Do you prefer the word fat or obese?

[Sweetiedarling7]

Just that really.
I really hate the word obese. Just because of the sound much like some other words which I find repulsive (smear being one) rather than as a term.
I always use fat.
Recently somebody reproved me for saying fat and tried to argue that is a negative word. I disagree.
Does anyone else have an opinion or are you not bothered either way?

In general use I don't care. In relation to my WLI usage and health, I find obese is better because it's factual. 'Fat' feels more subjective in that some people carry weight differently to others, it might be more or less obvious to look at. There are people who look and feel fat who are below 30 BMI, and there are people with low 30s BMI for whom it might not be so obvious, especially if as a woman you carry a lot of it on your breasts and/or thighs and backside.

I actually don't know if I am obese. Possibly on the lower rungs of it at the moment, but I don't know.

I prefer to call myself fat. I try to feel neutral about the word as I do tall. I am tall, blonde and little bit fat.

I do not like the etymology of the word obesity. I think it was actually quite a cruel term originally.