THE ULTIMATE WEIGHT LOSS PLAN EVER!!! COME AND JOIN US AND PAUL MCKENNA !!

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The Golden Rules that will aid you on your journey with our like minded support system:

1. Eat what you WANT
2. Eat when you are HUNGRY
3. Eat CONCIOUSLY
4. STOP when you are satisfied

I've C&P'd part 5's links as they are helpful.

Here is the book on AMAZON which is all you need to get started!

This is the tapping technique EXPLAINED - this can be useful for cravings.

Please feel free to join us. We are friendly, supportive and successful but we're not hungry!!! so come on in :)

Fab you can cope, because you are a mother and that is what we do.
Sounds like the school are being crap, but good for you for calling the police, that will make them realise you mean business.

I listened to the CD this afternoon while everyone else was out but I am just taking it easy this week and doing what I need too but still hope to not overeat.

We won't tell the school we have phoned the police until we have too. DH has written a letter to the DHead as the chances are he will be too busy to see us and we make it clear what we plan to do next as we don't believe they have any control over the bullies.

If you are serious about being heard fab, don't bother with deputy head, go straight to the chair of governors and explain the school are not protecting your child and you will be approach your LEA unless and emergency meeting between yourself, the school and the chair of governors is made.
Please listen to me on this one. Strongly worded letters are fine, good to have a record - worth emailing the school with it too so you have a record of it being sent/received but to be blunt if your child is being injured, stop fannying around and go straight to the top. The police can't protect your child at school and neither can you. The only people who can are the staff there. The head teacher is accountable to the chair of governors, the other staff are accountable to the head. I do hope you will take my advice, I am an experienced teacher and this is what I would do. I personally have never worked in a school where bullying has been ignored. Ever.

FAB - I agree with Giganticus about speaking to the Governors and said as much on the other thread. The chair is the person to speak to. The school will have to contact the chair on your behalf so you need to put your concerns in writing but try and speak to them. If they are any good, they should contact you asap. If you not might have to go to the LEA.

It is the responsibility of the Governors to set the bullying policy and to make sure that it is implemented. The head is accountable to the Governors. As a governor I know that most time, the job of the governor just means keeping an eye on things but in a situation like this, where the Head is not acting according to the policy, the governors come into their own and they should know what has happened. Tell them that you phoned the police to show just how serious you think this is. They cannot continue to fob you off.

And don't be scared, get quietly angry. As Alibaba said to me last week, release the 'inner tigress'. If I can see the Head of Year without blubbing (and I always blub when I have to see professionals about DS1 - wuss that I am) I reckon you can do it too . Be cool, write down what you want to say, and what you want to happen and don't let them steer you away from what you set out to do.

Alibaba - Glad you had a good weekend. It is good that your DH is going to do something about his weight too and join you in Pauling It would make the shopping much eaiser if you both have the same aims and you don't have to buy things for him that you might have to resist.

My DH could do with losing a few stone too but I am in two minds about him Pauling with me. It might be a good thing and might keep me on the straight and narrow but on the other hand he might end up watching me like a hawk and I'll watch him and before we know it we both end up bickering about whether or not he should have another piece of cheese or whether I should eaten a slice of cake. I suspect we would end up too competitive so I think I will have to become a super slim goddess and then shame him into matching me.

GOOD MORNING!

Wow you lot have been yacking this weekend, haven't you? Lots to catch up with.

FAB it is the hardest thing when your DC is having a hard time at school. I have had sleppless nights worried about sending DD1 into the lions den school the next morning. I hope it gets sorted to your satisfaction soon. ((hugs)

Really manic weekend here. Nephew' wedding on Saturday, which was a fantastic day. I felt confident in my dress and I was quite surprised to realise how relaxed I was around the "sit down buffet" meal. Normally I would have sussed out whether I was the fattest person in the room, then feel everyone was thinking "Look at that fat person with her huge plate of food" (no matter if I only had a few bits in the plate!!) There was none of that. It wasn't until the evening that I suddenly realised how relaxed I was. I was not the biggest person there, in fact I felt quite "normal".
Because of the foul weather I had to wear a cardi over the dress, I had never been able to do this cardi up before, but Saturday I could and it fitted very comfortably.

Yesterday we had a special meal at home for 25 guests (and us 7) as a goodbye to DD2 who goes off for a gap year next Saturday. A lot of hard work to get the house organised and ready and all the food done, but a lovely time.

I have been slipping over the past week, so I am going to make a concerted effort to get back on track totally from today. I have noticed, though, how little I have been enjoying my food when I have been slipping. I really want to get back to enjoying my food again.

Positive vibes to everyone for this week, in whichever area you need them in!

PA - that sounds a lovely weekend! And I know just what you mean about the feeling self conscious about what you are eating. What a step forward!

FAB - Giganticus and Niecie have given you really good advice, I haven't anything to add.

New week new start. I have four weeks before holiday to lose as much as possible!

Niecie - yes there is that danger here too, of competitive non-eating! The cheese/cake scenario you mention is a familiar one here

At the moment I am unable to read and take in but I thank you all for your advice and we will be doing as you have said. The plan today is to ask to see the deputy head (we have never been able to see the head but another set of parents whose child is also being bullied by these kids, has) and if that is not forth coming we will leave the letter. We will then be contacting the govenors.

And I have put 4lbs on in 4 days .

2LBS I mean.

I have read all your posts twice now and have taken everything in. I really appreciate you all taking the time to post. We are seeing the deputy head this afternoon and DH has also written a letter to the governors and in the letter to the LEA we have said we have rung the police.

Morning all! Origfab i hope it all goes alright for you i can't believe that the Head of yr school is "too busy' to see parents who have major concerns; it may also help that there are other parents who have similar problems.Don't worry about 2lbs or weighing yrself you're going through hell you can go back on Paul when things have calmed down

niecie is it ALL men who are so competitive?!! my DH has at least 4 stone to loose with health issues so the "eat what you want" rule is not too helpful for him! I say i'll support him but he calls my support 'nagging'!! .

Good luck FAB.

ppeat - I think they are all competitive by the sounds of it.

I don't want to be watched so I have kept quiet about Pauling but I can see if we did it together I would be called a nag too, even if it is just telling him what the rules are which I would have to do as I can't see him ever reading the book. So he will continue to bury his head in the sand. I agree the 'eat what you want' message would be abused but then I find that one a challenge too!!

Yes niecie DH has downloaded one of the C.D.s onto his little Ipod touch thingy and I did say don't listen while you're driving. i reckon he's listened to it once! BUT he is eating more times than he used to (he used to go a whole morning on a cup of coffee and think it was a slimming thing to do)!

You'd think his belly would have told him the opposite!! . he knows i'm on it ,we discussed it at the start, 'cos he often cooks and looks at what I've left so i told him why and the eat slowly and consciously rule but he eats in front of the computer while working,listening to the radio etc. Iam also guilty of that one sometimes but I CANNOT overeat any more!!

Are we all married to the same man??

School just rang. He can only see us for 20 minutes but can see us later in the week "when he will have a solution." He hasn't one now as he hasn't had time to investigate.

FFS .

Theorig.fab. Are you able to keep yr DS at home for the moment? Has he refused to go to school?

20 minutes is plenty long enough imo. You don't need to discuss anything, you just need to go in, say your piece and wait for him to say what he plans to do. Then you set a day and time to go back to make sure the plan has been carried out.

I would take his 20 minutes FAB. He is trying to take the wind out of your sails and give you a chance to cool down. Don't let him.

Right, who else wants a school sorted out whilst I am on a roll and I have my magic name change?

Oh bloody hell. Preschool want the SENCO to observe DS1. He is struggling with focusing when there are big group activities going on.

Bugger.

He has spoken to the teacher and she is denying she said what DS1 said she said and the second thing she said hasn't been discussed. He will investigate and wasn't interested in seeing photos of his injuries saying that doesn't prove anything. We pick up DS1 and he has been kicked and strangled again . We go back and tell the D Head and he has a meeting so we get DS1 to write what has happned down and hand it in. He just says it is our choice when taking him out of school is mentioned and really gives the impression he isn't bothered.

He says things have improved as it isn't happening as much and he wants to know why they are doing these things. I am so fucking angry. This is my baby and he is being assaulted and the school clearly can't stop it.

Same kid who strangled him last week has done it again today.

DH said if he is hurt again we will take him out.

I asked the D Head if he agreed my child was being bullied and he said there are things that need looking at. He will not say the word. Not bothered when we said we had called the police.

And when I asked what had to happen to have these kids removed from school he looked at me as if to say that is never going to happen. They even have a fucking certificate as a safe school from 2009.

Oh FAB so and for you. This is not on. Quite appalling. Is this supposed to be a decent school?

Did you hand the letter in for the Governors? I wouldn't put it passed them not to hand it over but I would keep pressing. They are failing at the moment.

I am wondering if you need to get Ofsted involved as well. Are they due a visit do you know? Safeguarding used to the be no.1 most important thing they looked at. If you couldn't safeguard the children, no matter how well you performed academically, it was immediate down grading. It isn't now but I think that is because it has been 'rebadged' and probably called something else.

I hate to rock the boat normally but I would be keeping DS at home tomorrow if they can't keep him safe and I would be making sure they know that. Speak to the head too. The deputy is a deputy for a reason - he isn't up to being a head yet as he has proved in spades. If the police aren't scaring them, maybe the threat of the local paper will do the trick. Admissions time is coming up - if they don't get the numbers applying they don't get the money. Hit them where it hurts.

Or just walk away, leave their rubbish school to it. What about DD though? Is she in the same school (you do have a DD don't you? Apologies if I got that wrong- I know you have another DC)

It is meant to be a good school and while waiting to see the deputy we saw a certificate that they had won in sept 09 to show they were a safe school. I know of at least 2 familes who have taken their children out because of bullying.

I have 3 children at the school.

DH is writing the letter to the governors and the LEA and will send it tomorrow I think. We are seeing the deputy head on Wednesday though it might be best if I don't go as I wasn't very polite today or calm. I nearly walked out tbh I was that upset.

FAB - why haven't you contacted the governors already, i don't understand. You can ask the school for their details or phone the LEA direct.

Alibaba - how old is your DS? This seems quite early for a senco to be getting involved, does he have any specific difficulties eg language. Not concentrating in a large group setting sounds pretty standard small child behaviour!