Lost over 11% of body weight- 2 stone no one has noticed and not gone down a dress size

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When will it start to show? I started at 15,7. Now 13.7. Feeling much healthier which is all that matters to me.

But I haven't gone down from a size 20. Also I saw my sister for the first time in months yesterday and she didn't comment. Which I thought she might notice as I haven't seen her in ages.

When does it start to show? I know I was very big to start with so it not like going from a size 12 to 6 but still 10% loss is not to be sniffed at. Where has been lost from? I'm guessing my legs maybe but when I measure I have lost inches everywhere

You’re very similar to me - some people I’ve not seen for ages have noticed. Size 20 is slightly baggy so I’ve decided not to wear them any more. I now have one pair of size 18 jeans I can wear that fit me well so they’ll be in constant use.

Weirdly people didn’t really start to comment until I got to about 4 stone off, many had just been too polite to say anything. I was a size 20/22, and it took forever to drop a size, because everything I had was stretchy. But when it did I went quite quickly from an 18 to a 16.

Well done OP! I’m surprised you haven’t gone down a dress size (I’ve gone up one having put on a stone) but I bet your clothes are much better fitting now, and you just didn’t notice before. Also all sizes are different and unless you’ve been on a big shopping trip you can’t judge.

Agree that a lot of people don't feel they can/should mention it.

But something else I've noticed with my sister who is in a similar situation is that she had always been big but she gained quite a bit of weight in the last 2-3 years. And to be honest, I was often surprised when I saw her - at how overweight she was. And now she's actually lost a lot of that, but she's gone back to the level that I think I always think of her as being? So I don't notice it when I see her, only when I specifically think about how I no longer think, "oh my god, she's gained a lot of extra weight recently".

But I know she's also getting frustrated. And I don't blame her.

This. It is rude and unnecessary to. If someone wants to open up the discussion themselves okay, that’s for them to decide, but otherwise leave out of raising someone else’s size / shape / weight, even if in what you perceive a “nice” way. You don’t know what is going on for them regardless of the circumstances and it isn’t needed. There are much more interesting things about them and you I am sure.

OP have you actually tried on a smaller dress size, or are you just assuming you’re still a 20 because your old clothes still fit ok? I’ve lost 2 stone 7lb and gone from a 12/14 to an 8/10. I could still wear my size 12/14s though, they’d just be loose and baggy on me.

I also think people who see you everyday may not notice the change, especially if you’re wearing the same size clothes you’ve always worn. Plus people nowadays are typically much more cautious about commenting on body shape and weight loss, so won’t mention it unless you do first. That’s certainly been my experience!

If it was anyone but my sister I'd expect them to be cautious. My sister is one of very few people who know I'm on WLI. Maybe she is secretly not a fan and someone who thinks it's cheating and it will all pile back on?

I'm going to Next I a bit to pick up a bag I got in the sales. Maybe I will try a size 18 on?

Yes definitely true about British culture- I do need to seek put my Danish mate!

I wonder if I was never really a size 20 and I was more like a 22? None of my clothes are particularly fitted, that's also true. I'm not intending to buy smaller sizes until I have to but for example my leggings, jeans and pj bottoms aren't falling down either. My skinny jeans are OK on the waist but flapping around my legs.

I also have ankles now and I can see my calf bone. It's all very odd! I knew there was bone and muscle there all along but still it seems weird to see it after a decade of weight gain.

Off to Next now!

Have fun at Next OP! 😃

A friend of mine has lots huge amounts of weight over the last 2 years - I didn’t say a word about it until she did . She looks absolutely fabulous but the best bit is just how happy she looks and how much she is enjoying being more active - so pleased to see her happy

Thank you for the loo roll/kitchen roll analogy. I needed that today. I feel like I should be noticing something now, but everything looks and feels the same.

I’ve lost 2 stone over 10 months on MJ. From 14 st to 12 st. I’m 5 ft 6 in.

Nobody’s commented. Including my mother. Tbf I’ve always hovered around d the 13 to 14 stone mark.

But I’m still a size 16 and don’t think I look that much different. My clothes aren’t such a tight squeeze is all. A pair of flared leggings looked a lot better on though!!!!!!

I’m glad people don’t comment though. At my age, 65, I’ve done every diet under the sun and read every book under the Sun, and the whole subject is just so boring LOL. My best friend told me she was very anti- WLI, so I’m not going to talk to her about it!!!! And other people don’t understand, or we will be judgemental about me spending the money, and so on.

As with many things in life, I find it best to go my own sweet way…

But it’s her sister, who she is close enough to to know she’s on wli. Not some random.

Careful what you wish for.. took nearly 4 stone for people to start to notice then at 4.5 stone every person commented but it got too much and annoyed me, everyone had an opinion and every one had advice now I'm getting don't lose any more etc..

It's none of your business I want to shout..

Happy to report back after my trip to Next. I tried on three different styles of jeans size 20-16 and get them all on and done up! The only ones that was too tight was the denim with no lycra. They went on and did up but i wouldn't want to have to sat and eaten my Christmas dinner in them! It's a bit weird as really the rest all fitted me! I could have got 20 or 16 in the jeggings. Both seemed totally fine. Maybe this is the streachy effect? Or me still thinking I need some room to grow?

In reality there was a lot of difference between the sizes and the non streach looked very different between 20 - 16 on the leg and hips.

I think I have possibly gone down a dress size after all? I'm going to try some on again when I loose another 7lbs or my current trousers fall down.

I took lots of photos.

I know I'm doing OK as I walked up the Arc de Triomphe last week and only stopped once for 30 seconds with 20 steps left to go. I mean I nearly died in the process but I did it right??!!

From my experience you won’t get many comments and then at about 4 stone loss everyone will suddenly comment at the same time!

I had this when I was 18. People kept telling me I would become anorexic. I was well within a healthy bmi and curvy.

A bit like having kids. The only time it attracted zero comment was when I had the two. None I was selfish and too career driven. One I was selfish. Two no comments. Three I was selfish. 4 I was on par with murderers. If if you listen, you notice only certain people put you down. My mum was happy I was happy.

I loled at your comment about a grilling from your non British friends. Personally if close family lost that much weight, I’ll comment in a positive way. And if not close family I’ll confirm to make sure it’s not an illness etc before commenting. I just finding weird to pretend like nothing has changed personally.

I am just shy of 4 stone loss, I think more people noticed at 3 1/2 stone and then woosh!

I was a good 18 and not I am a good size 14 but I can still wear some of my size 18 clothes. Another stone I reckon I will still be a comfortable 12/14.

Even if I say so myself, I Iook amazing!

Congratulations OP!
Maybe they are being polite?
I'm in similar situation, lost about 13% of my body weight / almost touching 2stone but no ones said anything!
Still in the same clothes, although they are much loser, but haven't dropped a dress size, my clothes were probably a bit snug before 😂
Anyway as you say feeling better is the real reward!
Although actually I have less energy than I did before so not even sure that's true😂

I’m six and a half stone down, was a good 18, if not more. now an 8- 10, more a ten. I’m quite tall. BMI 20.

people started noticing after a couple of stone as my stomach shrunk back so much so quickly . And they kept noticing. But now they really notice and comment . But men and women have a very different view. Which is curious;

men always comment I look fantastic. It is the word most used. Not men coming onto me.men who are friends, colleagues, family members etc, it’s always wow you look fantastic, you look great. Women tend to tell me I’m too thin. It is much less positive. Women who are close friends though tell me I look amazing, so good, a different person. Other women who are not close friends, do not they make the snippy comments. It’s like it bursts out of all of them and they speak without thinking.

i don’t look thin, ive a very narrow frame. And my muscle tone is visible.i look a healthy weight, and yes I do look very different obviously. I ignore it all, i am all grown up and make my own decisions. And if im honest, i can’t wait till everyone gets used to seeing me like this and the comments stop

however I’m aware even I find the change in my appearance huge and I see myself every day.

it does make me think though, many men think women look better slim and so do many women, but not all women feel it’s positive.

I’ve lost just over 10% of my body weight in the last 3 months and I’m still a size 12, I’ve just gone from a stretchy size 12 to a fitted size 12 😁 no one has commented on my weightloss at all. I do prefer that though as I don’t like having attention (good or bad) drawn to my weight.

No one said anything when I went from 15st5 to 13st because it wasn't so obvious. I was still obese but now a size 16/18 instead of a size 20/22.

Now I'm 10st7 and I'm getting a lot more mentions, mainly because I've not been this slim my whole adult life, and I'm now a size 12/14.

It's disheartening when you have already lost a lot of weight and it wasn't easy, and it feels like you are still fat because no one has commented. I bet you you look and feel great OP. Unfortunately, the British way is not to comment on people's weight as it's impolite.

I don't often see my sister so hopefully I will be down a dress size the next time I see her. If I am I will see if I can get into something more fitted.

I was at the point I was bursting out of a 16, but I’m not quite into a 14 yet. I think I need another stone to lose it from the right places even though lots is hanging off me.

OP I've been in a very similar boat. I've lost almost 4 stone, nobody has said a word even when we've been talking about weight loss. I started on the bigger end of a size 16 and men's L, I'm still in a 16 now but comfier in it (but I'm in a men's M now). I think there are several things at play - firstly, I was probably squeezing into a 16 because I was 'between' a 16 and 18 - that's been the story of my life, I'm always 'between' sizes. Secondly, the type of clothes I wore had/have more give than the clothes I want to wear now. I'm also a bit on the tall side and I actually think I carried the extra weight ok in some ways. But having done a lot of reading I about this I think two major factors are that a) outwardly I've lost the weight proportionately from all over my body so there's no part me it's most visible on and b) most of the fat I've lost has probably been internal (ie visceral fat, or 'deep: fat -this was something I didn't even realise was a thing). You might be the same. The scale is showing you've lost the weight and you're probably seeing it in all kinds of ways but apparently that can take a while to show in sizing. I totally get your frustration - I'm very nearly 4 stone down and still can't get into most 14s. But I do know I'm further away from a size 18 when I was probably initially inching towards it.