BigMoFos Week 36

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New week, new thread

Well done mytwopenceworth - good for you for being strong (even if you were being sulky too). You really are doing a fab thing, and it will be worth it, you know that. (Feel free to slap me now)

Oh, MTPW - how strong are you! I think you are doing amazingly well to cope with such a strict regime and I'm in awe of the willpower and strength of character that's enabling you to do this.

Is there anything that you do like that you might be allowed to substitute for the jelly? (And no, I don't mean cream cakes ) Maybe it would be worth asking the question.

Schneebly, I see your 12 Jaffa cakes and raise you one packet of chocolate Viennese biscuits and six packets of crisps ... and that's within half an hour this morning. Have been abusing food to cope with stress again ... I'd been doing really well, and at the first sign of stress I'm eating the fridge again.

mtpw, you are doing really well, everyone on here knows how hard it is and how easy it is to give in. I'm not one to talk, but hold on to that feeling you had this morning when you hadn't given in and remember how much stronger you feel.

I have just eaten the most part of DS's dinner as he is off his food, it'll be ok if I don't have anything else tonight but I am suppsoed to be going swimming and I know I'll be hungry when I get back. mtpw, i need some of your strength!

Hi all

MTPW god you are doing so well even though you are struggling.I cannot imagine what it must be like to not eat.have to say my dp is kinds the same in the "if you are hungry you will eat it".Men just don't get it eh?Hope you are feeling ok tonight x

I am having a glass of wine tonight (again) but have decided not to have alcohol during the week anymore.Will limit myself to 2 glasses on Saturday.

Has something happened to stress you out WWB?Sorry if i have missed anything wrong

Am eating late cos ds1 wants to eat with us and he is late,bloody pain in the butt!!!!

Not long to getting weighed and i am really nervous as usual.

Just letting you know I'm lurking. Will weigh on Thursday, although seems pointless as not making any effort with healthy eating at all. At least I'm not eating any more then usual, I just don't seem to be able to eat any less. I'll prob still have put on a few lbs as af due any day now. I SAID AF DUE ANY DAY NOW SO PLEASE BE NICE TO ME!!!

Can't imagine how you do it mtpw and so sorry that you have to go through this for your op and that you need the op in the first place. I am cheering you on from the sidelines and sympathising hugely. I can sort of understand why an almost-starvation diet might include milk and stock-cube drinks (at least tasty, and a change from milk) but ... jelly ... why on earth jelly? Why not an apple or an orange? Would love to know the science behind it.

WWB - feeling for you very much. Wishing the stress away for you.

there's no science behind the jelly, it does no harm (sweet and as near to 0 calories as you can get) and its supposed to be a treat on an otherwise crappy diet!

the milk is your food and the stock cube is your salts and stuff.

might be a stupid question and please do not bite my head off, but why not just follow a normal "diet" like slimming world, that just introduces you to a new way of eating healthily? surely if/when you go back to eating you will just put on more weight?

and you are more likely to stick to it ??

not a stupid question at all, it's a very good question.

i weigh a frightening amount. i have tried every diet under the sun and have failed again and again. i am totally addicted to eating - i comfort eat. a lot.

as any addict will tell, it is less difficult to go without altogether than to try to only have a bit. like a smoker limiting themselves to one fag a day, or an alcoholic only have one tot of rum. my addiction is the comfort of food. sadly.

i am due to have an operation to remove most of my stomach. i will never be able to eat a lot again, i will never be able to get fat again (in fact if im not careful i could die of malnutricion - sp)

it is similar to the banding and the bypass but it is very very rarely done because there are so few people who cannot be helped by banding or bypass. i have too much to lose for the banding to work and the bypass is actually a bigger op than the removal of my stomach. its not often done because it is totally irreversable. no more stomach. (well, except for a little strip)

also, because i have a history of binging and vomiting, although i have promised them i wont do it, i suspect they dont trust me and binging is dangerous after the other surgery - move the band / staples and require more surgery!

sorry for the essay.

Wow MTPW!

You are soooo brave!

That puts all my weight ishooos right in to perspective!

Well done for sticking to your diet and I'm cheering you on from the side lines too!

I can't believe how strong you're being, you should be really proud of yourself!

MTPW, the best of luck to you - what you're doing is very scary and drastic, but it will be such a positive step for you and your family. How long have you been at it? Does the doctor think you'll get there in the time left? Sorry to ask so many questions but I want to understand what you're going through. Also (and please feel free to tell me to eff off for asking such a personal question, particularly as I'm new to BigMoFos) how supportive is your husband being about it all? Your previous post suggested he wasn't being particularly patient with your jellyphobia! Sorry if this is out of line.

WigWamBam - how are you and your DD doing? Her doctor's appointment is tomorrow, isn't it? Hope it goes OK.

thanks.

songbird - i've been on this milk diet since new years day with the aim of losing 5 stone before i see consultant end march/beginning april (no appt date thru as yet). will i get there in time? i dont know i hope so. i have no scales that can weigh me. nor does my gp! the ones at the hospital beeped error also which tells you just how bad this is.

my husband, well, he's a funny old guy. he's lovely, supportive, understanding, infuriating and with no idea all at once! i know that sounds mad but he is such a contradiction. his idea of supportive is to tell you what to do, based on his 'logic'. if you choose to not take his advice he feels he has done all he can and you obviously dont want to be sensible! he thinks his way is the right way and his opinion is always right. in other words... he's a man! its like - erm, ok, if i'm upset i want a hug but he never will because he feels that a hug doesnt solve a problem, so it doesnt matter that I want a hug, i wont ever get one because he doesnt think thats what the situation needs. iyswim. but he does love me and what he does he does in the genuine belief its in my best interests.

so he's supportive of the diet because he seems the sense and the need, but he is not supportive about the jelly because he doesnt understand how you can not eat something just because you dont like it, thats not 'valid', so i'm on my own with that bit!! but on things he agrees with, he's fantastic.

Jackie - yes, it's tomorrow. Am taking dh along as extra back-up as I suspect they will just try to fob me off. She's a bit better, just sore when she wees now rather than all the time. And no blood for a couple of days. I still think we need it checked out though; something has to be causing this.

MTPW - men are weird like that, aren't they ... always have to fix things when actually you'd rather just have a hug or someone to listen to you moan!

WWB - hope it goes ok today.

MTPW - Hope today is better.

Sorry for brief postings - just read the thread GGG started, and am feeling overwhelmed.

MTPW - your dh sounds like mine. I remember once howling over some disaster or other and he was saying "what can I do?" so I said "give me a hug" and he said "but that won't solve anything" and walked off! I could have cheerfully thumped him ! Exasperating isn't it?

WWB glad your dd is on the mend. Sounds like you've had a frustrating couple of days.

Anyway, first weigh in this week and I have lost 5lb! [smug]

I am feeling particularly pleased with myself today.

Forgot to weigh again !

I'll do it first thing tomorrow but I'm not expecting any lose.....too many stress related biccy attacks! but I am hoping to have stayed the same

Nearly over now, 2 weeks to go, and only 78 returns to deal with!

Thanx for keeping me sane everyone! Every time it gets a bit manic I come and read your posts and realise there is a life outside this little office!!!!

Cheesyfeet - Wow. That's a fab loss! Well done! I've stayed the same, I'm afraid. But am getting back into the cutting down mindset, I hope. It's just taking me weeks, rather than days.

littlemisssensible - glad the end is in sight for you on the work front.

WWB - hope the appointment went OK for your DD.

I've gained 1lb. That's 2lb net gain since joining Big Mo Fo's. Must be doing something wrong LOL.

hey guys - 1 lb lost this week. Not bad considering I had a couple of 'bad days' but I got back on the horse as it were!

WWB - how did appt go?

Cheesyfeet - Well done!!!!

Thanks for asking about the appointment.

The GP listened, but as she was newly qualified decided that she wasn't going to recommend anything before speaking to one of the senior partners at coffee-break this morning. She was then going to call me before 2.30pm to let me know what the decision was.

Am still waiting.

Very for you, WWB. Though at least she was honest enough to admit she needed to check things out.

Hi all! Just a quick pop-in to report a 2lb loss this week - I'm glad all the deprivation has been worth it!

Am still waiting for that phone call ... I rang the surgery ten minutes ago and apparently the doctor will ring me "when she's finished with this patient". Shan't hold my breath!

I'm happy that she wanted to confirm her thoughts with another GP (although the GP she's speaking to blames everything that dd suffers from on the fact that she still has a nappy at night ), but just feel really messed about at the moment. I know that she's busy, but it was her who promised to ring me, and I've waited in all day for the phone call. More fool me, I guess.

How bizarre to blame it on a nappy - if that were the case, surely all girls would suffer from the same things while they were in nappies. Hope they do get back to you.