Telling people/ not telling people?

[ToriMJ]

Wondering what others are doing?
Part of me wants to be open about it bevause I don't think it's shameful to medicate a health problem. But the other part of me thinks it opens a can of worms- judgement/gossip, all the health warnings and the incessant "well it will all go back in when you stop", I just can't be arsed with that either.
Wondering what others have done?
I'm not talking about immediate family, they know, more extended family/colleagues/friends.

I have just ordered my first pen and will be starting at the weekend. I've been thinking about it since Easter and only just plucked up the courage as a friend told me she was on it.

I am not telling people. I just don't want the judgement or interference.

I do need to tell DH as I need him to know. But I'm worried he won't be supportive of it and that's been holding me back.

DH is my biggest worry. I know he will support me no matter what, but he won't understand why I feel I need the extra help the jab will give me. I've lost half a stone on my own in 9 weeks but it has stopped completely and I'm fed up.

I don't think he realises quite how unhappy I am with my weight. My BMI is now 33. I play sport, my knees hurt, and I keep picking up injuries and I think that's because I'm too heavy and it's my body under too much pressure.

So I need to try. I'm frightened of side effects while I'm at work etc so really hoping I'll be okay. That will be the hardest thing to hide I think. If I'm feeling grotty.

Your nicer then me I would have told her to mind her own buisness and that's if I was in a good mood. Fuck off comes to mind as well

I wasn’t going to tell anyone including DH as I thought he would be worried/judgy but he was fine. He has ribbed me a bit about the cost and keeps calling me Renton (Trainspotting).

Not telling anyone else, but I am a yo-yo dieter anyway and people are used to seeing me fat and thin.

I would probably open my trap about it to all and sundry when drunk but I have lost the desire the get drunk anyway.

I’ve told my DH, DM and one friend who I know is also doing it.

otherwise I’m keeping it private.

I’ve never announced diets before so no need to now.

I say I’m eating protein plus fruit and veg and going to the gym.

I'm not telling anyone because I tested the waters and everyone had a negative opinion about it.
I'm calorie counting and changing portion sizes so for me there's no lie if people ask. Also, it's a medicine, it's no one's business to know our medical history.

I'm not telling people.My husband knows but that's it. I'm not saying I definitely won't tell people eventually but I don't want to deal with the negative crap I know they'll come out with along the way.
Anyone who has noticed and commented so far I've said thanks and yeah I have lost a bit-I'm trying too x

I have told friends because I know that those I trust will not judge me, and it has been part of an open conversation.

Now that my loss has become noticeable I'm getting acquaintances and colleagues commenting. Usually followed by the question of how I've done it. I haven't told those people because it's none of their business, and I can't really be arsed getting into a conversation about it. I haven't lied either, I'll just say "eating less" possibly followed by a conversation about calorie counting and using MFP if probed. Which is true.

I am waiting to see! IF it comes up with any close friends then I may "confess" but that word alone indicates my fear of being judged.
I debated long and hard with dh before taking it. He was supportive but really put me through my paces re: research on it all. He was very keen for me to see the GP first but I couldn't really see the point. I don't know any of the GPs at the surgery from Adam and wasn't convinced (from reading on here) that the random one I might happen to see would even know much about it. The compromise was that I discussed it with my best friend, who is a consultant gastroenterologist and she in turn, checked more details out with her nutrition consultant colleague. Both said, "go for it." She said they're not seeing any issues coming into clinic (unlike bariatric surgery cases. Apparently, the gut really does not like that!)
So far, I have just mentioned that I'm on a health kick. But it's too early days for anyone to really have noticed much loss. The real test will probably come in a month or two.

I haven't told a soul and don't intend to. I've mentally gone through all the potential risks and I'm happy with them - I don't need hysterical, uninformed family and friends telling me I'm going to die or I'm cheating.

I have a friend who had a gastric sleeve and I was on the verge of telling her until she launched into a speech about WLIs and how bad they are, so I'll not bother there.

Just say you’ve been trying! Lots of people (frustratingly) lose weight without the jabs. They’re probably on your mind because you take it, but not everyone’s mind will go there. Some people can lose weight fast without. Before they were a thing I lost 2.5st about 5 years ago through a gym programme, PT and calorie counting. I did it over a period of 3 months. I was a lot lighter then than I am now but still overweight - I started at 12st 7lbs (size 14) and ended at 10st (size 8). I lost on average 3-4lbs a week for the first 2 months and had lost 2 stone in 2 months, a stone at the end of the first month. Wouldn’t recommend it as I was restricting my calories so much I honestly believe I damaged my metabolism and that contributed to my huge weight gain later, as my pants PT just let me carry on eating 900-1000 calories a day while training and running 4-5 times a week and didn’t say a word about how damaging it may be. But anyway - what I mean to say is weight loss programmes and people trying to lose weight isn’t new - but the jabs are, and people have no reason to suspect you’re on them otherwise if you don’t want them to. Tell them you’re trying to lose weight, eating well, upping protein, watching calories, cutting booze etc - not exactly a lie! You just have MJ on your side.

I haven’t told anyone except DH (who really supported me) and my mum (not so agreeable but from a worrying for me side of things and just wants me to be ok and have no serious side effects). We have a very close friend who is taking it and has been very open about it (I asked her sooo many questions before I started) and has lost a lot of weight and I haven’t even told her! My GP knows - I’ve even called my GP about some side effects. And I told my dentist when they asked about any new medication and my optician 😂 I don’t see the point in not telling health professionals - it’s all confidential and if I fall ill (MJ related or not) I want it on my record exactly what I’m taking and what is in my system so I can be helped without delay.

Just thought I'd come back here to post the most bizarre thing.

Earlier in the week I saw a colleague in the office I'd not seen for a while. She commented on my weight loss, asked me how I'd done it, as I don't know her that well I said the usual, eating less, moving more etc. she complimented me and off we went our separate ways.

Another colleague (who is a friend and does happen to know I'm on MJ) just called me to tell me colleague A had messaged her, commenting on my weight loss, how much I had lost, % of body weight lost, which she must have speculated as I hadn't shared that, and asked if colleague B knew how I had done it, and "had I had some help" then went on to talk about injections. Colleague B is lovely and gave nothing away but thought I should know.

But WTAF?? Who does that? It's just pure bitchy gossiping. I'm so annoyed. And it reinforces why I don't want to tell people. She obviously feels that injections must be cheating, but what does it bloody matter to her?? I barely know her.

I’ve now told lots of people, and lots of them are now taking Mounjaro and shrinking before my eyes. I don’t have a problem talking about it as I think it so fabulous.

I told dh - discussed it before starting. He’s my lifelong cheerleader. One friend at work knows because it was her sharing that she’s on it that convinced me. I might tell friends who I thought could benefit from my honesty but generally no. Definitely no one at work but my team is bitchy and toxic.

@Eminybob that’s exactly how my team would be, bitching behind my back. I’ve not lost enough to notice yet and I’m eating healthily - loads of veg and protein. That’s how I lost weight in my 30s post babies but I tried in my 40s and ended up bingeing and very disordered eating. This is enabling me to eat like a normal person.

I’ve told my two DS, my mum, my neighbour and that’s it. Not telling DH.
I just started it today.

I've still told no one other than my husband.
Only my parents have noticed so far and think I'm just knuckling down with eating better and moving more!
Summer will be a shock to people as currently wearing big jumpers and a literal duvet coat so hard to notice when out!

I found out accidentally my daughter is on them, I never thought for a second she would because firstly, her BMI is well below the threshold, and secondly, she’s a total fanny about needles. She hasn’t told me and I suspect she hasn’t told her husband but I don’t know. I really hope that she had as I am concerned in the event if any complications or medical events. I also really hope she has used a vendor that disclosed to the GP. I am disappointed, surprised and a little worried but shes an adult.

I'm really open about it. I refuse to let anyone make me feel ashamed about using a medication to help me be healthy. If people are rude in response it tells me everything I need to know about them. Most people are curious and want to know if I'd recommend them. Others don't ask anything. I think I'm a bit scary because no one comes out with any crap to my face.

The only one I accept worry and advice from is my mum because I know it comes from love.

I think it's a miracle. It gives me so much joy watching the scales go down and feeling and looking better. Happy to shout it from the rooftops!

I’ve told a few close friends, my parents and DH. DH is now on them too. I had my first “how have you done it”question this week and because it was someone I trusted I told her. But even she started telling me what she’d read about them but it did give me a chance to put the record straight.

What I’m dreading is if someone asks me directly if I’m on them. I’m not sure how I will answer

How did you find out she’s on them? It’s worrying she’s got them with a normal BMI. Could you talk to her about it?

I’ve been on it 4 weeks and haven’t told a soul, not even DH. I was at a hair salon on Wednesday and they were gossiping about a client who has lost lots of weight and were going to ask her if she was on the injections. I’ve lost nearly a stone but it’s not really noticing to anyone else yet. I’ve done 5:2 before very successfully so will just say I’m doing that if asked.

@MelainesLaugh I found out by moving two open cardboard boxes off a surface she knew I was going to be using. I wouldn’t have noticed anything if I wasn’t familiar with sharps boxes from an entirely different context and one box contained a sharps box. There was no branding, syringes or leaflets visible and I didn’t look for anything else just put both boxes on the floor. I had a second’s fear it could be something else: drugs or a serious health issue I didn’t know about but then it made sense of a recent uncharacteristic reduction in food capacity and clothes purchases in a lower size than she is or has been for a while. I just never thought that at a size 12 to 14 max and with her extreme squeamishness that she’d go in for it. She’s also a very attractive, articulate feminist with friends of all sizes so I fear that if I talk to her and she hasn’t told her husband I’ll cause a lot of stress. I think she’s probably quite uncomfortable about doing this full stop or she’d have shared. She’s normally very open. I really hope her husband knows as if he finds out he’ll be really hurt. I also hope he knows so if she needed treatment and HCPs needed to be aware of current medication then he could tell them.

I think these injections are going to bring tremendous benefits for the people they are designed for, with appropriate medical oversight, and presumably studies have involved that demographic, but DD is below the threshold BMI and can’t have had a thorough evaluation prior to prescription, - I’m aware she must have misrepresented her BMI, she has shown sensitivity to medications in the past. I don’t know which brand she is on as I didn’t want to snoop. I’m also concerned about how she will react when she comes off.

I haven’t written off raising it with her but I do think it will really stress her out if she knows I know and her DH doesn’t and she has struggled with anxiety in the past. The reason I suspect he doesn’t know is that I think he would have been against her going on it. I think she will have a lot of cognitive dissonance as if it were anyone else she’d be quite vocal (to me) about it being such a shame they felt the need to and also reference the potential risk factors of doing it without medical oversight 😔

I hope she has confided in a friend but most of their friends are mutual so it’s tricky.

I don’t know your daughter, but I do think there are people who are a size 12/14 and clinically obese, or with a bmi over 27 and additional health issues.

I read the report this week about the NHS introducing the drug more widely. Something like 15 million British people are eligible on weight alone! We’ve lost sight of what BMI 30+ looks like.

@BleachedJumper perhaps but my daughter won’t be among that number. Obviously I see a lot of her. She is overweight but not obese, - and I agree we’ve forgotten what that looks like so I’m not conflating obesity with morbid obesity visually. I’m smaller than my daughter and very fine boned and I would fall into the obese BMI if I was a high street 14. She is a few inches taller than me. She has no health issues associated with obesity or extra weight.