Judgement from close family

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I really want to start weight loss injections and I know I meet the criteria. But I also know my husband will be judgemental and react negatively. I think it's likely he'll tell others in his family who will share his sentiments. He's also obese and struggling to lose weight btw.

Has anyone else started WLI when their family aren't supportive? I struggle with anxiety and depression which I think is why I'm hesitating to do what I want on this.

Your husband is an arse.

Don’t tell him and hide the pen in a Tupperware box at the back of the fridge.

Maybe consider LTB if he’s a dick generally,

I have only told my mum 😂 OH doesn’t even know!

I've been single for 15 years and seeing comments about partners not being supportive is quite worrying. I just think life is too short to be stuck with someone who doesn't support us and that we can't tell everything to.
Maybe that's why I've been single so long, don't need that negativity in my life. I've told all my family and friends I'm on it, if they don't support me they can sod off, but I've never received any negative comments only concern like what will happen when you come off it, which i don't know. In fact a few have started it themselves after I've mentioned it to them.
If you want to start it, then do it for you. Forget what anyone else thinks. Though be careful as it can worsen mental health and also you don't have to keep it in the fridge or in plain sight, it can be kept at room temperature hidden in a drawer once used.

Thanks for the replies

I could hide it in the fridge during the day, but he'd notice it when he's home. He doesn't work set hours so sometimes he just appears much earlier than I'm expecting. He likes cooking and mostly buys the food and is quite particular about what is put where.

I work nightshifts eveey other weekend, but I usually take a cooler with ice packs for my food, so I guess I could take it with me when I'm working.

I take the points about our relationship in general. I'm not frightened to tell him; I just know he will go on and on and on. I find it intolerable when he gets like that. He thinks he knows everything about weight-loss despite not losing any himself(!)

We have 4 autistic kids and his mum died
recently, so I'm not looking to divorce anytime soon.

I was apprehensive telling dh as I wasn't too sure how he would initially respond, but I knew he would be ok after a discussion so never actually told him until I had ordered, it had arrived and I was sure I was ready to start (about a week after it arrived as I changed my own mind about 100 times after it arrived). 🙈

Fortunately the media hype/scare reports on weight loss injections never registered with him as it is not the kind of thing he is interested in (it's not cars, lobster fishing or football 🙈) so he didn't have any pre conceived ideas about them.

He was concerned that it was an injection and not via a "proper" Dr, but when I laid out very honestly and emotionally how I felt about my obesity, the issues I already had, where my future health was heading, and my inability to control my obsessive eating (including fessing up about what I ate when he wasn't around) he was a bit shocked, saying he just didn't realise just how much it was impacting me. He still a bit concerned about the medication but at the same time said he trusted me, he knows I am risk adverse and the type to do all my homework. I also discussed with him how important it was to me it was kept private and he respected that. We haven't really discussed it much since, 11 months on it is just normal I inject once a week, just like I take my multivitamins every day.

He said if I am eating healthier he will take the opportunity and do it too and he has lost a couple of stone and is enjoying the amount of protein - especially the steaks! - we have now instead of endless pasta and rice! Maybe that will convince yours to get on board too?

If your dh won't listen to you (you need to listen to his concerns too) and respect your request for privacy, that is simply not acceptable and you need to talk it out, perhaps over a few days, be honest about your feelings and struggles, no-one goes on these injections just for fun, and see where you end up.

It really doesn't have to be in the fridge once used, only when unused so that may help!
Might be good to have a chat about how him going on and on about issues makes you feel and that it puts you off sharing things with him, one day when you are upto it. The only way people might change is by highlighting it and setting boundaries.

You can hide it. Doesn’t need to be kept in the fridge after first use. I’ve not told anyone in RL including my husband and just keep it hidden away.

I didn’t tell anyone till I’d be on for a few months.

I can’t fathom a marriage or family like this. All I can advise is start WLI’s asap as they have been a life saver for me!

I didn’t tell my husband for 6 wks. I used Asda click and collect - jabbed straight after I picked up my pen and then kept it in my makeup bag. He wouldn’t know now if I hadn’t decided to tell him. Might yours be open to you both trying together?

I’ve been on WLI since May 2024 and my husband doesn’t know. I didn’t need any negativity making me question my choice.

If you’re worried, don’t tell him! I’ve only told my husband. I will happily deny to anyone that I’m taking them. No one’s business apart from mine.

No one knows but DD, who is now also using the WLI. My son is against it and knows but also none of his business and sworn to secrecy. You don't have to keep it refrigerated after you start injections, just find a safe place away from kids.

Why dont you put a feeler out and see what he says? You're thinking about it, did research, it's NHS approved, plus the mountains of success stories. If it doesn't work you will stop.
See what he says?

I was nervous telling DH and went through 2 pens without him knowing. Then he turns around and says "I think I might start the WLI".. And I came clean 😂 he was a bit upset that I didn't tell him - imagine he didn't tell me and we were both hiding our jabs from each other 😂

I was anxious about telling my DH. But I felt it was important he knew in case I had a medical emergency and he needed to talk to doctors about me. He actually barely reacted in the end (think he’s probably of the mind him saying no to anything never stops me) but he just queried the side effects. I haven’t told DM as I know she’ll really piss me off about it as she’s already disapproving I’m on HRT 😣

I’ll mention to DH if I’m feeling a bit nauseous but this is the first time I’ve been able to lose weight without drama or inconvenience to my family. So 3 weeks in, it’s been so low key I haven’t felt the need to mention yet.

Tell your DH that your GP has adviced you to take the jab because your health is at risk. If you don't you might die prematurely and he will have 4 autistic kids to handle by himself. That ought to shut him up.

I’m about to start. I’ll tell anyone who will listen and fuck their judgment

Your pen doesn't need to be in the fridge once it's opened. It can then be at room temperature. I keep mine in my office so I see it every day.

Ignore your DH.

Maybe time to have some CBT or counselling to build yourself up.

MJ has been life changing. I've stopped binge eating. I've lost 5 stone in 6 months, with another 5 stone or so to go, so I'm doing this for the long haul and fully expect to be taking MJ for another year or so.

Go for it. Fuck what anyone else thinks.

I’ve lost over 2 stone on mounjaro. It only needs to be kept in the fridge ‘before’ you start to use it. After that, it can be kept in any cool, dark place. If you want to go on it, go on it. Hide the pen and don’t tell anyone. It’s not your husbands concern and he shouldn’t be sharing anything with his family or anyone for that matter so they can judge you. Nobody else’s bloody business.

Please be careful about not telling people you live with that you are taking this - or any medication. If something happens to you and they need to seek medical help for you it’s really important they’re able to give paramedics etc the correct information (ie what medications you’ve taken).

Buy a mini fridge and hide it in a cupboard or something x

@Incognitoburrito88 was it cold when you got it from click and collect at Asda? And does it need to be an Asda with a pharmacy?

If not, this could a perfect option for me

Are you able to have a honest chat with him, tell him how much it’s bothering you and that you’d like him to a) not go on about it and b) not tell anyone else? Those are reasonable requests in a healthy marriage. If he breaks that trust then he’s not being fair and you have a separate problem. Personally, I prefer to not keep secrets but of course, every marriage is different.

The pen only needs to be refrigerated until first use, and then you can hide it anywhere at room temperature.

Just be prepared that if you do decide to start then the lack of food noise is likely to give you space to consider wider issues in your life, and you might find yourself starting with the fact that you can’t trust your unsupportive husband 🤷‍♀️

Wow so many replies, thank you.

I'll look into our nearest click and collect as that would get around him seeing the delivery, which is also a concern, given his erratic work hours.

I'm not in denial our marriage isn't in great shape; I appreciate it's frustrating to read someone ignoring the elephant in the room. But his mum's funeral wasn't even a week ago, and now is just not the time to address the bigger issues.

He's always done monologue rants(!) on any subject that comes up. I just can't tolerate them how I used to. (We're probably both ND though not assessed/diagnosed and I've been having a rough ride with perimenopause)