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Partner giving me a hard time - Wegovy 1mg

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seventyeight99 · 06/02/2026 13:48

I started Wegovy at the beginning of December 2025 at my heaviest of 17 and a half stone. Since then I've lost just coming up to 3 stone in weight. But since starting, my partner has been overruling in my diet, my activity and weight loss is ALL he talks about constantly. I had beans on toast for lunch the other day and he shouted at me for eating that, today I had toast for lunch and he had a go at me again, I pick something up for the kids in my food shop and he accuses me of snacking without even asking who the food is for (we have 4 kids together). He says I need to do more steps. He encourages me to do 24 hour fasts with him and then he caves on them himself. He tells me not to eat anything while he goes out and tells me what times I can eat. But none of this feels supportive or encouraging, it feels too much and I've just burst into tears. I told him my first goal to reach is 11 stone and he says it shouldn't be that, it should be 9 stone. I can't take it anymore, the comments and demands are really overwhelming. I've asked him several times to stop only talking about weight loss. He literally does not speak about anything else. Is this normal behaviour for a partner during weight loss?

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BrunchBarBandit · 06/02/2026 13:50

No that’s not normal at all

Clefable · 06/02/2026 13:50

No. He’s a controlling abuser.

Frazzledandfried · 06/02/2026 13:50

What an arsehole. Not normal at all!

noexcuses26 · 06/02/2026 13:51

Absolutely not. Is this really the first time he’s displayed this type of behaviour?

MrsTerryPratchett · 06/02/2026 13:52

He’s abusing you and this shouldn’t be in weight loss, it should be in Relationships.

So sorry love.

ItsStillWork · 06/02/2026 13:52

Someone is feeling very insecure about your weight loss.

out of interest, is he overweight?

livingthenotebook · 06/02/2026 13:52

Thats not normal encouragement. Tell him you appreciate his input, but what you are doing is working and that it is your body and your journey, not his and to back off.

SilenceInside · 06/02/2026 13:53

JFC this is all horrible and unkind. Of course it's not normal, it's awful. How dare he try to tell you what to do in this way.

Is he usually controlling and domineering in other aspects of your relationship, or is this new?

CatherinedeBourgh · 06/02/2026 13:53

Is he in a total panic about the cost and wanting it to be as quick as possible to minimise it? Only vaguely plausible reason I can come up with, other than he's an arsehole.

greencheetah · 06/02/2026 13:56

What the fuck is wrong with him? Does he have form for abusive controlling behaviour?

Ineedanewsofa · 06/02/2026 14:01

Definitely not a normal reaction, especially from someone who is supposed to love and support you.
I’d guess he has used your weight/size as a method to undermine and control you for years and now you are changing he’s trying to find new ways to do that so you don’t leave him.
Only you know if that’s the case but if it is, he’s been abusing you all along and you are none of the horrible shit he has ever said about you

Sodthesystem · 06/02/2026 14:08

Is be trying to sabotage it I wonder?

Abusive people don't like you feeling good about yourself. They try to suck away your drive to improve yourself.

If it's not that and he's normally a nice partner then, 'John, step the fuck off about my weightloss. This is my journey, not yours. Your only job is to be supportive and happy for me when it goes well. I won't have this discussion with you again. If you continue to act like dick, our relationship will be on the line because frankly, your behaviour isn't OK'.

Isekaied · 06/02/2026 14:09

He's an arsenal.

It's nothing to do with hi..

He needs to back off

Comtesse · 06/02/2026 14:09

I want to punch him and I don’t even know him. He needs to mind his own damn business. I would die on this hill 100%.

Comtesse · 06/02/2026 14:13

MrsTerryPratchett · 06/02/2026 13:52

He’s abusing you and this shouldn’t be in weight loss, it should be in Relationships.

So sorry love.

@MrsTerryPratchett is not wrong here….

LilyBunch25 · 06/02/2026 14:19

Tell him to get bent. This is coercive control. Ugh.

Shitwithsugar · 06/02/2026 14:50

Dump him and you will loose over 12 stone of burden in 5 minutes.
That is not supporting you that's abusing you.

redboxerclub · 06/02/2026 14:54

Very weird behaviour.

How did he treat you before- did he continuously supply you with food?

beckaellen · 06/02/2026 15:01

Can he go on it himself? Sounds like he's become obsessed with weight loss vicariously through you! My own experience is that I lost weight easily and rapidly on wli but after coming off I regained because of compulsive appetite. I think it's like they say that your body thinks massive and rapid weight loss is a bad thing and tries to save you by increasing your appetite. My guess is losing weight slowly has better chance of success.

Littlebitpsycho · 06/02/2026 15:02

He's a dickhead. The end

mumof5five · 06/02/2026 15:04

No it is not normal. For reference since I started mounjaro my husband keeps offering me food because he is worried I am not eating enough. You are being abused.

MrTiddlesTheCat · 06/02/2026 15:13

No it's not normal. My DH supports me by picking up my prescription for me, asking me how I'm doing, telling me how impressed he is with my progress while reminding me that he loves me whatever I weigh, and making sure I have access to whatever food I think I need. Your partner is being a controlling arse.

BellissimoGecko · 06/02/2026 15:24

No. He should be celebrating your weight loss. Instead he’s controlling and abusive.

Well done on your weight loss so far - you’re doing great.

You could probably lose another 11 stone if you dumped him… is he usually supportive?

PearlTeapot · 06/02/2026 19:59

Is he always such an abusive and controlling person?

LTB. I'd not say that in a hurry but your situation sounds awful, honestly.

seventyeight99 · 06/02/2026 20:05

Thanks for all the comments and the kind words. No, he has never been controlling and abusive in this way before. He has ADHD and becomes very much obsessed with things for a time period and whatever he is obsessed with changes months at a time. So right now it's my weight loss. I've sat down with him today and told him how much it is upsetting me and that he's been really unreasonable and unfair. He says he will back off now and only give compliments which he has been doing but no more pressure, he realises now that he was taking over and taking it too far

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