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Weight loss chat

A space to talk openly about weight loss journeys and challenges. Mumsnet hasn't checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. You may wish to speak to a medical professional before starting any diet.

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Losing the stones one guinea pig at a time...

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HenriettaPye · 24/09/2013 18:02

Hello quiche avoiders

Lovely shiny new thread- we are a talkative bunch!

First Thread

Second Thread

To be a quiche avoider you must
-have a considerable amount of weight to lose
-be serious about wanting to lose it
-give other members a virtual kick up the arse when needed
-weigh in with us on a Wednesday (or if you weigh in on another day, post your results on a wednesday)

So roll up, jump in and lets lose lbs! and if you are having a moment of weakness just remember... what would clarinet do

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Isthiscorrect · 26/09/2013 16:17

Blast. I did weigh myself on Wednesday morning and ment to post but ds not very well and got distracted between phoning school and the doctor. However good news it was another 1lbs off so that puts me in the next bracket down by half a pound.
Well done to everyone for sticking with and super well done to clarinet, a true inspiration. I love 'knowing' someone who has actually achieved. Awesome!

LegoAcupuncture · 26/09/2013 16:55

Well done on the losses everyone.

I feel a new lease of diet life after resisting pizza last night. Have had a great day.

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HenriettaPye · 26/09/2013 17:24

I want to cry
And shout.
And eat a full chocolate cake washed down with full fat coke
Today was the first time I seen my cousin (who I grew up with) since she had her first baby 8 months ago. We all met up for lunch (her, a few more cousins, my mum, her mum, our grandmother and 2 more aunts)

She's always been as big as me, however she's now skinny. Id guess a size 10. Which is great for her however the whole lunch was about how fab she looked and I wanted to cry when she said 'oh now I'm a mum I don't get time to eat! I'm always off doing fun things and going walks with my DC. I don't know how people are fat when they have children!' I wanted to scream 'why? Do u think I sit on my arse and eat chocolate and ignore my children?! Do u think you are a better mum than me just because you are thin??' Then my delighful grandmother chimes up with- 'Henrietta, you should take note. You have 2 children to run about after so you shouldn't be the size you are'

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Alibabaandthe40nappies · 26/09/2013 17:36

Henrietta :( :(

What a horrible thing for her to say - you would think that having been overweight herself she would be more sensitive.

Stay away from the cake, because it won't actually make you feel any better.

((hugs))

IsThatTrue · 26/09/2013 17:38

Oh henrietta family suck sometimes! How twatish insensitive of them! Just think how far you've come and who you are doing this for, yourself not them!

My mil went on and on to SIL about how she was losing weight well after she had DN, whereas DS was 12 weeks older and I put on more weight after he was born. So I sat there like while she praised how well SIL was doing. Now I'm 3 stone lighter, SIL has since put back on her weight and mil doesn't even mention it. Some people are just arses.

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HenriettaPye · 26/09/2013 17:56

The whole lunch was about how awesome she looks, what a fantastic mother she is, what a perfect job she has done of raising her child. And then they all joked saying how her 8 month old will probably walk before my 13 month old. (Her child don't even crawling yet- mine is walking around furniture and can walk holding one hand)

Then my 3yo DS was talking about a friend at nursery school when my grandmother piped up- 'oh I thought he would be the type to sit on his own all day and not mix with anyone'

I realise I sound like a whiny pathetic child now.

Hope they all wake up tomorrow and are 20 stone heavier

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IsThatTrue · 26/09/2013 18:12

An awesome mother? To one 8 month old? And bring compared to you with 2 children under 4?

It sounds like they were being really quite spiteful actually, you don't sound like you're whining at all. Merely hurt by some very horrible comments.

phantomhairpuller · 26/09/2013 18:12

Rise above it Hen, I'm sure they didn't mean to be so insensitive. You'll floor them all in a few months when you've lost a stack of weight

Seriously, don't let them wear you down. Your doing this for you. Not anyone else. Bollocks to what they think.

MissElodie · 26/09/2013 18:35

oh Hen sorry you are feeling so you're not sounding whiney - I would have been the same too after their hurtful comments . I've had similar said to me - 'oh its a wonder you're not a rake with all the running about you must do with three under 3'!! some people just don't think. Try to rise above it and in a few months time they will all be full of praise for you when they see you're losing weight (not that it matters because you're doing it for you not them but you know what I mean! )

I too would want to be reaching for a full chocolate cake but try to resist....here have this which is only slightly less satisfying honest !!

moonshine · 26/09/2013 19:08

Hen - sorry, but they sound spiteful, not an attractive quality in anyone. You, on the other hand, sound lovely. Leave them to their bitchiness - and step away from the cake .

Debs75 · 26/09/2013 20:23

Hen they sound dreadful. I bet your cousin has been anxious about her weight gain and your aunt probably said to your mum and gran that she was worried. They have then gone completely overboard to make her feel better whilst not realising how shit they have made you feel.

Step away from the cake, weight does not make you a good or bad person it is the inner bitch which makes you nasty, thank god you have let the rest of your family have that quality

BirdingWidow · 26/09/2013 22:43

Hen, I agree with all of the above! They have been horrible and you are not unreasonable to feel hurt and annoyed, and you are not whinging. i would be the same and would also vent, its what we are here for.

But you can lose weight. Not for them, and not in spite of them, but because you want to. And they will notice, whatever they say.

Motivation is coming and going a bit here, but I keep plodding on. Have just resisted some G&Bs sea salt milk chocolate which I promised myself I could have when watching the last in the series of Dexter (we are v behind the trend and just on series 2 of boxed set!). But I had 2 finger of fudges yesterday while hanging around at the O2( saw fleetwood mac and they were brilliant!) so have already gone over this week. So no further treats earned. So no salty chocolate for me. It's what clarinet would do .

cq, I hope you are feeling better today too.

BirdingWidow · 26/09/2013 22:54

Meant to add to new people: some of us are on MFP. If you want to add me I am also BirdingWidow on there. And all my friends are from this thread (I don't have any other weight loss friends!) so you can find some of the others through my profile too. I am sure I am missing some people, do pls add me.

I took delivery today of my two Hairy Dieters cookbooks. Anyone tried them yet? I realise that if I am in this for the long haul I need a variety of options and to make family meals work as much as possible. DP is supportive but only in a passive way. He still requires MEAT for a meal to count. And carbs. Salad is strictly a garnish . I gave him a Si and Dave diet chicken pie the other week and he didn't notice it wasn't fully loaded so I am hopeful.

LayMizzRarb · 26/09/2013 23:13

hen that is bloody rotten. I'm sorry. It is why I never 'congratulate' people on weight loss. Losing weight does not make someone a 'better' person.
Everyone in this race is a winner. Those who finish first or fastest are no more worthy than those who complete it surely and steadily.

LayMizzRarb · 26/09/2013 23:21

I'm v pissed off at my minuscule weight again this week, so I'm taking it right down to the wire. I have been prescribed 41 WW points, but I am taking it down to 26 ( the lowest they prescribe for anyone). My diet will consist of lean protein, fruit and veg.
I have 43 days before I go on holiday and would really like to lose 10 lbs before then, to make my total loss 2 stones.
I am going for quite a while, so have just bought some travel bathroom scales on Amazon to take with me

clarinetV2 · 26/09/2013 23:37

Henrietta, I probably don't have much too add that hasn't been said. I think you're a winner in every way - you made a courageous decision to do something about your weight, you shared your decision on this forum, and you started this wonderful thread which has already helped a lot of women with their own journeys. Boy, have you achieved something worthwhile in the last few weeks. I agree with LayMizz about not congratulating people for losing weight - to give your gran and cousin the benefit of the doubt, they could have 'just' been extraordinarily clumsy and thought that in some way by dwelling on your cousin's weight loss they were giving you an incentive to lose weight. Obviously they went about it in a way that was utterly insensitive and they should have had the sense to realise that they were being cruel to you. But they didn't. So hit some cushions, shout out loud all the things you'd like to shout at them, and then let it go. You're a terrific person, you sound like a wonderful mother, and you are strong enough to lose weight irrespective of what your gran and cousin think. You rock! You have every right to feel upset, and if it's derailed you today (not sure whether that's happened), that's understandable. Back on the wagon tomorrow, though. And if it didn't derail you, and you managed to step away from the cakes, you deserve to feel hugely proud.

In a year's time your cousin will have a whiny toddler. In two years she may well have an obstreperous two-and-a-half-year-old and a newborn. Let's visualise the calm, confident, healthy Henrietta with her beautifully brought-up DCs generously dispensing help and advice to her at-her-wits'-end cousin. Could happen, you know!

phantomhairpuller · 27/09/2013 03:16

Birding, I've added you on MFP- I'm mrsmorg. Anyone else feel free to add me, I'm a bit new at the MFP lark!

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HenriettaPye · 27/09/2013 08:33

Thank u all for your support last night! It really helped, and I didn't make any unhealthy food choices! Been up since 6 with dd who has cried non stop since she got up! Going to be a long day

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BirdingWidow · 27/09/2013 12:52

Henrietta, Well done for resisting temptation! You inspired me today... No one has even been horrible to me but tescos were selling giant toblerone at half price. The old me would have bought one two and eaten one in a day. And that is why I am fat. But if you can resist chocolate cake when feeling down, I can resist toblerone.

I'd better not go near tescos for a few days though

Debs75 · 27/09/2013 14:36

Still full of cold craving food which feels daft seen as I can't taste anything. I think I might make some soup and sip on that for the rest of the weekend

Reastie · 27/09/2013 14:53

You know what I've been thinking - do slim people just have naturally more willpower or do their brains work differently? I was with someone the other day who turned down a biscuit and said 'no thanks, I'm not that hungry' and I thought, I would likely consider to have one/try to stop myself even if I was full up. Do you think they have stronger full up 'buttons' on their brain or something . Even when I've eaten a meal I just don't get that full feeling so I couldn't eat more like other people talk about .

debs hope you feel better soon

Phantom I'm going to try and find you on MFP (although I haven't had time for it much lately)

Lay easy for me to say I know, but, in the grand scheme of your WL one weeks result is nothing. It will make the losses be sweeter too.

good grief HEnrietta . How are you feeling today? Do they have any idea how what they said makes you feel do you think?

Debs75 · 27/09/2013 15:39

Reastie I read to day that slim people may have more will power because they are slim and can visualise the damage a doughnut would do whereas overweight people are already overweight so think 'sod it'
I agree to a certain extent. At WW there are a few women who were once slim and are now overweight, they can draw on old pics of themselves in bikinis etc. I have always been overweight so I have no idea of how I will look when I ditch these 4 stones.
Am starting to feel better, have had some more herbal tea and cold and flu tablets. Looking forward to a long sleep tonight

IsThatTrue · 27/09/2013 21:42

Bad bad bad day. :(

Fresh start tomorrow.

Night all sleep deprivation has a lot to answer for in my life

LittleRobots · 27/09/2013 22:20

Bad day here too. And started with such good intentions!

BirdingWidow · 28/09/2013 08:24

Oops. I had a three course meal and half a bottle of wine last night - rare night out with a girlfriend. Well, I enjoyed it a lot, will just put it behind me and try to have a good weekend.

Hope you all manage a good weekend!

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