New Mums still seeking new bodies - this time we'll do it.

[SolitudeSometimesIs]

So a new thread, a new more motivated state of mind.

We will be skinny. No more excuses.

Have you been following weight watchers or are you doing your routine of eating little bits in the day and having something tasty in the evening?

When you say she wasn't impressed what do you mean? Was she upset or a bit clingy? I hate to say it, but she might be picking up on some of your stress about leaving her (that's meant in a non-judgey way, I am a pool of angst when it comes to leaving the kids. Case in point, I cancelled a birthday night out in a few weeks because Tiny is extremely clingy at the moment, he howls crying until he vomits when we leave him with anyone). I know how you feel.

I'm on Day 3 of only eating once per day. It is going surprisingly well and I think I might try for Day 4. I'll be interested to see how much weight I lose on Friday.

I had a bit of a "Oh for fucks sake" moment today - should I trade mark that phrase I wonder? - So, I went shopping for jeans. I bought 2 pairs of size 16's thinking that they would both fit. Ha!

Pair one - fit well, bit of a weird muffin top going on but nothing I can't hide with a loose top.
Pair two - I can't close them! These are from the same shop that I bought pair 1 and the bloody things are super tight. I have put them in the bottom of the wardrobe until I feel less hideous. It really annoyed me that I couldn't get in to todays size 16's comfortably, I thought I had come so far. My pre-pregnancy ones fit.

It must be a good week to diet. I started on Monday as planned and haven't cheated (yet). Feeling positive about it all at the moment. I think it's because I don't want to buy any new work clothes!

I've been skipping breakfast ( it just makes me hungry) and waiting till 12 to eat. Drinking more water, and I've not had any bread products or pasta. I've meal planned till next week and shopped for that. I'm going to give up wine too. hahaha

I have no advice on babies, mine is still very clingy. She is actually much better when DD1 is around. DD1 is with my parents today and she's spent all morning chasing me round and moaning. When she hasn't been doing that she's been trying to injure herself. DD1 was such an easy baby compared to her!

When I have left her with people (family) she's been fine. But starts to moan and cry when she sees me. I'm sure she'll grow out of it. My motto is 'go with the flow' or 'pandering to her' as my DM says.

The jeans are probably cut in different factories Sol. Different dyes can shrink fabrics too. You have came very far. Ignore the size labels, just wear what makes you feel good.

I wouldn't bother with the bottle Beyond. I'm never sure how much they are supposed to have by this age? Baby finally ate some breakfast today. She refuses if she's had a morning feed. It must be good if your baby is having cereal with formula? Good luck with that and the nursery anyway.

I teach 11-16 year olds (science). I'm looking forward to seeing work friends and payday. I'm worried about the teaching part. I can only imagine being given cover lessons to do. Teenagers are unpredictable things. Like babies but not cute! I'm sure I'll be fine though. I've been there for 11.5 years, so 10 days won't bring me down!

I am sort of doing a ww/low carb mix. I am really bloated though, think TOM although difficult to tell as only had first period last month. Will hold off weighing in!

Did you go for day 4 of fasting Sol? Forget those jeans, size 16 is fab!! I am sure the pair that fit are true to size and someone pooped the wrong label in the others...

I think I'll continue with a bf in mornings and evenings (and during the day when we are home together) only 2 months until she is 1, so little point in persevering with the bottle really as you say Green. May get some different cups at the weekend to try.
Gosh - that's going to be a massive change for you, leaving work after so long.

I am sure DD picks up on my anxiety/guilt. DH took her to nursery this am (her last settling session) and he texted me to say she was hysterical. But I think she will be ok, reportedly she has been playing and she is eating. Takes after me, nothing much puts me off food

Happy sunny weekend :)

Gosh Green, you have my respect. Teaching is such a huge job, nevermind teaching teenagers. I bow down to you. I would be shitting myself if I had to go in to a room full of teens and try to impart wisdom. They are so gobby these days, I mean, I was no angel back in the day but I kept my head down and my mouth shut because I knew my parents would murder me if I was cheeky.

Your week sounds like it was going really well. There must be some diet related mojo in the air, we all seem to be doing the right things. Thanks for the kind words about the jeans situation, it was very annoying but I will get over it.

Ah Beyond, another one of your classics. I hope no one "pooped" the wrong labels . You never fail to cheer me up. I can't believe our DD is nearly 1, it's gone so fast. I hope she settles in well, I'm sure she will, the handover at creche is just gut-wrenching though.

I did fast for 4 days. I ate like normal today. I am really liking this diet. I only lost 1 lb this week but I have lost 2 inches from my bra size. I've gone from 40 inches to 38 inches - in one week. So I'm very happy with that. I was talking to my brother, he follows this plan and has lost 4 stone and he was saying there is no weight loss for the first week or so until your body really gets in to the swing of it and then you start to see big results.

Kind of had a weekend off the diet. I didn't go mad or anything, just had a few meals a day instead of just one. I'm back to normal now though, I had dinner and a cup of soup today so it was fine. I'm so tempted to just have another "day off" today, but that's how I always undo any good work I've done.

I went shopping yesterday for an outfit for a christening I have coming up. I was so embarressed by my size, I really needed that shock to keep me on the straight and narrow. So I picked an outfit but didn't buy it, the christening isn't for another month so I'm going to give it a few weeks and try the clothes on in (hopefully!?) a smaller size. So a positive out of a potential blubbery negative. I mean blubbery as in I could have cried, not as a reference to my size.

I hope everyone is getting on well. We all seemed very motivated. Let's keep it up. I know it's hard work and it's boring, but it will be worth it.

You know how unhappy we all feel when we try on clothes? We can change that permanently by just watching what we eat for a short time. Instead of feeling a bit crap, we can be happy when we look in the mirror. I don't mean to sound all preachy but I really felt that it would be so nice if I didn't dread trying on clothes. We just need to watch what we're doing when it comes to our eating habits and it will happen, we will lose weight and feel better about ourselves. I used to love shopping, now I get the sweats just thinking about it.

So. I'm staying commited for another week (it's one week at a time isn't it?) so I can stay on the path to being trimmer.

I am so friggin hungry. I'm pottering around on MN so I don't go in to the kitchen looking for food. Ugh! Must re-read post above that states that I will stick to the diet.

Thank you Sol. It can be very scary. I'm not a confident person so I don't know how I've lasted so long! But it was starting to get me down, so I hope that I've made the right decision by leaving. I also had murderous parents, I think there is a lack these days.

You sound like you are doing really well, I'd be chuffed to lose that off my bust too. How much weight have you lost now?
How long did it take your brother to lose his weight? It's an amazing amount. My brother got the thin genes, it's sickening. He never over eats and if he puts weight on he cut has to 'cut back' and it drops off again.

Shopping for clothes is a nightmare. I try to avoid it now, it used to be one of my favourite pastimes. That's a very motivational speech that you've wrote, not preachy at all. I was actually thinking in a similar way this weekend. DH mentioned curry on Sunday night and I did have a good think about it. But we ended up with beans on toast. The reality of only having summer maternity dresses that actually fit this weekend was highly motivating. I've been stashing money away for a new wardrobe (of clothes, not one from Ikea) since I had DD1. I'm loathe to spend it on size 18 stuff.

Anyway, had a good weekend. Didn't eat excessively. No wine passed my lips. Feel a lot better, I think I've lost all of my 'Easter/Birthday eat like you've been starved' weight. Going to wait till Friday to go on the scales. So I'm with you this week. I even squeezed a fast day in yesterday.
I don't know what's wrong with me. I hope it's permanent and not just a result of having a chest infection.

It sounds like you made the right decision to leave. I have worked in jobs that made me miserable and it's soul destroying. Well done on the curry avoiding, it's hard at the time but these are the small victories that end up making all of the difference. I've had some wine this week, in fact, quite a bit, maybe 2 glasses per night. Which doesn't sound like much but there's 900 calories in a bottle of wine. Goddam tasty liquid fat.

My brother took over a year to lose his weight, 13 months I think. And he did no exercise,. He was quite overweight - we are a family of big eaters with a very soft spot for takeaways - but he looks amazing now. I'm quite jealous of how well he's done, I wish I could just get my shit together.

I'm finding my motivation fluctuates constantly. It's very much a daily grind to keep on the straight and narrow. I'm just taking it one day at a time. I know that makes me sound like an alcoholic or something but I think I am addicted to food, I love it, but unfortunately I am having to avoid it before my weight gts out of control.

I am so hungry. So very, very hungry.

It's not fun being a hungry fatty.

It will be fun to be a skinny girl though.

My weighing scales isn't working as the battery has wasted so I have to replace it at the weekend. Then I'll know if it's all been worth it. I think I can see a hint of cheekbone emerging.

I have a jar of pickled onions for such occasions.
Do you want my cold? It's put me off my food, which is unheard of.

My chin is starting to emerge from the blubber, one day we will have visible ribs. I don't think I've ever had cheek bones, so that's probably asking too much.

Stay strong.

Thanks for the offer Green but you can keep your cold. Are you ok? Seeing a chin is good, I'm still on a countdown from multiple chins to one.

The only way I will have visible ribs is via x-ray or if I order some from the chinese (and as I'm a veggie they would need to be tofu ribs, barf!)

I'm getting used to having one meal a day, I usually have it at lunchtime and then burn it off for the rest of the day. I am losing weight but none from my tummy. Infact my belly is looking bigger due to weightloss in other parts, it's grim. I look pregnant.

However, I plan on saving a fortune on holiday costs by by-passing plane travel all together. All I need to do is flap my enormo bingo-wings and I can soar in to the sky and be off to somewhere exotic. Y'know, silver linings from being saggy and all that.

Does this mean I might have to exercise, gulp!

Just a quick one - I'm still here ish. Will try and catch up later!

Hope you have all had fabulous weight loss this week!

Hi Beyond. Hope you've had a good week, are you back to work yet?

Which part of your tummy looks bad Sol? If you have a gap in the muscles and it is bulging above your tummy button it will look pregnant. I have the same. I can recommend an exercise programme to help repair it. I did it after DD1 and it helped flatten it. It helped my back too. Then I got pregnant again and stopped doing the exercises! I really need to start them again.

My stomach is horrendous, it could be used to help reduce teenage pregnancy rates.

I'm not sure about bingo wings, I'll be going for long sleeved tops. Think of the clothes you can buy with the money you save on flights. My arms are still 'chubby'.

My cold turned into a chest and ear infection, which is horrible. But is slowly getting better. I started eating again on Friday. I've lost 6lb in 2 weeks, but that's just what I put on over Easter etc. so I'm back to 12lb in total (since Jan). I'm making soup today.(mushroom)

Yes 2nd week back - hence my absence, I have been trying to be really organised so not had much chance for internet time. I STS again!!! Trying really hard for a weight loss this week.

I'm not sure my tummy has ever been flat and my arms aren't up to much either Onward we go and we'll be rakes???

Desperate measures for me, christening in less than 3 weeks and wedding in 5, no chance to go shopping and no flattering dresses. have a possible, but need to lose 1/2 stone. So need to try vv hard from now on!

It's actually easier being at work, no time to eat.

Well done on your weight loss Green, 12lbs is excellent. How you getting on Sol?

Hi all,

not doing great this week. A death in the family, a birthday and a cancer diagnosis in the immediate family. So dieting has been the last thing on my mind. I haven't weighed myself because I haven't had time to replace the batteries in the weighing scales. I'm writing off this week as I truly can't be arsed watching what I'm eating and I will start next week again (re-start number 53 I think), I just can't put any more pressure on myself. Having to explain death to 3 year old DS was particularly dreadful and solace was found in wine shortly afterwards.

Anyway, onwards and upwards.

With grace we will suffer, with grace we shall recover (repeat 20 million times per day).

Sorry for the maudlin post.

I will be back to normal next week.

Oh Sol - you poor things. Thinking of you. So sorry for your loss and your truly shitty week.
Be kind to your self - dieting so not a priority.
Take care lovely xx

Sorry for your loss Sol. What a horrible week.

I'll echo what Beyond said about the diet.
Look after yourself.

Hi all,

Checking in to report zero weight loss - again!! I think I have just reached the point where I need to be carb free and +++ exercise. Bit hard with the non stop BF baby! I am feeling motivated though, trying to have a sugar free week...

How are you Sol?
Green - how's things with you?

Hi. I'm back. Feeling a good bit better. Can't talk about what's gone on in the last week as I find it best to draw a line under things and move on. Which is a dreadful way to deal with grief but hey ho, that's my way. Ok, , that's me drawing a line under it.

But thank you for your kind words.

Are you thinking of exercising Beyond? What have you got in mind? I want to try the shred but I can't be arsed. Motivation- free May has been followed by Just-can't-be-bothered June. Catchy titles but not good for weight loss.

How is being back at work going?

Hi Beyond, diet not going so well. But I'm trying to find some motivation before the weekend. My baby is also BF all the time, she just isn't that interested in food. It's exhausting isn't it? I just want to eat crap, it feels like the newborn stage again.

Glad you're feeling a bit better Sol. I don't think I'll be doing any real exercise till at least September.

So we need a punchy title for July....Jubilant July for the new mums???

I am trying really hard though, weigh in on Sunday. Tiny refuses a bottle, will only take a small amount from a sippy cup, so I am really stressed about her fluid intake. As you say green, being exhausted doesn't help.
Work is not as bad as I thought it would be, I am enjoying doing something other than toddler groups...
DS is being quite challenging at the mo, think we are going to have to set some boundaries. he loves nursery though. Obv feel guilty as the baby is still not keen. But I hope the balance with work/home will be ok, time will tell.

Exercise - I'd love to fit some in, but I'm not sure how. I am walking from Euston to work, 3 days a week, that's almost 6 miles in total.

That sounds like great exercise Beyond. I'm trying to get myself motivated for exercising when the kids are in bed, but I'm knackered come the evening. I have The Shred dvd on my tv and I feel like if I just do it once I'll get in to it but I can't be bothered.

I think your DS is the same age as mine, we're getting some monster behaviour. We call him a threenager. We've brought back in a star chart for good behaviour and then a treat at the weekends, this weekend he'll be going swimming if he keeps a sad face sticker off his chart. I think a lot of kids act out when there's change going on.

How old is your baby now Green? Is it growth spurt related feeding? Tiny DS has started on puree's (we wean earlier here) and he is finally stretching to feeding every 4 hours, it was every 2 hours prior to that and it was exhausting.