Have ordered Mounjaro….to tell, or not to tell…?

[Glitterkitten24]

I have ordered my very first pen today.

I have told my husband, but am otherwise conflicted about telling people what I am doing. Did you tell people openly? Only if they asked? Did you keep it secret?

i can’t articulate why I feel a bit self conscious about telling people, maybe because it feels like ‘cheating’ even though that isn’t a logical response.
would love to hear what you did!

I think if more people felt like you, more people would feel happier opening up about their use of the jabs. A lot of people are judgey fuckers though!
A quick scroll on here and you'll see threads about how the jabs are cheating, we are stealing medication from diabetics, people who 'Can’t wait for the side effect fall out' etc. And that's just the judgement about the jabs themselves, which comes on top of the judgement about obese people. Lazy fatties who lack the discipline and moral fibre to just eat less and move more, who don't understand that carrots have less calories than cake.
Often it's just easier to avoid the risk of judgement by staying quiet.

Thanks all for the replies, a real mixed bag it seems!

At work this week I overheard a really judgy conversation about people cheating on MJ and how (hypothetical) people with diabetes can’t get the medicine when people are ordering it privately yada yada….
Has solidified my thoughts about keeping my starting MJ in secret!

If you don't tell your DH where do you keep your pen as I thought it had to be in the fridge

Not once used

Thanks, thats good to know

My Dh knows, and my adult Ds and Dd. I’m not telling anyone else. If Dh didn’t know, I’d keep it in the cleaning cupboard. He never looks in there!

Why is it cheating though? Does life always have to be hard 🔨 ??

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I've told no one. None of their business

Just like having an epidural is cheating at childbirth... It always seem to be women judging other women.

What if you had serious side effects? I'm not judging, just asking as I'm still on the fence as to what to do. This is the only thing that makes me want to share with DH.

I’ve told my DH and my Dad. It’s not secret as such and I don’t think I’d lie if anyone asks, but I’m not offering up the info.

I’ve told three friends who are now on it as well. That’s it. I’m very comfortable with my decision to use mounjaro and I don’t need input from anyone. I’m comfortable with potentially being on this for life (or certainly for some time to come). I’ve lost over four stone so far and aiming for another six (I was very fat to begin with!). I just don’t see the point in opening myself up to judgement when it’s not up for debate. My body my choice.

I've asked this before on the judgey threads. Why is it cheating and why should it be harder work than it needs to be. No-one has had an answer yet
No-one ever accuses me of cheating when I wear my glasses, instead of doing it the hard way and walking into things.

I’ve told nobody. Losing weight nicely but I’ve heard people at work discussing it and all being medical experts about how they’d never use it. Not realising they would not need to as they are not overweight or obese.

I ran it past DH before I started and got him on board. I've since told my DC, who are adults and very supportive. My work bestie knows, and so does my brother and SIL. That's it. Though actually I don't have a problem with people knowing.

I’ve only told my DH - it would be pretty impossible to hide it from him even if I wanted too, but he was really encouraging of me when I talked to him when I was considering starting. Now he helps me with injections.

I've made the decision not to tell anyone else. I live in a small place where everyone knows everyone’s business and I don't think id be able to tell one person without everyone hearing about it. And I don’t want to be the subject of conversation. I’ve always carried shame at being fat - whether that’s justified or not - and I’m also carrying shame about using the jabs. Despite all the evidence to the contrary, it sort of feels like I’m a failure. I’ve had such a positive experience on MJ, but the darkest part of me feels ashamed, if I’m
honest. I wish it was otherwise.

@Caddycat that’s why I told my H and 1 friend - also saves the ‘are you ok’ questions if you aren’t very hungry or mainlining rennies

My advice is to not tell anyone unless you’re happy to defend it. everyone has an opinion based on utter ignorance and it’s just not worth the hassle with random people.

I told nobody until I was 3.5 stone down. The results kind of speak for themselves then.

Now I’m open about it, because I’m delighted with the results, I told my coworkers when my director (we’re close) asked me outright and I just thought “fuck it, I’ll be open about it”

it’s lead to one other person who works in the company to start her journey and so far so good.

You wouldn’t tell anyone about other medical stuff unless absolutely necessary so why is this any different?

I told my DP and my son initially, I’ve been on it since July last year and am 30kg/4.5 stone down

as for cheating… this isn’t cheating, and it’s enabling me to be far more active than ever before, I went from training 2x a week for 90mins total to now training 225 minutes a week, having added some seriously hefty classes in the gym. My fitness level has improved insanely.

I wouldn't - especially so early on when you don't even know if it will work for you or how you'll get on with it.

I haven't started it yet. When I do, I wouldn't shout about it, but at the same time if anyone commented , I would be honest. I have been overweight for years, so there is no way that people won't think that I must be doing the jabs if I suddenly lose a lot of weight.

my diabetes nurse said its not cheating when you have a life threatening illness that can be eased with taking the jabs.

that is a good comparison. Yes, or like c-sections are cheating and not really giving birth.

If you suddenly lose weight after struggling to lose it previously, people will assume you’re on it anyway.

Only my husband and one friend, but a couple of people have asked how I've succeeding in losing weight and I feel kind of bad not being honest with them (if they are very overweight). But I don't want it to be gossip.

I think sort of the opposite. Jabs are new and ground breaking.
I think endless years of slimming clubs and over priced shakes are designed to make you feel like a failure.