Oh gosh, I won't get upset at how little it seems ... it may not seem much to me, but I do understand how big a deal it is to you. The other thread wasn't so much about getting upset because slimmer women thought they were fat, it was more about seeing perfectly lovely, normal sized women calling themselves disgusting and obsessing over eating an orange. Reading their issues made me feel bad because although I know I'm not anyone's idea of a "normal" size, no-one should feel that their size defines them, and it saddened me that they thought it made them disgusting.
Seeing them listing the food they were eating, and knowing how much more I shovel in at a time knocked my self-esteem sideways; eating an orange shouldn't be a big deal to anyone, but it seemed to be to some of the ladies on the other thread. It just made me very aware of my own issues.
This place feels safe, and that's the difference. We all talk together, we have discussed our issues openly, and because we all share the same issues with food and have been honest about them, it feels more comfortable. Plus, because we get to know each other pretty well and know how each other ticks, we can put people right if their self-esteem issues get in the way. I feel comfortable telling other MoFos that they aren't disgusting, that they are worth more than what the scales say, and I know they won't get defensive on me. I didn't feel I could do that on the other thread.
I might get a doll to stick pins into though ...
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