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Now a healthy bmi but still look awful:(

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mounjarowoes · 22/07/2025 20:49

My bmi is now normal. I still look dreadful and fat
Was trying on some new clothes in store today and when I handed back the clothes that were too big the young man looked like he was about to laugh.I ended not buying anything as I felt so stupid buying a dress etc cos of it.
I went out yesterday for the first time with my legs partly uncovered and I'm sure people were staring at how stupid I looked.
I'm only 33 all I want is to feel and look sexy and be desired but even with the weightloss I've realised that's never going to be the case
Has anyone else near the end of mounjaro realising the same ?

OP posts:
Disturbia81 · 23/07/2025 07:50

daffodilandtulip · 23/07/2025 07:46

I've lost 5st 7 and I'm now 8st. I still hate the way I look, I still see all the fat, and I can't for the life of me work out what size clothes I should be trying on. But I also know that people don't give a shit and no-one is thinking anything because everyone is generally just thinking about themselves (and they also tell me I look good, I just don't see it).

It’s mad how different our bodies can be at the same height. I’m 3.5 stone heavier than you but I’m a toned size 10.

Titasaducksarse · 23/07/2025 07:52

Disturbia81 · 23/07/2025 07:47

This is normal if you are working out, you are growing muscle and retaining water from sore muscles but you are losing fat, keep going!
Diet dropped my fat but working out gave me defined shape and a smaller size once diet wasn’t enough anymore.

Thanks.
I've still got 2 stone to go and things have slowed but I can cope with that as I see my shape change. Onwards and downwards!

Titasaducksarse · 23/07/2025 07:55

daffodilandtulip · 23/07/2025 07:46

I've lost 5st 7 and I'm now 8st. I still hate the way I look, I still see all the fat, and I can't for the life of me work out what size clothes I should be trying on. But I also know that people don't give a shit and no-one is thinking anything because everyone is generally just thinking about themselves (and they also tell me I look good, I just don't see it).

Kindly, you have an underweight BMI. It is simply not possible you have 'all this fat' you refer too at your height and weight.
I'd gently suggest you think about talking to a therapist about your body image and perception.

daffodilandtulip · 23/07/2025 07:57

Titasaducksarse · 23/07/2025 07:55

Kindly, you have an underweight BMI. It is simply not possible you have 'all this fat' you refer too at your height and weight.
I'd gently suggest you think about talking to a therapist about your body image and perception.

Without knowing my height, you can’t possibly know my BMI 😂. It’s 22, and the range for my height is 6st 10 to 9st.

Titasaducksarse · 23/07/2025 08:02

daffodilandtulip · 23/07/2025 07:57

Without knowing my height, you can’t possibly know my BMI 😂. It’s 22, and the range for my height is 6st 10 to 9st.

Oh gosh I'm so sorry....I read that as 5ft7 not 5 Stone 7lb. Blame it on me not having had a cuppa yet! Again sorry, no offence intended.

Summerhillsquare · 23/07/2025 08:02

It's far worse than that - no one has noticed at all because we're all wrapped up in our own issues. Bet you don't go round keeping notes on other people's appearance. So just get on with your life and do what feels right.

MyCoralHedgehog · 23/07/2025 08:03

I’ve lost 2 stone and people tell me I look great and don’t need to lose more. I think the key is to put make up on, wear something flattering and face the world with confidence. It feels great. I’m still overweight (BMI 28) but a size 14 and it feels great not putting on 16/18 anymore. I still feel fat, especially when naked, but when you look around and see at least one third of people are fat now, then it doesn’t matter. I don’t think the man in the changing room would have been laughing at all unless it was some wildly inappropriate lurex number or something! Put some nice tinted body lotion ( maybe self tan) on your arms and legs and just go out there, flaunt your weight loss, you have done amazingly and be proud of yourself. I bet you look lovely and you just need to jet your mindset catch up that you have done this, and be happy x

mounjarowoes · 23/07/2025 21:37

After alot of thought I'm going to buy a day pass for my local gym ( with the hope that I will get a membership after that) My husband has offered to join me but I'm going to try and do it my self.
I really think that's a big part whats missing. A good exercise routine with expert help.

Thanks everyone. I wore a maxi dress today and I didn't feel people were laughing at me

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BellissimoGecko · 23/07/2025 21:39

I agree with everyone else. I think your perception of what you look like is off. Also, people really won’t be thinking about you or looking at you so much!! They will be worrying about their own lives/legs/problems.

If you are a healthy BMI, I bet you look lovely. Well done!

Now go and buy that dress!!

SquishyGloopyBum · 24/07/2025 06:13

I promise no one will be laughing at you op.

im on mounjaro. Years ago i lost 4st and I was surprised that I still hated my body. It’s easy to blame being fat on everything when actually it’s low self esteem.

im pleased you are going to the gym. No one will be looking at you because everyone is busy just focussing on themselves.

maybe some sessions of counselling to work on your self esteem would help too?

best of luck.

CoachNot · 24/07/2025 07:32

I thought the same, got to normal bmi, still had the fat belly, arms & thighs. BMI is a disappointing guide.

gingercat02 · 24/07/2025 07:38

CoachNot · 24/07/2025 07:32

I thought the same, got to normal bmi, still had the fat belly, arms & thighs. BMI is a disappointing guide.

Most people have what you consider fat bits. My BMI is normal (just, at 24) but because I don't have much upper body strength I have flabby arms, I have a fatter stomach than I would like because I like red wine too much.
BMI only tells you that you're weight is unlikely to cause health issues.

Disturbia81 · 24/07/2025 20:55

Titasaducksarse · 23/07/2025 08:02

Oh gosh I'm so sorry....I read that as 5ft7 not 5 Stone 7lb. Blame it on me not having had a cuppa yet! Again sorry, no offence intended.

I read it wrong too, I’m so used to seeing that as a height 🤣

Fluck · 24/07/2025 20:59

My BMI is 22.1 and I still feel like that. The weight isn’t dropping off where I want it too! So I really want it off my stomach, back & arms - but it’s coming off my chest, boobs & waist. I can see my ribs under my collarbone in some lighting now & yet I still feel ‘fat’.
Dunno what the answer is tbh, I have a gym membership & I’m trying to do weights twice a week, but I know I need to do more!

seanconneryseyebrow · 24/07/2025 21:06

I’ve been BMI 19-23 and I’ve always had fat legs and arms. You probably just thought you’d feel perfect when healthy weight but I doubt anyone does - even supermodels.

I can guarantee no one was laughing at you. That’s your insecurity talking. X

YourBlueScroller · 24/07/2025 22:32

I did the Fast 800 programme and went down to 9st 7lb (am 5.6) and STILL didn't like the way I looked.

I was quite surprised actually as I thought I would. I couldn't understand why I didn't look good.

Then discovered the gym and got a personal trainer.

What I learned from own reading is that its all about loss of muscle mass.

When you lose weight, you may think you are only losing fat (I certainly did think that when I yo yo dieted in my late 20s) but actually the body makes no distinction between types of weight.

Weight is actually made up of fat and muscle mass.

So while you are losing weight you are losing fat. But you are also losing a proportion of muscle mass.

This is inevitable for two reasons.

First if you aren't lifting weights I.e. applying progressive over load then your brain thinks....uh oh we have less calories coming in...am I going to ditch body fat or muscle mass....well we aren't using the muscles so let's ditch some of that and keep a bit more of the fat for a rainy day.

Alternately you might be exercising, in which case the proportion switches up a bit, you might lose more body fat and less muscle mass, but you will still lose some muscle mass. Unless you are lifting heavy weights, at the sort of level you would lift if you were really trying to grow your muscles i.e. training to failure on a set of reps in the gym.

So all this means we lose weight but look less toned.

It's actually quite a challenge to build muscle mass once it's been lost as it requires progressive overload, AND eating in a calorie surplus to actually build it from something.

But you can recomposition body fat into muscle to some degree, if you are lifting weights and eating at your TDEE level.

YourBlueScroller · 24/07/2025 22:39

Do you have a scale that measures body fat %?

Before I did Fast 800 my body fat % was 44%, which put me in the obese category. After F800 it was 36%.

Then after 5 months in the gym lifting weights consistently 3 times a week without fail, it was 22% despite me actually being 3lbs heavier than when it was 36%.

I looked like a fit person for the first time ever. Weight on the scale isn't everything, strength is more important.

Have a look at weight lifting women groups on Facebook, loads of inspo.

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