New Mums: Pre-diet we had pride, now we want new bodies!

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Here we go again!

Ok it's the magic thread where we find inspiration, motivation and actually see the results we want and manage to hold on to them once we get them.

No more excuses (unless they are hilarious or necessary).

Welcome all!

How is everyone today?

Is your DS feeling any better now Sol? I'm really impressed with your ability to fit in the crisps with the calorie allowance. That's a skill.
Hope today has been as good food wise.

Are you any better Rachey. I hope you've had some sleep too.

How has your week been so far Beyond? What are you using to count carbs etc? Is it just the Fitbit app or MFP?

I STS at WW, which is fine. I'm actually feeling thinner. I currently drinking wine and waiting for DH to bring a curry home. The wine is probably a bad idea as DD2 has been poorly today so will probably be up during the night.
She had a mini non tantrum today (you know, compared to normal) and a man interfered! I was raging.

Anyway. Tomorrow is a new start.

I was chatting to someone at WW Sol and she recommended a local selling site. Then I joined a mini Biden group and its amazing how much that goes for. I better start washing and ironing! I do give a lot if stuff to the woman's refuge and The Children's Society too. Some stuff is immaculate so it would be nice to get something for it.
I just looked at how much my double buggy costs now and it's practically double!

Boden not Biden. I haven't had that much wine!

Evening all,

Hope you are all well?

after 6 days of feeling rough Im finally feeling (alittle) better, I havent felt so rough in a very long time, im glad this week is nearly over. I really need to get my head down and focus back on my diet. I have been off it for 6 days now so Im going to start back up on monday as me and OH are out on saturday night for our anniversary and Im eating and drinking :)

green how was the continuation of decluttering while dd2 was at gp's? I never though to sell some on. ds's have a lot of gap stuff but they are so messy that I doubt by the time they are finished with them they will be any good.

was DD2 up all night or was she kind a let you sleep in a wine haze :)? was your curry nice? I could murder a madras right about now. have you got any thing nice planned for your birthday?

sol is ds2 feeling better? I hope the early mornings have stopped? ds1 thinks 5am is an acceptable time everyday :(

crisps are my weakness. well done for working them into your diet :)

Im the same with some baby clothes. there is a baby gro that ds1 and ds2 both wore on their first night in hospital that I am not giving away. I some how dont want to admit that Im not having any more children.

ds1 was naughty today and the step doesnt work so I put him behind the stair gate to let him "calm down" not sure whether this was mean of me but he was crying so much that he was very sorry afterwards and come up and kissed me. please tell me that Im not evil??

Hi Rachey. The curry and wine were lovely, thanks. Plus I had a relatively uninterrupted sleep, so that was good.
I didn't get much decluttered get done. I just tidied up. I'll try to get started soon, I started thinking about all the stuff we have and it got slightly overwhelming. I think I'll get some big storage bags so I can sort the stuff I want to sell into them and work my way though it all.
We have immaculate clothes because they are both stubborn about what they'll wear and we get well meaning relations buying stuff. Plus everyone buys girls dresses and I didn't put them in them much as babies. Plus we get piles of hand me downs, which is okay for messy activities. Although I've tried to stop accepting them as it's just too much.
Some I know might be interested in my double buggy so hopefully that might be gone soon.

I've seen patterns to make blankets/cushions out of old baby grows. Maybe I'll get round to that one day? The baby grows seem to hold the most memories for me too.

The naughty step doesn't work here either. I don't think you're evil, sometimes you have to distance yourself from them.
I shouted at DD2 this morning, she wouldn't put shoes/boots on to go out. She was in the hallway so I closed the front door while I put DD1 in the car.(just on the drive). That shocked her enough to convince her to get some wellies on. She was really upset but I don't think had I had many other options. DD1 had been ready to go for ages and I didn't think it was fair to make her late. I also didn't want to carry DD2 or do the buggy wrestle.
So is poorly so it's not helping things.

I hope you have a lovely anniversary. I'm guessing you will be going somewhere nice.
I think starting again on Monday is a good idea. You probably need a few more days of recovery, no point pushing yourself and getting sick again.

How is your DS doing Sol? How has the calories counting went?

Are you okay Beyond?

Hello all,

I am having a really hungry day - finding it hard to stay away from the kitchen. It was also DH birthday and I had carbs and chocolate cake - not hopeful for weight loss on Monday. Going to try and have a frugal weekend.

Hope you have a fab anniversary Rachey and I don't think you are evil at all. It's all very challenging ..... Glad you are starting to feel better.

That babygrow idea is lovely Green Lovely that you feel thinner. I share your pain, DD won't get dressed, have nappy changed or get in her car seat. I seem to be muttering a lot under my breath. I am using fit bit to count carbs but have been over 3 days this week (due to cake!). Will try harder next week which should be easier as have less social things on.

Sol hope your DS is better. Well done on your 1500 cals and fitting in crisps. I have to allow for some dairy milk every day. How do people stick really strictly to diets? I hope you have had a later than 0500 start today?

In other news, I did week 2 of couch to 5k. It was very hard....

They must be conspiring together Beyond, we also have nappy and clothes issues. Most days she wears a red frilly party dress with Minnie or Peppa wellies.

Why are carbs so nice? Why can't we just think *mmm celery?'.

...............feeling very bloated.............
just eaten a huge chinese, now I feel very sick. I can actually feel it still in my throat........why am I such a pig? :(

green my family dont buy clothes as they know how picky i am. I have to have ds's socks colour coordinate with their clothes ect. (very sad I know) although my dsil brought ds1 a pure white t-shirt.......needless to say it has not been worn :) I always feel girls look cleaner than boys. Mine are always so full of snot n stuff.

What kind of double buggy do you have? thats good that you can nearly get your money back :) that is such a great idea with the baby gro's. Are you any good at needlework?

ds1 loves the attention of the naughty step. I just need him to understand he needs a time out away from everything. We also struggle with nappies and clothes. I have to wrestle him most of the time.

beyond hope your dh had a good birthday. well done on reaching week 2, pretty soon your going to be running more than walking :)

Post of shame

Bottle and a half of prosecco
crisps
chocolate cake and piece of shortbread (when got home).

and feeling very ropey....

I want a chinese now Rachey

Glad to hear you're feeling better Rachey. Chinese sounds fab, I think I will be having one tonight as DH is away with work. I have to say I love the DS's in white tee shirts in the summer, they look so fresh and gorgeous. I just bung them in the wash with Vanish Ultra White and they stay perfect. You should try it. Naughty step doesn't work here wither with DS2, DS1 get threatened with the bold corner but he rarely goes in it. Our consequences for bad behaviour are loss of a bedtime story or a show they want to watch.

That's brilliant that you can sell some of the stuff Green, I hand down some stuff to my nephew but he gets loads of hand-me-downs from my SIL's family so a lot goes in charity bags. Do you sell it on a local FB page? I had a look on mine and a lot of it seems to have tags on and I'm fairly sure they were all stolen, I don't live in a great area though. I love the sound of the babygro blanket.

Hi Beyond, your post of shame made me very jealous. Are you feeling better today? How was week 2, what do you have to do on it? Part of me wants to give it a go, the other part of me think it would be a disaster...maybe I could do it on a treadmill?

My calorie counting is a bit all over the place, I've been very active and that has made me hungrier. We took the kids to the forest yesterday and walked the legs off them for an hour - DS2 is still in bed sleeping it off. We are going to try and walk them every weekend, they are like puppies that need a big walk every now and then.

I'm thinking of doing 5:2 over Lent. I was reading a thread on it and it might help shift some weight quicker. So if I stick to 5 days of 1400 and then have fast days I might drop some weight by my holiday. I will stick to it for Lent and hopefully then I'll be in the zone and it will be just the way I eat from now on. I think if I search back my posts from Lent every year I start a new diet, stick to it for a while and then go nuts after Easter. Why am I so crap at this?

Beyond I will join you with a post if shame. I'm sure it was all worth it :)

Half bottle of presecco
4 bottles of iPa beer
2 double amaretto
4 jagerbombs

3/4 of a large papa johns Mexican pizza

This was all last night. Needless to say serious damage control starting tomorrow.

Ds1 has been very miserable today. I've never seen him cry and sob so much. He is really struggling to poo today so I think that might be the cause of his distress.

sol that walk sounds fab. I agree with the needing to exercise then like puppies. Ds1 goes crazy if doesn't get a chance to run about.

Hope you all are having a good Sunday

Thanks for joining me rachey I am going to have to write the whole weekend off, it's been a disaster carb and calorie wise. Sounds like you had a good night :)

I'll join you with your plan Sol. And you are not crap. It's just so hard. Especially hard with 2 small people, tantrums, sleep deprivation and illness. It's a miracle we keep going really, let alone try to diet.

My weekend turned into one with too much food and wine as well.

I might get my jaw wired for Lent. Or at least give up cheese and wine.

I was thinking about giving 16:8 a try (alongside WW, if I can get back into doing it properly). I snack far too much on an evening, so maybe this will be extra motivation to just stop?

How is your DS today Rachey?

I sorted loads of children's clothes at the weekend. I think I'll give most of it away. There's too much and I don't really want strangers coming to my house to pick up stuff. I'll try to sell some of the larger things on Facebook. I found selling groups for some of the better labels, but you can post it.

I'm so tired today. Does anyone else just feel terrible when they have their period? I don't get cramps, but I just want to sleep. They aren't terrible or anything, but I was looking at the dates and they keep getting closer together.
Just feeling sorry for myself. I'm going for a walk with DD soon, then I'm going to make some soup and healthy meals for the next couple of days.

Shall we just write off the last weekend and pretend it never happened? Let's all do that. There's nothing we can do about the amount we drank, ate, no exercise etc. - so onwards and let's get our shit together.

I've read up on 5:2, I am fasting tomorrow. I worked out my TDEE and I will eat accordingly. Two fast days per week with an option for a third of I feel up to it. I'm going to take some measurements tomorrow as a few people on the 5:2 threads were saying the scales didn't move for a while but they lost inches. I am bloody determined to make this work, I need to take some responsibility for the mess I am in.

I feel dreadful in the run up to my period Green, I am cranky and bloody boiling hot, lethargic and just a general thundering bitch. I have no patience for the kids and just want everyone to leave me alone. I'll be some sort of maniacal loon by the time I hit menopause. Was your walk nice?

Are you going to do 5:2 Beyond? We can support each other. There's a whole 5:2 topic (I felt like I was cheating on this thread a little bit when I was over there) and they have lovely recipes. There's an inspiration thread too, I had a read about it and a bit of a sob. There was a Mum on there who never exercised and lost 4 stone just by following the diet - it gave me such hope.

Rachey, your post of shame was epic. I had a chinese last night and it was delicious. Have you tried suppositories for your DS? We have had to use them with DS2 occasionally and they are fab, they really work. Raisins soaked in water and then puréed and added to cereal and yoghurt are brilliant too, add apple for extra fibre. I found it was easier to use the suppositories first and then work at adding more fruit and fibre to his diet. I hope he's feeling better.

Day 1 of 5:2.

Soup on the hob bubbling away and stir fry pencilled in for dinner. Dh has decided to give it a go too as it is only for 2 days per week, so he has a huge salad with Cajun chicken and beans for lunch and a prawn stir fry for dinner. I took measurements this morning, they were very depressing, I would post them but I am so embarressed.

Right, off to clean the house and try to control Ds 2.

evening all,
sol I agree lets draw a line under the weekend :) Its a shame im such a greedy pig. 5:2 is a good diet, I did it after DS1 and lost about 1 1/2 / 2 stone but then got pregnant with ds2. I ate mainly soups and stir frys. Its good that dh is doing it with you, its great to have support.

Yes my measurements are depressing also, it was awful submitting them to the body coach along with the pictures. I really felt and look like a heffer. Please dont be embarrassed thou. We are here to support each other :)

beyond Thanks we did have a good night. I felt young again (hence the jagerbombs) we were meant to go out for a really nice meal but we were both tired so got drunk and had pizza instead :) I hope your week has started off well? have you managed to do more c25k?

greenlol I wish I could get mine wired also :) whats 16:8? (sorry if silly question) how was your walk? I miss pounding the pavements with the buggy. Im lucky I never really had any problems with my totm ( sorry if it comes across as smug) but Im dreading my periods returning, i kind of think it will happen soon as ds2 will only be breast feed at night and when im not at work in a few weeks time.

ds1 is still having pain while pooing. It makes me so sad to see him in pain. He is pooing about 6 times a day but it really hurts him. Its strange as he eats sooo much fruit, has a weetabix in the morning and drinks lots of water. I have a gp appointment on Thursday, I just hope its nothing that cant be fixed with a little medication (or prunes :))

I have failed in starting my diet back up as ds1 opened a bag of wootsits but didnt eat them so guess who hoovered them up???

I'm writing best part of this week off too! Fresh start on Thursday, I'm just trying to think of some meals so I can order my shopping for tomorrow.

Your meals sound really nice for today Sol. It's great that your DH is on board too. I've read some really good things about 5:2 as well. And when I've tried it properly I've had success, but the last few times have been a failure. I really hope it works for you. Being well prepared is key and you obviously are today.

I'm going to WW tomorrow. I'll see if there is much damage due to to misery eating. I'll a nice meal with DH and then try to get my act together again. I know I've been drinking and snacking too much.
DH is off to America next week, but when he gets back he is on a diet too!

Don't feel like you have to post any measurements on here Sol and please don't be ashamed. They are just numbers, you are a lovely person and worth more than that

Did you clean the house? There is a thread (on housekeeping?) about being your own secret cleaner. It's funny, I need to make more effort with housework. I have been improving recently.

I'm sorry I haven't posted any of the WW stuff. I completely forgot. I'll find where I've shoved the book and try to get sorted in the next few days.

Day 1 of fasting is done and dusted. Wasn't anywhere near as hard as I thought it would be and I didn't feel like I was starving, although I'm a bit peckish now. But I keep repeating "I'll just have that tomorrow" when I want something that I shouldn't. I will be eating healthier over the next few days while motivation is high and hope that I feel like carrying on.

My food today was:
Veg soup. I bought the packet with the veg in it and cooked it with a little more water than normal, so I had a mug mid-morning and then a big bowl at lunch time, it was about 170 cals for the whole pot.

Veg stirfry. Bought a packet of stirfry mix, added some extra mushrooms. Dry fried in a wok and added garlic, ginger, a splash of soy sauce and some stock. Delicious! It came to 300 for the whole thing.

DH had a a mid-morning cuppa soup and then cajun chicken with mixed beans and salad for lunch and the same stirfry with prawns for dinner. He is allowed 600 calories per day and found in very easy to do.

I am off to bed with a cup of tea in a minute. Hope everyone else had a good day!

Excellent, I'm glad you had a good day.

That's a great tip for the soup. I never know how many calories is in the veg(or can be bothered to work it out). So I might try that.

2 stone is amazing Rachey, did you find it hard not to overindulge on non-fast days? I'm a bit concerned about that. I haven't dared to take pictures, the only decent camera we have is the one DH uses for work, I would cringe forever if his workmates saw them. Your poor DS, I hope the doctor can help him, it sounds very distressing.

Thanks for the flowers Green. I was mortified about the measurements, but hopefully this will be the last time I will be this big . Hope you get on well at ww, have you lost motivation a bit? I got the house cleaned as DS2 slept in, I can do the main bits of the house in 30 mins when the kids aren't around to "help". I haven't heard of the secret cleaner, I follow the rule of "don't leave a room empty handed" though.

Oh I cross posted with you too Rachey, your night out sounds great. I always use to have such a great time when I went out with DH. I've turned into such a misery in the last few years. We need to start going out more.

The walk was nice. Mainly because the sun was shining. We didn't take the buggy, so we didn't get far. Less than a mile I would think. Still it was good, DD2 was very interested in everything. She is convinced that aeroplanes are 'space rockets flying to the moon'! We are on the flight path so see a lot. It's very cute, but I think she watches too much Peppa pig.

I had to look up 16:8. It's just don't eat for 16hours every day. I never have breakfast, so thought I could do 11am -7pm. It might be better motivation to snack less on an evening? I saw a thread about it on here too and it was quite positive.

My periods took a awhile to come back after DD2. But since I stopped BF they have got closer together. There has only been 23 days for my last 'cycle'. It's crap. They were always fine. They are heavier now too and I feel like shite.

Sol I've sort of lost motivation with WW. Plus I think I've been obsessing with ideas to cut calories (like courgette noodles and cauli rice). Then I've been snacking more because I'm hungry. So I'm going to have more carbs with meals and try to stop snacks.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/housekeeping/2566710-Ive-just-employed-myself-as-my-own-secret-cleaner

Secret cleaner thread

Had a non fast day today and I was all right about not pigging out but I was starving when I woke up (I had 3 and a half slices of toast for breakfast) but I don't think I went too mad. I made baba ganoush and fake hummous tonight - there's no tahini involved so it cuts the calories in half, very little olive oil too, about a teaspoon, so I can have it with pitta bread.

My main reason for being exhausted and hungry was because I was up for 3 hours during the night with DS2 (I read the secret cleaner thread at 2 am Green). He was hungry and freezing cold, but because he doesn't speak I didn't know he was hungry and it took me ages to work it out, but after a brioche and drink he went back to sleep at 3.30am. I am exhausted tonight but DS1 isn't asleep yet so I can't go to bed.

Could you have more complex carbs (wholegrain stuff) and protein with your meals Green? Cauliflower rice left me hungry and with wind that would kill a hippo . DH begged me not to make it again as I was toxic. I find protein is the way to feel full.

I stayed the same at WW. Time to get motivated again. I'm just going back to counting points and yes I am going to add more carbs to my meals. (I still like the cauli rice though!)
I really wasn't very organised today, even though I did shopping yesterday. So I have had granary toast for breakfast. Going to have a ready meal curry for lunch. Then some pork with salad and squash and potato for dinner. I'm going to try not to snack on anything but fruit and no snacking tonight. Wish me luck.

Toddler free today! So in a few minutes I'm going to set the oven timer and tidy for an hour. Then I'll clean surfaces. After lunch I'm going to dust, Hoover and mop!

I'm so pleased that it's half term next week. Mainly because the shoe battle won't be as important! DD2 has been much better this week, although she is poorly and keeps wanting to lie on top of me, using my head as a pillow and holding my hands. So that isn't too restful!
I had a small victory with her yesterday. After refusing to wear a lovely pair of Startrite princess shoes (too late to return). We picked a cheap pair up from Asda. She tried the Asda ones on in the house and decided she hated them too. So I produced the Startrite ones and now they are the best thing ever. Plus she wore a coordinating outfit! Amazing.

Did you have a better night Sol. TBH it takes me awhile to figure out why I've woke up, never mind what the small people want! I remember a similar night with DD1 when she had just turned 2. I was heavily pregnant and had work that day. I cried and DH sat up with her, the not speaking can be very frustrating.

You've done well with your food though. When are you having your next fast day?