5ft 9'ers...

[deva87]

What would you class as your ideal weight? Do you use BMI or go off your clothes size?

Am very about clothes sizes, I am 5,9 and 15 stone, a size 16/18 (more 16 though) but a few years ago I was very ill and went to 11 stone and was a 12/14 in clothes. I go to the gym and try to watch what I eat and am losing very slowly but I am actually happy this size as a 12/14 didn't suit me.

My ideal weight is about 10st, maybe 10st4, or size 10 on top, 14 on the bottom. I've no boobs mind, so need to be lighter than most to be comfortable.

Am 12st currently (size 14 on top, 16 on bottom) and really need to get back to 11st7 at least....

Never been on this part of MN before but am really glum about my size

Saw 5 9 thread which I am , ideal weight 10st 10 size 12. Current weight 15st 10 size 16/18 more like 18

Keep thinking I must do something , a friend said to me the other day overeating is like self harming and in my case shes right

Anyway this seems like a jolly thread so I will take my glumness elsewhere !!

gettingeasier, i have lost 3 and a half stone (going from 16st6 to currently about 13st) using food focus and myfitnesspal.

gettingeasier - I was heavier than you this time last year. I started WW back in April 2011 - and even though its expensive, I think its the best thing I ever did as its taught me how to portion my food. I gave up in November weighing 13st 6 (down from 16st 6) and through healthy eating (tracking through my fitness pal) and the combination of that and missing my OH, I've lost another stone and a half.

You can do it :) you just have to put your mind to it and just decide enough is enough! A pic of me with my son on his first birthday did it for me.

Morning I am 5'11" and currently 12 st 5. Am losing weight through low carbing and loving the way of eating. It really suits me and I wonder if I am gluten intolerant. My waist is huge due to due much wine but am size 12 top and 14 fat arse. I get so pissed off with clothing sizes in different shops though

Getting easier- you can do it if you want to. There are loads of support threads on here for whichever weight loss programme ou decide to go with. Good luck

completely agree deva (sounds like you're about a stone lighter than me, from the same starting point :o)
The enough is enough comment is completely right. I have no willpower until I have the "enough is enough" feeling then I have all the willpower I need and more.
A photo did it for me too - a picture of me aged about 20, when as far as I was concenred I was fat. Yet I had a waist and my face was noticably thinner.

I love having lost weight, I am wearing jeans again. Clothes I've had in my wardrobe for years fit. I have thrown all my oversized scruffy stuff out. I still have a lot to lose but have proved I can do it once I set my mind to is, and that's what matters to me.

I am 5'9" and currently about 11st 2. I am a large size 10, sometimes go up to a 12 for tops as I have 34D boobs. 18 months ago I was up to 12st, which I was not feeling comfortable with even though I was no bigger than a size 12. I have lost the weight just through exercise and portion control. I would like to get down to about 10 st 5, which I think will get rid of the remaining flab on my stomach and hips. I think I look pretty good as I am now but could do with being a bit lighter to improve in my sport (cycling) as my power to weight ratio is not in the best balance at present.

Great to hear all your stories about losing weight. I am trying to get inspired and enthusiastic... I have 8 weeks till we go on holiday and I would be very happy if I could lose 8lbs.

It just goes to show what a difference your "body-frame" makes - when I was 8 1/2 stone in my early 20's I was still a size 10 but looked really gaunt and ill - clearly I am "big-boned" as they always used to say in the 70's

I'm 5ft 8 1/2 - weigh 9st 7lbs. My measurements are 36 - 26 - 36 and although I fit into an 8 sometimes I still feel my thighs are large - they still rub together. Would love my legs to be slimmer but if I lose weight it's more likely to come off my upper body and I don't want my face to look scrawny.

Betty, I am 5'8" but a stone heavier than you. You sound like you have a perfect body
I am 34 - 28 - 38 with a very broad back and no norks and thunder muscular thighs too

Also if I lose weight, it goes off my face and chest so leaving me with that horrible rib-cage look and my thunder thighs - not a great look!

Hello again thankyou for your supportive messages

Maybe enough is enough for me too as I have come back to this unknown territory

I have been here twice before and lost weight via WW and ended up working as a pretty good leader for them for a few years so I really respect what they do and understand what I should eat/not eat pretty much inside out

I am without doubt an emotional eater and have arrived at this size over a year from boredom eating and daily alcohol. My H left a couple of years ago and theres been a lot of comfort eating too.

Anyway I didnt weigh myself for over a year and knew I was big but after retreiving my scales from the loft ( not keen on too much weighing although clearly didnt work this time) and seeing I am almost 16 st yes enough is enough.

Just ordered a book on Amazon recommended by someone on another thread by Gillian Riley and will have a look ay myfitnesspal as well as that is new to me.

I am frustrated to be here again and that its all in my control , not like cancer or something, and yet I do nothing but feel sorry for myself.

Well no more and I am so glad I ventured off AIBU and relationships and a big well done to those who have lost weight and made it happen - I'm next

getting never mind reading you should write a book. Everything you are saying is touching a nerve. I have hated my size all my life, but it's only in my 30s and faced with the long term impact on my health (I had a bit of a panic about diabetes, it came to nothing, I had joint pain, I fear a heart attack) that I actually managed to do anything,

Do what you feel is right gettingeasier :) if you don't have the willpower it just won't happen. You need to get into the mindset that you CAN do it! Your mind is a powerful tool ;).

I'll agree with the comment on clothes sizing in different shops though!! Grrrr its soooo frustrating!

BF bought me a gorgeous dress from Rare for my birthday last week, size 10 - fit me everywhere but the bust. Blummin' gutted. I go into DP, New Look etc - a size 10 literally hangs off everywhere.

Wish they'd all be like mens clothes and stick to the same measurements!

5'9 and 11 stone, a size 12. Love to be 9 and half but will be happy at 10. I carry my weight on hips and arse, which I don't mind, but the tops of my arms carry it which I hate!

Yes deva unfortunately that is what seems to be in very short supply with me : willpower !!

In my defence for quite some time my mind has had other fish to fry re divorcing and all the changes that has entailed and I truly havent cared.

Now thats all passed I look in the mirror and do care and wish I had cared a bit sooner !

Anyway for me willpower usually kicks in at the point where finally my desire to be slim outweighs my desire to stuff my face. In the past a mere 3 or 4 weeks of reformed eating has been enough to get into it , the problem is I never get past a day of reformed eating !

Enough of this negative talk though I have made my mind up this time and tomorrow is D day with a nice lunch out with a friend planned and using up the remaining treats tonight

Its interesting that as you say mens clothes are standard sizes whereas ours vary so much. I dont buy into oh I am a 16 stone size 10 in XYZ so I will buy my clothes from there

That's what I like to hear ;) fighting talk!

Know what you mean though on the mind being elsewhere though. I only piled weight on after DS was born and comfort ate due to stress of being a single mum coping with a reflux & allergic baby. I used to jam the washing machine full then treat myself to a big packet of giant chocolate buttons!

Haha I buy my clothes where I can afford to buy clothes!! But my 35" legs make it a real pain in the ass so now I live in leggings unless its raining! haha. Only really expensive stuff I have is from the occasions my BF decided to spoil me rotten.

I cannot believe the differences in dress sizes from gals who are the same height and weight as me

I need to see pictures

35" legs !!!! Lucky girl !

I'd add pics if I knew how cybbo lol :)

OK I'll do it this way just to prove a point...

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The top is a size 8, the leggings are a size 10 and I've lost another stone since I took that pic

5'8" and would like to be under 12 stone. Currently 13.7 and a size 16 so a fair bit to go but only just started. Trying to convince myself to get off mn and do that 12 mile bike ride I'd planned!

Wow deva, you look fab Well done losing all that weight!