooooooo much more comfortable to walk. You and I can be old ladies together KewC!

JackieNo · 23/11/2007 15:37

Hi all, Thanks for the good wishes about our little, ahem, visitors. Hopefully all gone now. (still catching up on the washing though).

Sorry LongMeg - I did weigh, but DH hogged the computer last night, and I didn't manage to get round to emailing it. I stayed the same anyway.

HUGE congrats to Littlefish and LongMeg - fabulous.

KewC, sorry to hear you're struggling too. If you can't get round to doing exercise, how about some nice pampering treats - a massage or something?

MrsJC and TigerFeet - my sympathies on your non-sleeping DCs.

Kewcumber · 23/11/2007 20:40

Littlefish - these are really old lady insoles - not the kind you buy in Boots but the kind that are custom made for you by the nice technicians in the Douglas Bader unit at Roehampton . Apparently part of the the problem with my heel is that my ankles roll inward (which is bizarre because I wear the outside of my heels) - I;m due to go walk on a computer machine thingie which is going to analyse how I walk and produce custom made insoles that force me to walk in a way which will take the pressure off my heels. Apparently they are quite uncomfortable to start with - so really looking forward to that

Its mad that I'm not taking the metformin LM - I think actually a first start would be to wean myself back on it. It helps with the symptoms but in a very subtle way so it's easy to slide off the drugs wihtou it making a huge difference. But I rad a thread on MN today that reminded me that one of the symptoms of PCOS is mood swings/mild depression so who knows it may be that simple..

I have thought about whether real life setting in was causing a bit of rebound depression Littlefish but I don't think so. I do feel very emotional at the moment partly because I have been thinking about this time last year and partly because I have commissioned someone to do a birithparent search for DS and they are in Kaz at the moment doing it. Sadly they confirmed what I suspect, that it will be extremely unlikely that we will ever be able to find any trace of his BM. That makes me feel very sad for him. However I think my inclination to get a bit emotional at the moment is actually down to the depression (ooh-er am openly admitting it is depression now - I obviously think it is!) rather than causing it IYSWIM.

In the past when I have fallen into one of these phases the best way out of it has always been exercise so I think I need to find something I can do with DS or get my mum to look afetr him for an hour whilst I do something.

That all a bit long...

Littlefish · 24/11/2007 09:21

KewC - snap on the insoles. I had to have my legs videoed walking on a treadmill (with my trousers rolled up!) - not a sight I wish to see again in a long, long time . My ankles roll in too, and I had very, very flat feet. Now I've been wearing the insoles for a while, I have beautiful arches again.

The only positive thing was that the podiatrist doing them was completely delicious. As long as I could forget the fact that we was seeing me at my worst, it was almost enjoyable having a gorgeous man put my feet in plaster!

That's interesting about the moodswings being a symptom of PCOS - I hadn't heard of that before. If there is underlying depression, then that is only going to make it worse.

That's very sad about his birth mother search. If you don't manage to find her, I hope that in the future, ds will be able to take solace from the fact that you did everything possible and know that you did it with love, from one mother to another.

I want to stay and spend more time on my reply, but today is dd's party, so I'll be back again tomorrow.

Be kind to yourself KewC - it sounds like your emotions need feeding, rather than your body.

Kewcumber · 24/11/2007 10:24

I have quite a high instep but interesting that you find them comfortable - the consultant said that they would probably be very uncomfortable for a while and that I might have a problem fitting them in my shoes?

You reply re birth mother made me rather teary. But then everything does these days! You just want them to be happy don't you. It's the one part of adoption which is heartbreaking, that you can't pretect them from the knowledge that they can't be with their first family. I try not to dwell on it as ultimately it's not good for either of us and at the end of the day you just have to deal with real life not what might have been.

Kewcumber · 24/11/2007 10:26

have a lovely party DS's is next Sat but as he's only 2 I'm getting away with minimum fuss. Adults in teh morning for coffee (bought) and cake, kids in the afternoon for macarone cheese (courtesy of my mum) various baked cheese snacks for mums (courtesy of Sainsurys) and brownies for all (courtesy of mum again).

Anyone else going to the MN Xmas party? I'm beginning to get quite nervous...

Littlefish · 24/11/2007 13:45

Your consultant is right, that they can be uncomfortable to start with, while your muscles, tendons and ligaments get used to being in a different (correct) place. But once you've ajusted, it's much more comfortable. I really find it very hard to be without mine. I've worn them every day for about 3 and a half years now.

Yes, finding shoes is an absolute nightmare. Because of the depth of the heel of my insoles, it lifts my feet too high to fit into most shoes. I find that boots fit much better than shoes however. Some of the Clark's shoes have shaped insoles which can be removed and replaced with your orthotics. Moshulu, Hotters and some shoes from Shoon are ok too. (Can you tell I have searched high and low for shoes which fit!) Camper are also possible sometimes.

There is a magic trick which I'll tell you too! If you want to wear your orthotics in backless shoes for summer, stick a couple of circles of velcro on the bottom of your orthotics, stick the matching circles in your shoes, and the orthotics stay put.

Next time we meet up, I'll show you mine, if you'll show you yours

Hope ds has a wonderful party. Dd isn't feeling very well today and is very whiney, which doesn't really bode well for a happy party!

I'll be back tomorrow to reply to the rest of your post. Not ignoring it, just want to give it some more thought.

Kewcumber · 26/11/2007 13:33

oh lordy I have started an AIBU thread but am very pissed off about it. www.mumsnet.com/Talk/2724/430135?rnd=1196083892250

Littlefish · 26/11/2007 14:03

Just read the thread KewC. I would be fuming too... At my sister for saying it in the first place, and at my mother for repeating it.

You know I understand the mother/sister thing! There are so many unsaid comparisons in my house. Well done you for saying something.

Smile and nod can only be done so many times!

Kewcumber · 26/11/2007 14:15

I am just so baffled by it. Who in their right mind thinks thats a compliment?! I know that you are queen of the mother/sister relationship, it just pisses me off that somehow because my sister says it, it somehow carries more weight. Not sure that I've xplained that well, but you know "Oh Sister says you looked looked stunning" as if I'm supposed to gasp in delight then beat myself with a birch twig when she said I'd looked abysmal for the past 6 months.

littlemisssensible · 26/11/2007 16:21

Kew !

Mums can be so tactless can't they! Do you think your sister really said that or has mum exagerated a comment to try and get you behaving as she thinks she should (my mum is always doing this!) Not that helps really, whether it was sister or mum, it was still a blinkin tactless thing to say!

For what its worth I thought you looked pretty good when I met you! And Ds obviously adores you too!

JackieNo · 26/11/2007 16:27

Yes - I'd be v annoyed too, Kew.

Hope the insoles do some good. If you can't do any exercise atm, I'd definitely recommend some sort of pampering - just had a hot stone massage, which was blissful. Slightly spoiled by my mobile ringing about 3 minutes after I'd set off in the car afterwards, to say that DD's ear is (yet again) hurting, and could I come and collect her. OH well, could be worse.

JackieNo · 26/11/2007 16:28

By the way Kew - the photos on your profile look great. The longer hair definitely does suit you.

Littlefish · 26/11/2007 18:31

I agree, your hair looks lovely longer.

Of course, your mother's comment was not a compliment at all, but your mother is never going to see it that way.

We all know that it's unbelievably crass and hurtful, and we're the ones that matter after all

I'll never forget my grandmother once phoning and saying "I was so upset when I last saw you - you've put on so much weight and it really looks awful". She honestly couldn't understand why I was so upset with her, that I refused to speak to her for a year until she apologised.

Some family members just seem to think they can say what they like, that it is just for our own good and that we will obviously really appreciate their input. Well, I say bolleaux to them and I think you should too.

Littlefish · 26/11/2007 18:32

JackieNo - Hot stone massage sounds heavenly. I've never tried that before, but now feel the need to rush out and find someone who does them!

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