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Partner giving me a hard time - Wegovy 1mg

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seventyeight99 · 06/02/2026 13:48

I started Wegovy at the beginning of December 2025 at my heaviest of 17 and a half stone. Since then I've lost just coming up to 3 stone in weight. But since starting, my partner has been overruling in my diet, my activity and weight loss is ALL he talks about constantly. I had beans on toast for lunch the other day and he shouted at me for eating that, today I had toast for lunch and he had a go at me again, I pick something up for the kids in my food shop and he accuses me of snacking without even asking who the food is for (we have 4 kids together). He says I need to do more steps. He encourages me to do 24 hour fasts with him and then he caves on them himself. He tells me not to eat anything while he goes out and tells me what times I can eat. But none of this feels supportive or encouraging, it feels too much and I've just burst into tears. I told him my first goal to reach is 11 stone and he says it shouldn't be that, it should be 9 stone. I can't take it anymore, the comments and demands are really overwhelming. I've asked him several times to stop only talking about weight loss. He literally does not speak about anything else. Is this normal behaviour for a partner during weight loss?

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seventyeight99 · 06/02/2026 20:07

To add- he doesn't even need to lose weight himself but he is because we have changed our diets entirely and we no longer eat junk food like we used to. I think in a way he sees it as a bit of a competition between us both, but it was never meant to be like this

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seventyeight99 · 06/02/2026 20:08

Comtesse · 06/02/2026 14:09

I want to punch him and I don’t even know him. He needs to mind his own damn business. I would die on this hill 100%.

I constantly tell him to mind his own business 😂 love this comment 💯

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MrsTerryPratchett · 06/02/2026 20:11

seventyeight99 · 06/02/2026 20:05

Thanks for all the comments and the kind words. No, he has never been controlling and abusive in this way before. He has ADHD and becomes very much obsessed with things for a time period and whatever he is obsessed with changes months at a time. So right now it's my weight loss. I've sat down with him today and told him how much it is upsetting me and that he's been really unreasonable and unfair. He says he will back off now and only give compliments which he has been doing but no more pressure, he realises now that he was taking over and taking it too far

I'm sorry but ADHD isn't an excuse for abuse. I have ADHD I can get hyperfocused. And sometimes say things that aren't great. This goes far beyond that. It speaks to him thinking he owns your body. Which is pure misogyny.

mumofoneAloneandwell · 06/02/2026 20:14

He’s jealous of you 😂😂

obsessed with the image of you shaking as you cut into your toast in the morning

noexcuses26 · 07/02/2026 08:00

seventyeight99 · 06/02/2026 20:05

Thanks for all the comments and the kind words. No, he has never been controlling and abusive in this way before. He has ADHD and becomes very much obsessed with things for a time period and whatever he is obsessed with changes months at a time. So right now it's my weight loss. I've sat down with him today and told him how much it is upsetting me and that he's been really unreasonable and unfair. He says he will back off now and only give compliments which he has been doing but no more pressure, he realises now that he was taking over and taking it too far

ADHD seems to be an excuse for all kinds of totally unacceptable behaviour. What else do you put up with because of his condition I wonder? The fact you started off asking if this behaviour is normal highlights you’ve lost all sense of what is normal in a relationship. Glad you’ve sat down & called him out on this though. Hopefully his next obsession won’t be something else you’re doing ‘wrong’

MrsTerryPratchett · 07/02/2026 14:59

noexcuses26 · 07/02/2026 08:00

ADHD seems to be an excuse for all kinds of totally unacceptable behaviour. What else do you put up with because of his condition I wonder? The fact you started off asking if this behaviour is normal highlights you’ve lost all sense of what is normal in a relationship. Glad you’ve sat down & called him out on this though. Hopefully his next obsession won’t be something else you’re doing ‘wrong’

It does. And I know people get sick of feminism but it seems to often be male+whatever. The OCD ADHD trauma depression PLUS being male means control and abuse and coercion. Women with depression aren’t given the same excuse for abuse.

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