I'm a fat mess, I really need help, I'm an emotinal eater and just a pig!

[AppleJuiceRocks]

I'm at the end of my tether and becoming seriously down,

Since having my first child 8 years ago I've gone up and down with pregnancies but have NEVER been 'slim' again since my first pregnancy.

And for the whole 8 years I've HATED my body. I have depression and i eat ALOT. I'm a pig, I'm being tough on myself here because I need to face up to it!

I asked my husband to get me a packet of cookies when he was out, he came back with a packet of 8 large cookies at about 2pm. I've eaten 6 :(

I just hate myself.

Im 5ft 5 and I got myself down to 12 stone after xmas, my goal was 10 stone 5.

I got pissed off with it and just started eating badly again (it was bloody hard for me to loose the weight)

I just weighed myself and I'm back to 13 stone 3!

I just keep putting on a stone, loosing it but never loosing more, then gaining it again.

I've tried WW, SW, Exante and Slim and Save.

I hate having sex with my husband because I feel gigantic. He's not seen me naked in years, I won't even take my bra off during sex.

I'm so so sad. I need help :(

Has anyone been in this cycle and beaten it? How??

me too

oh gosh - sorry I can't help either - I'm there too.... rock bottom... need to dig myself out or health issues will arise pretty soon......

But a big well done for admitting to it here - next stage is to admit to it in Real Life.... and ask for help ... start with the doctor or nurse - that is where I am now - they have been so nice........

I have had great success with the 5:2 diet. I too am an emotional eater/boredom eater you name it, I'll eat for it. I love doing the 5:2 diet because it has freed me from the daily obsession with food, I eat very little for 2 days a week and normally the rest of the time. Although I still eat like a pig just before my period the rest of the time I eat 'like a normal person' for the first time in my adult life. I have been doing it since January and have lost approx a stone, I don't weigh myself regularly to avoid the inevitable 'I haven't lost anything I may as well give up' scenario. I look & feel better than I have in years so I use that as my gauge. I love it and feel like I could happily eat like this for ever. there are loads of supportive threads on here about it. Good luck, it's shit isn't it?

I think I have beaten it with the 5:2 diet, I manage because on a fast day I know I can have something nice tomorrow.
I am also doing couch to 5k which is getting easier every time I run.
I am the same height as you and have lost just over 2 stone in a year I have 5lbs to go to get to my pre children weight of 10st 10. My eldest is seven and this is the longest time I have kept it off.

I ask my husband to help but he's sick of it now. Not because he's a dick but because I've been doing this for years... theres only so many times he can say he will help and support me only for me to loose it at him for suggesting maybe we shouldn't have a curry, etc.
I know its my fault, food seems to be the only thing I have to enjoy.

Please don't speak about yourself like that!
I think that there is a healthy way for all of us to lose weight, we just need to find the one that suits us.

I really believe that exercise helps mood and motivation.

But please, enough with the negative comments about yourself. You are not alone and need to see yourself as worth the effort to make yourself healthy.

Well I am much, much fatter than you but I don't hate myself. I have lost 3 stone since January doing a mix of 5:2 and cutting out bread and wine. I was slightly disappointed to discover that I am still a resident of Tonga on the global fat scale, but hey ho, I have another three stone to go and I am confident that with 5:2 I will achieve it.

You just need to get your mindset right.

Good luck.

Try Paul McKenna's "I can make you thin". He has techniques to help with emotional eating, breaking habits etc. - I've lost about 10lbs so far - and I'm still heavier than you!

Don't beat yourself up, it really doesn't help.

Think of how determined, driven, focused and intelligent Oprah Winfrey is - plus she's rich - and she still can't sort out her weight once and for all. If you are unlucky with metabolism and emotional eating patterns it is very, very, very hard.

I think you need something else to focus on besides the food.

Please be kind to yourself. Could you spend some time doing something just for you? Don't beat yourself up about it. Write it off and start again, take it day by day. For me what works it moving more and eating less. Take baby steps.....

some suggestions
cut down or cut out sugar or sweeteners in all drinks
go for a walk everyday with DC
say no to seconds

start small and gradually take the control back. keep posting and let us know how you are getting on.

I love that Smudging "eat a bit less shite" :) definitely helps!

whats the 5:2 diet?

2 days fasting per week. There are loads of threads on here about it. Worth a look.

I've lost 4 stone through low carbing. Can't recommend it enough

you are addicted to sugar in just the same way that some can be addicted to fags or alcohol.

Seriously you need to go cold turkey and remove the refined sugar from your diet.

There is sugar and high fructose corn sryup etc if you have time to eat cookies then sit yourself down and watch see what he says about how sugar, the polictics behind HFCS and what he says about fruit and fiber

Oh and remember this guy is a doctor, he is a qualified endocrinologist he does know what he is talking about.

Hello applejuicerocks
Sorry you're so down.

You might be Interested in the thread that sixpackwellies started (although she was something else wellies at the time ) to share thoughts about emotional eating. It's Called "healthy, revolutionary and gorgeous" there are a few of us there, all different weights, all wanting to lose weight and get healthy, using different methods for weight loss and sharing our thoughts and food diaries.

Feel free to jump in.
Please be kind to yourself.
We will.
Em.

And you're not a pig.
I could easily have eaten those bastard cookies.

Hi apple - it's a crap way to feel isn't it :(

Nothing worked for me until I started low carbing. I've lost 32lbs since the beginning of February and I'm never hungry and the best bit?? I no longer crave carbs and kitchen surf!

BIWI's bootcamp threads are brilliant - lots of lovely people going through the same thing, loads of ideas and tons of support... want to come and join us??

I'd have seen the whole packet off, without a problem, before low carbing :)

That sugar lecture is fascinating ivykaty, a real
Eye opener- I just hope I can keep my teenage dc off the coke/ monster/ relentless type stuff.

Me too. I've tried every single thing, everything. McKenna, 5:2 ww slimming world slimming pills, hypnosis. Nothing has ever made any difference.

I eat because of the meds I'm on. Am watching this thread with interest. Have just been to see about having a gastric band which is v v tempting

Really good books that have helped me loads when nothing else did are brain over binge and taming the feast beast

Brain over binge author kathryn hansen has a blog and there is also a discussion forum

Ivykaty thank you so much for posting a link to that lecture. I watched it last night with increasing surprise and horror. Absolutely fascinating and actually quite terrifying for public health.

AppleJuiceRocks I hope you can find a way of eating that helps you find a healthy weight for the long term but also helps you feel better about yourself. Please try not to be so hard on yourself . Fwiw after watching the lecture that IvyKaty linked to I would have a look at how much sugar you are eating. Good luck