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BigMoFos Week 42

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WigWamBam · 23/02/2007 11:22

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twoisenoughmum · 01/03/2007 19:36

Dotty and Suejonez - I find it fascinating what you say re. amount to lose. This is why I try not to be too hard on people who live on the "I want to lose 10lbs" thread. The thing for me, though, is that I do not want to be unrealistically slim. I am currently aiming for 9 stone 7 and I am 5 ft 2 and a half. Forgetting my messed up teens, I was 9 stone or a couple of pounds under for 12 years or so. Without dieting or giving a care to my weight. That feels like my natural weight so aiming for half a stone more honestly doesn't seem unrealistic to me, I am allowing for a lot more years and hoping not to be constantly dieting to maintain a reasonable weight. TBH, 10 stone would be OK. But if you look up 10 stone on a short small framed woman like me, then that's still overweight! I can't imagine what it would be like if I weighed another 2, 3, 4, 5 or more stone than I do now, and I know some of you on this thread are in that position. Its very interesting what you say, Dotty, about how life has changed for you now you are close to what you feel is an acceptable weight. I'm sure you have already read Fat Is A Feminist Issue - Susie Orbach has a lot of interesting things to say on the subject of feeling that you are "disappearing" as your weight melts away and that one reason (of the myriad reasons there are for why women battle with their weight) is that they subconsciously like to feel visible, in your face, substantial, immovable, not easy to ignore - whatever - which is what a fat woman is. As soon as you become slim, you become the "norm" and in some ways less individual. And I hear where she is coming from.

Fauve · 01/03/2007 19:52

Actually, I had a bit of a panic ten days ago about losing 'too much' weight. In the past when I've lost weight too rapidly I've developed (non-pregnancy) stretch marks and been really neurotic about them. But some of the panic may have been what you're describing - that I was disappearing, or at least becoming someone different. Needless to say I started eating more. I suppose it's quite an adjustment to make, changing shape quite radically. I've also lost about two and a half stone so far (over a loooonnnnggg period), with about another two or so to go.

ForcesSweetheart · 01/03/2007 20:21

TIEM, I read FIAFI when I was at uni studying Women's Studies. At the time I couldn't really see the point you just made, but I can see it very clearly now. Over the last 5-6 years I have attempted to "embrace" my super-size status and for a while was very involved in the BBW (Big Beautiful Women) community, ran a chat room and website, organised regular meets, never missed a night out at Big Girls Paradise, even my car reg is L15 BBW (my name's Lisa). I think however I have kinda used all that as an excuse not to care about my health. I have defined myself by my size for years, met my husband at Big Girls Paradise, and we've joked that he'd leave me if I ever got below a size 18. It's not funny though, and it's not something I feel I should be embracing any longer (even when I was doing so, it was something of a front to hide my self-loathing), not when it's killing me. It's very hard though to stop being that persona. I started a couple of weeks ago by changing my MN name, from BBWBabeLisa to ForcesSweetheart.

JackieNo · 01/03/2007 22:32

On the 'disappearing' thing - I find this fascinating. At the moment, I'm feeling more visible, as in, more conventionally attractive, than I was before. And sometimes I wonder whether that's a bit frightening in itself. Maybe being fat (and also being a mum) caused me to be less visible, even though there was more of me. And I've only gone down one dress size, so I'm not sure how I would/will deal with losing more weight. I'm not quite sure how it all works. Part of me likes feeling more conventionally attractive, but I do wonder how much of my weight gain over the years, starting around age 11, was a subconscious attempt to avoid having to deal with my sexuality. I'm not sure I'm really ready to look at that in any depth yet.

On a brighter note, ForcesSweetheart - my DD has the same name as you.

suejonez · 02/03/2007 08:40

OK losses this week are:

Jackie NO - (total 30lbs)
Dottydot 1 (total 15.5lbs)
Eeyore 0.5lbs (total 16lbs)
Fauve - (total 16 pounds)
ForcesSweetheart 1.5 (total 8.25lbs)
Cheesyfeet 2.5lbs (total 13lbs)
LittleMissSensible +4lbs
Suejonez 4 (total 42 pounds)

So a mixed week this week. My weight loss is for the last two weeks so the crown goes to Cheesyfeet this week (not up to WWB's crown finding abilities! I get a silver stone though so don't go away empty handed.

for LMS who had a bad week but will bounce back this week, because its a new week and we all start again.

suejonez · 02/03/2007 08:42

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suejonez · 02/03/2007 08:42

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