Weird things people have said when they’ve noticed you’ve lost weight?

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I’m still early on in my MJ journey but have lost 1.5 stone and just this week people have started to notice.

I wore a dress to work and I suppose me not wearing a baggy top was a surprise. I walked past a colleague and he started by saying ‘oh you’ve lost we…’ and you could almost hear the cogs in his brain whirring as he decided if that was appropriate or not. He changed it to ‘err…nice shoes’. 😂

But the strange one which made me think was a friend who said to me, ‘you’ll be a different person’. Err no, I really won’t! I will still be me.

Have you had any weird or awkward comments?

Good, they're the best bit/bits 😂

I found most people ignored my weight loss unless I mentioned it. I had one colleague who said she was jealous and wanted to know how to do it. I did the 5:2 diet and it worked great for me.

I'm a lot older now and peri, beer and snacking have added some back on, so I started 5:2 again this week. I haven't any scales but when I can fit back into my jeans I'll know I'm there 😁

DH works in a hospital, and when he lost 5 stone quite quickly a few years back, he had a lot of his colleagues asking him concerned questions about whether the weight loss was planned.

He said that when he then started going into detail about how he was losing the weight, the typical response was along the lines of “Thank goodness, I thought it might be cancer”

But to be fair to his colleagues, the department he works in does deal with a lot of cancer patients, so that possibility is probably a bit closer to the front of his colleagues minds than it would be for most people.

I had someone ask if I had done something different with my hair 😂 but it’s only really been in the past week people have noticed I’ve lost weight by asking…..I’m 4st 11lbs down

I was accused by my manager of having an affair with a colleague because I had lost weight and was dressing differently. No affair, colleague a friend of years.

One friend commented on my weight loss by saying, ''Yes, I'd noticed you'd put a lot of weight on a couple of years ago''
Great, thanks. A simple 'you look lovely' or 'well done' would have sufficed but we all know you'll almost never hear that 🙄

@BySassyGreenPanda
The charming back handed compliment...🙈

And yes, im happy I kept me boobs 😁

I kept mine too 😁

I think that rubs salt in the wounds. There's only one thing that stirs the green eyed monster more than a friend who lost weight. It's a friend who's thinner AND has boobs 😂

It's not really in the theme of the thread but it reminded me of something that happened to my friend.

She had her son in a buggy and got chatting to a stranger in a queue. She said the woman looked her up and down and said how it can take a while to get the baby weight off. That's beyond rude but it gets worse.

My friend adopted her little boy......

I've lost 3st on them, and I genuinely am a different person - in a good way! I've got tonnes more energy and have gained so much self confidence- the courage to stand up for myself and say no to stuff instead of being a people pleaser. It's changed my life!

I’m not on injections but have lost a lot of weight over the past year (and lots of people assume I am on injections)

the weirdest ones have been things like “oh now you’ll just need to find a nice man” (I’m mid 50s, long term single, and I think there are a lot of reasons why I haven’t ever been able to find someone). But it clearly shows that she assumes my lack of love life was mainly about my weight.

another was when someone I hadn’t seen in ten years was back visiting the area, and I thought we’d known each other fairly well through an activity. But others were meeting up with him and I wasn’t included and I only saw him briefly. I commented to one of the others that it was a shame and I must have thought we were friendlier than we had been if he hardly remembered me. She replied that I’m a lot more glam now so it wasn’t surprising. Weird, given that it was about who I was ten years ago and not about whether I’d be recognised now! It’s like it has to be brought into every conversation, and it kind of shows what people’s real thoughts about me when I was fatter were.

I get a lot of the “you’re disappearing” and “don’t lose any more” Comments, even though I’m only just bmi 23 or so now. And it’s the same two or three people who repeatedly comment. I don’t mind the odd comment from people, mostly saying I look nice, but some bring it up every time they see me, which makes me wonder what is going on. They may be the ones who liked me as the fat friend.

and the ones who are constantly hinting at the injections and think I’m lying when I say I’m not taking them. As it happens, I wish I could. I think I’d have been a good candidate for them. I’ve lost lots of weight before but always put it back on, and I don’t know that this time will be any different. I’m hungry, craving, planning, obsessing about food, exercise etc. and cutting out so much in order to stay at this weight, it’s depressing and miserable really. My family history is full of type 2 diabetes and weight issues, I’ve been just on the verge of pre-diabetes for years, so I think a maintenance dose now would really have suited me. But at the moment I’m now normal weight so not eligible, despite the massive difficulty maintaining that. And people constantly trying to get me to say that I am on them, because they assume I’m lying, is really weird.

or the ones who find out I’m not, and then are full of praise that I’m ‘doing it properly’ when I’d be on injections if I could. It reveals a lot about their views on fat people too.

Oh you have lost weight. Are you doing it yourself or with the injections?

I am on MJ also but have told very few people and have lost 4 stone. Just tell them it’s all through calorie deficit.

@Doone22 nooo - ‘you’re looking well’ is well known code for ‘you’re looking fat’!!!!

I work from home and recently had a series of meetings where I saw some colleagues for the first time in about 4 years. The last time they saw me I was a size 22 and now I’m a size 12. Not a single one mentioned weight but all of them did a double take/shocked face and said something like ‘ohhhhh you’re erm, you’ve changed your hair’ or “ wow you, you, look really erm well”.

Its obvious I’ve lost weight but people are just so scared to mention size at all now they all do a last minute veer.

I work in a male dominated industry - I really don’t want anyone to notice!

@BySassyGreenPanda
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I have had the your really tiny, nothing left of you, your fading away comments, I’m a size 14 and still 7lb off of a healthy bmi, for reference I was an 16/18 so not as if I have have lost a dramatic amount