What has your weight stopped you doing?

[sheena4514]

Hi, I'm new here so I hope everyone is well! I've been reading some posts and I suppose I am curious really, what kind of things has being overweight or obese stopped you doing? Like going on nights out, travelling, anything really. Even if it is body image related or feeling rubbish because of your weight meaning you don't want to go out (thats my own experience btw, not wanting to put words into anyones mouth!) I just think getting some ideas will inspire me to get cracking with a diet and maybe help us to remember why we started. Thanks in advance! xx

Going clubbing. I'm not a massive fan of clubbing really but even if I wanted to go out I wouldn't dare. I have nothing that looks nice and thinking of the pictures of me next to my beautiful friends makes me cringe.

Socialising in general I avoided in my uni years because I didn't have the confidence to do it. I felt everyone was looking at me as "the fat girl". I'm still fat but now that I'm older I care less about what people may or may not think about me.

I'd love to sky dive but I'm at least 2 stone over the maximum weight limit

Thankyou for replying. I completely understand, I feel like that with pictures of nights out being put on facebook or whatever, I always thing people will look at me as the ugly one, and that makes me not want to go out at all. But I'm pretty sure you won't look awful at all, and most of the time people are too busy thinking about themselves and what they look like to focus attention anywhere else. I hope you manage to get out clubbing and feel good about yourself too, more importantly.

Diving. My dp loves to scuba dive but the idea of wearing a wetsuit makes me want to cry (and has made me cry, occasionally). I feel terrible about it as it is one of his favourite things and I know he would love to share it with me. I feel like I'm holding him back.

You aren't holding him back, its not your fault. You should try and get into the diving you know, it might help you feel better about your body. When you have more self esteem, the weight loss will follow. Your other half won't mind. I hope you make it out there scuba diving x

sex.. ( but I have had to change my name to tell you that ) .. My DH doesnt understand it , but I just hate having him touch me when I am fat .
( i wont be back under this name )

everything - clothes shopping , seeing old friends as embarrassed about size, jogging or going to any keep fit class, trouble is its a vicious circle the less you go out the more you feel depressed and eat and it just gets worse

I know what you mean. I find seeing old friends particularly hard too. But someone told me once that it doesnt matter, weight is nothing, its not important. Much easier said than done, but you are still you, regardless of size or weight. Its definitely a vicious cycle, you're right. Feeling down and depressed makes me want to eat, I kind of resign myself to "well this is the way its always going to be" and to be honest, I just have a pity party for myself! But it doesnt help. I have started exercising and it feels really good, for my brain and my body. I hope you get on track and feel better about yourself soon.

I know it would make me not want to go away somewhere hot with certain friends (I have several very slim ones) and I'd, instead, want to hide away feeling upset and disgusted with myself. Seeing people you don't see often can make me self conscious. I'm not huge, am 12.5 stone, but do have a double chin and awful upper arms - look quite the catch in photos!

Great idea for a thread btw.