I was fb chatting to a friend this week; she's very depressed about the latest dieting 'failure'. Well, we've never actually met in person but got to know each other through a dieting site (minimins which actually folded recently
)) back in 2007 and have kept in touch through fb ever since (we also do the same job). She's always been a serial dieter (like me) and we have in turn congratulated and commiserated over our various diets/weight loss/weight gain over the years.
It has been an ongoing, constant, never-ending cycle of losing and gaining weight; feeling euphoric then depressed and despairing in turn.
I feel sad that she's going through this bad patch at the moment; I've been there many times over the years haven't we all. We had a long 'chat' anyway and today I see on fb that she's in a far happier frame of mind
and looking forward to her upcoming holiday again.
Diets don't work. I know that. She knows it. You probably know it too. What's the alternative? Being fat? Being uncomfortable? Being tired all the time?
I got off the dieting treadmill a couple of years ago and my research has lead me to believe that changes in thinking hold the key to long term success. I read a really good book called Eating Less (Gillian Riley) and it talks about how our brains work. I use its advice to help me deal with facing sugary foods now.
Its been a struggle for me to understand the concept; but its basically taking personal responsibility for my choices in order to create new neural pathways in my brain (creating better habits) so that the old responses fall unto disuse. There is a lot of research going on now that supports the theories discussed in the book. I think it is the key to me regaining a better relationship with food generally and its about time.
There is a link to her website www.eatingless.com if you want to have a look.
I am just getting ready to visit my favourite Tea House for a lovely pot of Earl Grey and a porridge
.