Is it Ok to cry a little bit

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I had some photos taken yesterday.

I know I've put on quite a bit of weight over the past year but I didn't realise quite how much.

It wasn't so much - God I look fat in that photo. It was more that I am actually someone that someone would describe as overweight if they met me for the first time.

That's making me cry a little bit.

I weigh 14stone.

Help!

It's ok to not like it. It's certainly OK to want to change it. If you feel like crying at the thought of a stranger describing you as overweight, try to remember never to do that to anyone else!

On a forward-looking note, do you understand why you've gained weight so you can reverse it, and do you have an idea in mind of what you'd like to weigh?

I've always been largish. Was a size 14 from teenager. Over the years I've crept up and now am a 16 with clothes being too tight.

I lost weight 2 years ago and was relatively happy (12 stone) and the fittest I've ever been. I could easily run 10k.

I run my own business so got busier, less able to get out for a run. I spend a lot of time working from home on my own so comfort eat. Toast, brioche, biscuits.

It's just crept up and up.

In my head I'm not thin but probably still have in my head the size 14 I always used to think was too fat - if that makes sense.

I now know the meaning of "I wish I was as thin as I was the first time I thought I was fat!"

You are not alone! Trip of a lifetime hol to California and I avoided most pics because I'm enormous. I look 10 years older.

Keep a copy of the pic for posterity and join weight watchers or slimming world. I joined WW before Christmas and have lost half a stone. I've got a long way to go be each week the loss motivates me.

Have a cry and then make yourself a plan - you can do it!

Thanks twowrongs

The pictures are for my company website so I'll have to look at them every day

Maybe I'll treat myself to some new ones when I lose the weight.

New photos for the website are a great end goal to focus on. Also set yourself some shorter-term goals. Working from home is tricky: I'm the world's worst distraction-eater! If you work in the kitchen, could you set up a desk elsewhere? Make sure you give yourself proper, mindful breaks from your work, and do something other than linger around the kitchen: go for a walk, Hoover the bedroom, go to a nearby cafe for a cuppa - just break the patterns. A meaningful break will be better for your productivity than absent-mindedly browsing the fridge! If working alone gets to you, make sure you build some social stuff into your life, whether it's seeing friends in the evening, or building networks with other business-owners.

That's good advice MrsAlibongo.

It's definitely boredom/loneliness. I think I use food as a reward a lot, in the place of any actual interaction - I need to switch to something else.

2 to 3 stone before August holiday should be achievable.

I think I just need to work out some short term rewards/goals. Maybe a manicure every half stone