Healthy, Revolutionary and Gorgeous!

[SixPackWellies]

Good morning Fellow Revolutionaries. Welcome to Thread 2!

Me today:

coffee with soy milk
2 ryvitas with half an avocado
spicy tomato soup (homemade) with a green salad
Small portion of roast pork, with lost of veg, a tablespoon of gravy!

Onwards and Downwards!

I am a doofus. Seriously.

Yesterday was going SO well?and then?

Got home, shaking through hunger. Had 2 digestive biscuits. Then 2 biscuits with cheese. Then went out. Had a bottle of wine (weep) and a packet of crisps. Then came home. Had rump steak, salad and fries. Then I had a milk lolly. WHY WOULD I DO THIS TO MYSELF?!

Am a tool.

Anyway, woke up with a fright remembering a text I received from a friend?about Glorious Goodwood. Now, I was planning on wearing jeans, t-shirt and a blazer with ballet pumps as my (male) friend banned me from wearing heels. He has a point, I do moan an awful lot if my feet hurt. Female friend text me last night asking if I?d chosen my dress and if I was wearing a hat. Err?what? Of course, we haven?t yet decided on the date and I have a feeling we?re going to go on Ladies Day. So I need a dress.

I also received an invitation to a wedding in September so I need a dress for that too.

I?m all for recycling dresses but I tried one on this morning and nearly wept. To get into one dress (only worn once for a wedding) I need to lose another 2/3lbs and seriously tone up the stomach. To get into the other (worn to two weddings, gorgeous dress with lovely matchy-matchy shoes) I need to lose about another half a stone. And seriously tone up the stomach.

Of course, I might just buy a new dress.

Twinkle teach me how to dress properly please!

Wellies congratulations on weigh in!

Morning 50 naughty landlord?I can?t believe they?re so lax about it ? we make sure our rental property has the gas safety check on the same date every year, I don?t want to get into trouble! I do need to book it actually, it?s due in 3 weeks.

Emily where?s your one good point? Good idea not to fast though. Holidays are not meant for fasting. I agree that it?s nice to know I?m not alone so thanks to all who shared.

Today I plan on eating better (won?t be hard) ? breakfast was a croissant, no tea yet as I fancied sparkling water. Lunch is pasta, salad and some cured meats. No idea what dinner will be. Oh and no alcohol.

One good thing from me: I have fat ankles. "What?! That's not positive!" I hear you cry. Well it is when your friend asks if anyone wants her (worn once for an hour) L.K. Bennetts because the straps keep falling off her ankles. Your other friends try them and again, their ankles are too thin. You rock up with your fat ankles and like a true Cinderella moment, they fit perfectly Proud owner of some L.K. Bennett wedges and they only cost me a glass of wine. Huzzah!

O&D!

Hazel [wags finger] you are NOT a doofus. You were hungry, your blood sugar was down and next time you need to make sure you do not get in that situation again, by maybe having a snack in your handbag ready for such scenarios. [lecture over]

Your plan today sounds great- and lots of fun things coming up for you!

Ha hazel I am not entirely convinced that at 8 13 you could have fat ankles but if you can get some lovely shoes out of it then it sounds good. Totally agree with wellies about snack preparation. Fruit's a good standby I think. But not a toffee apple .
Good point? Oh, actually, I believe I am good at bowling, although haven't been anywhere for some years.
Hungry now. Might forage for lunch when the gooseberries wake up from their naps.

Emily it's true, I do! I have very wide ankles, been a laughing point in my family for years but finally it's paid off! I went to the sandwich van...got a double decker for DH...and for me? Fruit. I'm feeling a bit smug actually. I've just devoured a cereal bar to keep me going a bit longer but I'm really pleased I resisted the chocolate.

at you being good at bowling. I am rubbish. I've always wanted to be good at bowling.

wellies you're right, I shall keep snacks at hand for future.

Hazel I really empathised with your post. The amount of times I have thought I looked nice only to then see a photo and feel horrible !! I cried when our wedding photos came through because I felt so nice on my wedding day and saw the photos and hated them :( its for this reason we dont have a single photo of our wedding up in our house... but fwiw you sound like you percieve yourself very differently to how others do ! I read a really good line once in a book i think it was something like "if it was just about eating less and moving more than everyone would be slim, but it is so much more about what goes on in our heads". Or roughly along those lines. I think that is so true. Facebook is the devil as now everyone can see photos of us that would never of been shown around before !!

I hope your grandad gets better soon. Your post about the LK Bennet Shoes really made me giggle ! I too have very "sturdy" ankles.

Wellies - fab weigh in - well done :)

Twinkle any tips on dressing well? Could do with some advice. I am right at the very heavy top end of the healthy weight for my height atm, find that a lot of things just make me look a bit "heavy".

50 am jealous of your fingernails. Mine are short and bitten and stumpy on my sausage fingers !! I used to get them done properly but no longer have the time/money .. boohoo.

Em Im not talking to you. I want to be in Turkey eating turkish delight..... the food sounds delish and actually not really that unhealthy.

I do like the idea of doing positive comments about ourselves. Hmmm...I like that I tan easily ! Spent a few days out in the sun this week and feel I look better for having a bit of colour.

Fasted yesterday. I'd guess that it came in at more like 700 rather than 500 cals but still a lot better than Tuesdays pig out.

NFD today :
B - Coffee with milk
L - Chicken Katsu Curry with Rice (was out)
D - Salad leaves, cucumber, roast beef slice, coleslaw
S - Crunchie, Glass of Red Wine

I MUST UP MY WATER !!!

Fasting tomorrow...

It's really hard for me to dress you when I've never even seen you . Have you thought about going to one of those consultations at John Lewis or Debenhams? The personal shoppers?

I think it's all about highlighting your good points. If you're heavy on top, wear skinny jeans. Wrap dresses look good on everyone, if that helps!

Today's menu

Scrambled eggs
Humous wrap with salad, soup
Chicken, brown rice and broccoli made into chicken fried rice
Fruit and yoghurt

iheart well done for fasting. It feels so good doesn't it?
You're right, it is easy to eat well here with grilled meat and salads and an abundance of lovely fruit. But I shopped yesterday and we have Cheetos and chocolate now . Also dh doesn't knw about the chocolate so I could scoff the lot.

twinkle your menu as always looks delish. I think it's a real art to dress well. It's ver easy for skinny teens to wear latest fashions but I find that I need to be more sympathetic to my shape. Sometimes that means being up fashionable. I always wanted to wear strappy tops but have to face the fact that they don't suit me .

Last night I had very little to eat because poor dd was antsy at diner. Ds ate most of my meal and I ate most of his ice cream .
I am attempting a fast today. It's a bit of a psychological experiment. All about control really. I have to confess I am very annoyed with dh for being out of order yesterday. Obviously bickering is not an option with DCs around. So I am being nice and calm and avoiding food rather than comfort ea ting. It's all about control (maybe has slightly unhealthy undertones but I can't drink so I need something ) and even though it's only 8:40 here (I have been up since around 5am) I feel good about skipping breakfast. If I want I can eat tomorrow (luxury first world issue).
So, that may sound a bit ED ish I know. But we'll see how it pans out when there's ice cream on offer or at dinner tonight.
Will keep you updated FRs.
Em

Emily I hope dd is less antsy today and that your fast goes well. I'm fasting too today. Am antsy myself. Offered on my dream house yesterday but the seller only wants asking price. It's been on over 9 months FFs. Anyway, like I said to my ds - as long as we are together, happy and healthy it doesn't matter where we live! Still feel down in the dumps. Was so down yesterday I did the shred in the evening to release endorphins but didn't really work. Today I did w2r2 of running. Supposed to be a rest day but I need some happy hormones. Sorry for the downer everyone.

To end on a positive, I'm going out for bandied this weekend and its the first weekend in months and months when I can have a whole sat at home. No weddings/ parties/book club/ emergencies/ days out planned. Yippee. And can iAds a new motto - JFDI. Just fucking do it. Read it on another thread and stole it.

Emily just re read your post. Hope your dh is less 'out of order' and the rest of your holiday is brilliant. I salute you for being in control of eating in holiday!

Hi baking. Good to have a hand to hold during fasting. Sorry about the house. Moving is terribly stressful. They may change their minds or you'll find another perfect home.
DH is being fine.but he doesn't acknowledge any wrongdoing on his part. So frankly I'm still fuming.

Following an apology from DH I am forced to reconsider my zero fast/ hunger strike . I haven't eaten yet today but just off out to dinner. I may well end up having done a "mini fast" today

Emotional eating? Moi?

iheart I?m so sorry you felt so bad over your wedding photos It?s a horrible way to feel isn?t it? I?ve noticed I?ve started to wear baggier clothes just to hide myself. I?m of your ability to tan easily though, I always burn! LOVE the sound of your menu yesterday, just far too yummy! I also need to up my water.

twinkle personal shoppers scare me! Probably because I?m very aware how difficult it is to find clothes which suit me. I do tend to stick to skinny jeans so it?s good to know I?m doing something right

baking JFDI has been my motto for years. Unfortunately I?ve got a bit lax at that recently. Sorry to hear about the house. I hope you?re feeling a bit better this afternoon x

Emily at your DH. It?s so infuriating when people refuse to acknowledge they?re in the wrong. I admire your ability to stay calm. I need to work on that, I let my frustration bubble under the surface and then suddenly, it all erupts in one go. I hope you manage to enjoy the rest of your holiday. When are you home?

Just for a change, I screwed up my diet again.

Yesterday:
B ? croissant
L ? pasta with cured meats and salad
D ? chilli and salad
S ? fruit, TWO cereal bars, half a sodding tub of Pringles and 2/3 of a bottle of wine.

Today:
B ? soft boiled egg with toast. Unfortunately the white wasn?t quite cooked (yet the yolk was only just runny?!) so I?ll be having a word with my chickens tonight.

L ? 2 rounds of egg mayo sandwiches
D ? chicken fajitas (yummmmmmmm)
S ? Wispa. I will finish the bottle of wine and I?m likely to go out for a few because I?ve had, what I like to call, a shit day.

Still it?s Friday and the sun is shining.

Have a lovely weekend all, any nice plans?

Hazel don't feel too bad. My fast wasn't great. Did well till 4pm. Had scrambled eggs with salad. Then lots of bites of the kids tea - homemade chicken burgers. But ran today and am going for a walk now. Haven't lost a bean this week, I think it's the running. You've got my brain hooked in the word wispa!

Emily - enjoy your meal tonight.

Emily Im glad your DH apologised. For what its worth I think you have done really well to mini fast on hols ! Enjoy your dinner tonight. Hope DD is better too.

Baking I too have not had a v good fast today. But the way I look at it is that it is still probably considerably less calories than would have eaten if not attempting to fast. Scrambled eggs, salad and a few bits of chicken really is not much at all. You sound like you are doing really well with exercise too. I am looking forward to being able to start - at my postnatal check the midwife said it has to be 12 weeks after a c section minimum - so got another 2 weeks to go.

Twinkle Im another one who is scared of personal shoppers. But will keep a look out for a nice wrap dress. I cant fit into any of my skinny jeans atm...grrr.

Hazel reading back what I wrote it sounds so pitying and self obsessed! Sorry What matters about my wedding day was that I got to marry my lovely DH not how I look but its hard to keep it in perspective isnt it. I'm with you on wanting to hide away in baggy clothes sometimes. You shouldnt feel to bad at all about your menus, go out and enjoy yourself if you've had a bad week..thats what Friday nights are for after all .

Baking im sorry to hear about the house. We too are in the process of moving and it is beyond frustrating. Enjoy your peaceful day tomorrow.

emily I missed that he'd apologised glad he did & enjoy your meal tonight

Right, pub beckons! 'See' you all tomorrow x

Good evening everyone.

Hazel your post about the shoes really made me laugh!

I also agree about having snacks on standby. I find a good combination is fruit (healthy boost to your blood sugar level) & half a dozen almonds or other unprocessed whole nuts (fills you up so you won't fancy another snack in half an hour, as it provides a slower source of energy than the fruit). If I need to snack (rarely these days due to this diet) I have something like this.

OMG I am knackered. DD woke us up at least 7 times last night. I thought we had left those days behind us! She appears to be teething so we have dosed her up tonight...

We ran out of time for the meatloaf yesterday so I did it today. I sort of did a combination of Nigella & Delia's recipes. Gorgeous, will be making it again. DD appeared to like it too, given how much she stole from my plate (seriously). She appears to take after DH, he is very tall & strong, with appetite to match. Unfortunately he is attached to the sofa at the moment, whereas, she is permanently racing around playing & climbing on everything.

The only positive I can think of at the moment is that I am definitely starting to feel a lot better about myself. I've gone from a size 16 (beginning of December) to a 12 & can get into a few size 10s. I'm also starting to think about possibly starting running. I've never voluntarily run before. Even at school it was under protest. I've seen the threads on Couch to 5k etc, & they've sort of inspired me.

I am going to fall into bed now.

O&D FR

hazel sorry you had a shit day. I hope the weekend is better.

baking well done for running. Finishing ds's food was a big issue for me. I never imagined I would want to do that but it's surprising how enticing a cold fish finger can be.

iheartshoes I found it very frustrating after my c's. I ranted about the gym on aibu and a physio sent me some useful links. I can try to pm them if you like.

twinkle now we'd all recognise each other in the street in our wrap dresses. .

50 ^only^ good thing. 16 to 12 is amazing. That's inspirational shape changing.

Dinner. Dh decided we should eat somewhere ^nice^ (what's wrong with crisps and ice cream?) so we ventured out and got lost with the help of a map, guide book and satnav. I insisted on stopping to feed ds (roadside ca type thing-it was soooooo late). Ds loved his chips and grilled chicken. Dh hated his kebab and my trout was pretty rough. So ds ate well (dd always does ) dh didn't (meh). I ate very little [waves own Pom poms] and now we're all up having coffee and toast and watermelon.
I think I've gained about half a stone just in mosquito bites.

So does JFDI apply to lazing round the pool all day?
Please say yes baking.

Emily lol at 'half a stone in mosquito bites'. You poor thing
S'not fair! I barely slept Thursday night at all (TBH none of us did, due to DD). Was convinced I'd sleep well tonight. Did I? Did I hell! DD slept right through (thankyou Calpol) & I have only had my usual 7 hours. Pathetic! I am still knackered.

Today I am having:
B scrambled egg, Ryvitas, maybe smoked salmon.
L Meatloaf with salad
D Not sure yet, I'm having a 'meal off' tonight so I can have anything I want. Have already planned pudding though, chocolate sponge cake with cream & cherries. I have been fantasising about chocolate cake for ages. I'm going to try not to go too mad with the meal though, maybe chicken & chips, the local chip shop do really nice ones even better than KFC. It will probably be a small portion anyway as DD is very good at 'helping' ie stealing food off my plate. Is clear she knows she's not supposed to as she takes it, puts it back, takes it, tries to feed it to me, etc etc for a while before she fully commits to it. Once she realises she can have it, she will just lean across & help herself. Hollow legs. It must be.

O&D FRs

Oh 50 I feel your pain. Those disturbed nights are awful. Really knock the stuffing out of you. Yuck.
I like today's menu btw.
I read a book by the woman who presented "country house rescue" (I forget her name) called "fat girl slim". Lots of vy delicious healthy luxurious recipes and some tips about weight loss. Once a month she allowed herself to eat freely of her favourite calorific foods- bread and cheese in her case. Kept her on track the rest of the time. She only ate her luxury food on that day, nothing else.
The chocolate and cherry pudding sounds fab.

Emily - JFDI does apply to lazing around the pool!

I heart - I hope your move goes well. I've still got my heart set on the house and we will up our offer (grrrr) in a few weeks. Feel like the seller is holding us to ransom.

50 - wowzers!!! You have done amazing!! Top tips please?? As for running, I started c25k two weeks ago. I love it. I'm sure it's stopped me losing weight but I'm sure I've lost inches. I feel thinner. It's addictive. So JFDI.

Weigh in today. Lost nothing. Despite shred, running, 3 fasts. Boo. However, my positive is that I FEEL and look thinner so I know something is happening. Oh, and a weekend of no fasts and sat is my eat what I want day. Have a fantabulous JFDI weekend revs.

Baking and Emily thankyou. I may actually smash my phone - I just did a really good, long response, & the bloody thing crashed & lost the lot. Gah.

I started off calorie counting (boring & ED triggering), then 5:2 better but a bit ED triggering, now on Clean & Lean. Not triggering, also specifies no wheat, excellent as wheat is a trigger for my IBS.

Must get up now, DD awake.

Help me, FRs?

I?ll come back and do a weight loss style posting in a mo but I need some advice, completely off topic?

We?ve been invited to As wedding in September. I met A through B, who I went to college with. I wouldn?t have met A otherwise. I?ve always got on well with A, we?ve had nights out without B (as they?ve had without me) and even though we haven?t seen each other for about 3 years (when the 3 of us got together for a meal), we?ve stayed in touch by sending birthday/Christmas cards and the odd text.

B and I have always stayed in touch, we saw each other a lot last year and we became really good friends again. I didn?t go to her birthday night out this year because I was sick and she has since distanced herself from me. We?ve text a few times but I?ve not seen her since January.

I received the wedding invite from A and assumed B would be invited too, mainly because they used to be best friends. So, I didn?t text A and ask her because I assumed B would be invited to the whole thing (we?re evening reception guests) and I didn?t want A to feel awkward.

Never has the phrase ?Assume makes an Ass out of U and ME? been more appropriate.

I text B and asked if she was going to As wedding. I got the reply late last night... ?Well I haven?t had an invite so I guess not lol?

So?.what do I do now? I feel awful. I have no idea how to answer Bs text. What on earth can I say?

As far as I?m aware, A hasn?t heard from B at all recently. I doubt A has Bs address (I don?t even have Bs address). I know B is extremely jealous that A is getting married and I know she?s going to be hurt that I?ve been invited and she hasn?t.

I?ve seriously cocked up haven?t I?

Should I text A and say ?A, I think I?ve made a boo-boo. I assumed B was invited...and I think you can guess the rest? I am so, so, sorry, I feel awful. Please don?t hate me :-( xxxx??

hazel

Just let me enjoy that for a moment.
Don't worry. She would have found out anyway.

Here's my couple of lira's worth....

1. Don't be too apologetic. It was an easy faux pas to make and not the worst. (it's not like you shagged the groom is it?) [redirects to aibu? If this ^is^ the case]
2. Call A and 'fess up. (but note point 1).
3. Txt or call (whichever feels more natural) B and just say you're sorry that she's not going and you didn't mean to hurt her feelings.

There must be a reason that B is not invited.

On reflection I'm not even sure about point 2. Was it to be a secret wedding? How were you to know?

[awaits input from more reasonable FRs]
em

Hazel try not to worry about it.
a) B's invite could possibly be in the post?
b) If they are/have been having some problems & neither of them has bothered to mention it to you then realistically, how on earth do they expect you to know? Psychic powers?
c) Did B not even know that A was getting married? If not, I'm guessing they have been out of touch for a while. Therefore they shouldn't really blame you for accidentally getting mixed up in it. If B knew A was getting married, surely she can talk to A herself (assuming there is no ongoing argument) or, if there is a problem between them, she should have been expecting this?

Either way you look at it, it seems like it's their problem & hopefully if either of them value your friendship they won't try & get you involved.

HTH