How to help DH to loose weight

[shebird]

DH needs to loose a few stone. He has been overweight for the last few years but he has now reached 40 and needs to do something as I fear he is headed for major health problems.

He enjoys food and we eat well cooking from scratch etc. but beer and curry are probably his biggest downfall. He has tried dieting before but the trouble is I end up spending time preparing healthy meals and packed lunches while he continues to eat curry and drink lots of beer grrrrr. Any ideas or success stories of diet plans or ways to motivate the man in my life?

I made curry today I'd guess it was very low calorie tin of tomatoes 2 tablespoon curry powder onion chicken breast would making your own b an option?

My Dh likes a few beers too on a Saturday nite and his beer belly is def from that even tho he runs a bit. U can't. Outrun a bad diet

if he continues to guzzle and swill without exercise he won't lose weight.

so he has to stop swilling and eat a good variety of food in reasonable portions, and move around. Nothing wrong with curry BTW.

you can't do any of this for him. If he won't change, ask him at least to update his will.

How often does he do the beer and curry thing?
Presumably not every day?
If not, then go for offsetting: make meals the rest of the week bulky but low cal, so a curry night won't be the end of the world.

Hi and...help! I need similar advice. DH is in a similar position. He lost 3 stone last year which was absolutely fab but its got to a point and its just stuck/creeping back on. It worries me so much and I have sleepless nights which may sound dramatic but the health issues really panic me as I think he has sleep apnea (sorry not sure of spelling) and the weight must be putting a strain on his heart and other organs. Last year when he was losing weight it was through weight watchers but he left and won't go back. Trying to motivate but feel like I'm nagging all the time and it causes rows. Tried other tactic of keeping my mouth shut but finding that works even less. Its not an issue of me finding him unattractive or anything but know the older he gets the harder it will be and the more it will be detrimental to his health. TIA and sorry to jump on thread but seems like a similar situation!

I think the Atkins diet is good for men as it doesn't have the association with being a 'girl' diet that some diets have. You say Atkins and people assume you spend your day eating bacon and eggs or steak. Low carb diets such as Atkins/paleo/primal have the advantage of being filling because you're still eating fat. They also have a reputation for working better for men than for women, a lot of men find they can 'cheat' on a low carb diet and still lose weight. My DH went low carb last year and lost about two stone (he refuses to weigh himself but his waist went from 34 to 29") even though he still drinks beer.

You cannot.
Until HE chooses to get it under control you are just picking a battle you cannot win.

I have to agree with TalkingPeace. Its up to him to lose weight himself if he wants to. If he hasn't asked you to help him lose weight then leave it. We are not their Mothers.

Does he even want to lose weight?

If so, perhaps he could join MN and take part in some threads to motivate him?