Being left behind

[Redorwhitejusthaveboth]

Please throw some thing this way to help! Working mum of 4... Getting married end of this year... Have lost 1.5 stone in last year - through slimming world and my own diet. Have stopped sw. Roughly calorie counting now. Have Fitbit so increasing exercise.
Partner has lost 2 stone in 2.5 months with calorie counting and exercise.
He's doing so well and I'm not.
At the risk of sounding petulant - he has a gym at work so can workout at lunch , he also makes time to run at night. I however am not able to be able to make the priority in my head to do more - I'm permanently knackered and the motivation isn't strong enough.
I know I WANT to loose weight and I know how good I'll feel - but I can't seem to connect that to my day to day life.... Please share wisdom ( or arse kicking) with me

First off, congratulations on the 1.5 stone weight loss! That is an amazing achievement!

I too am not motivated to go to the gym, even though I too have one in the building where I work. The reason I don't, is that I know I would never be able to maintain it. I may be able to lose weight quicker, but the aim for me is a lifestyle change so that I can get to the size I want and maintain it. I know that I would never be able to maintain going to the gym forever so I am not going to use it a crutch to help me be lax on my eating.

Not sure if that helps, but that is my experience and view.

Congratulations to you and your soon-to-be husband on your loses. Exercise is really secondary when it comes to weight loss. Focus on dieting if you can't find time for much exercise. It really is just a case of eating less as boring as that sounds.

Maybe try a different strategy? For me aiming for no snacks, just three healthy meals works well. So most of the food I eat is at the dinner table only. But there's people on here doing well on 5:2, low carb etc so there's many things to try.

Hi redorwhite it is very unfair that men seem to lose weight more easily curse them. They can usually eat more of course, also having a gym easily available is a big advantage. How much would you want to lose?

What you eat is way more important than exercise. Research the work of Zoe Harcombe and Donal O'Neill (Cereal Killers) and you will start to appreciate that a calorie is not a calorie.

Don't b eat yourself up about going to the gym. I know someone who was bed bound for three years and lost a load of weight just by cutting calories.

Thank you all so much! I want to
Loose another 3 stone but probably won't do that by wedding day, so realistically 2 stone by dec - that's about 14 weeks ... So approx 2 lbs a week.