Petty - after a child free wedding

[Magicboobies]

I know this is v petty - anyone feel the same ?

You see photos all over social of a couple who had a child-free/baby free wedding a while back (and you either could not attend due to breastfeeding or went to a massive effort to sort childcare out for your brood, on the pretence that they wanted you to be able to enjoy yourself, as if you don’t enjoy being with your kids) and now they’re posing taking their baby to a wedding “look how smart baby is in a suit etc etc”

I am fully aware this is entirely unreasonable 🤣 but also sort of want them to feel the slight annoyance I did, all whilst being judged by the masses at how dare I think a child could possibly be invited to a wedding.

Presumably the wedding they attended with their baby was not a child free one though. Children don’t have to be at everything but it doesn’t mean that people don’t love their children any less or do t think they look cute in a suit.

Sounds like you just don't really like them very much

It would annoy me too. Just take a step back from them.

I’m not sure what your point is. People can want a childfree wedding for themselves, and also bring their child to a wedding where they’re invited.

I guess I probably disliked them more after their wedding tbh yes. I get child free weddings but baby free weddings find very tricky. I think this particular relative of my husbands I went to a lot more effort back then than I would do now, pumping for a while leading up to event and back and forth to breastfeed etc. All because they wanted me to “enjoy myself”. Now I would have put a boundary with a firm no I will not cry leaving my new baby for your wedding. Maybe just I just spitefully wanted them to feel that pinch.

Well they will eventually. Their kids won't always be invited to every event they go to. Just don't give it headspace

God you sound really bitter! Presumably their child was invited to the wedding he attended... so what's the issue? People get so upright about the smallest of things! 🙄

Could you comment on the post “aww, so cute. Would’ve loved an outfit like that for my baby at your wedding.”

Exactly. We had a child free wedding. Now we have kids. Sometimes they're invited to events, sometimes they're not. Sometimes we can attend, sometimes we can't. No dramas.

Lol

She could... if she wants everyone to think she's really petty and weird! If that's her aim, go for it! 😅

Or maybe they genuinely wouldn’t mind leaving their baby if they had to. We have a wedding coming up where I’ll have to leave my breastfed six month old. No bitterness on my part. They can invite who they want to their wedding and I can decide if that works for my family. It’s not their fault that you put yourself in a position you were uncomfortable in to attend their wedding, and honestly the fact that you want to spite them now would make me feel like I’d made the right choice in holding the boundary of my child free wedding if I were them.

Exactly. We deliberately chose not to take my kids to weddings they were invited to on a couple of occasions. In fact, now that I think of it, I've never taken my kids to a wedding... they've been invited to some and not to others.

I think everyone should choose how they want thier day but I also find it annoying when they choose baby free and say it's because they want you to be able to enjoy the day. I really don't think that's why they choose that and if it is, they got that very wrong (for me anyway).

It sound like you regret your choice to attend? You would maybe make a different choice now.

Do they had a child free wedding but attended a child invited wedding and you’re bitter? Why? The next wedding they attend may be child free too - fortunately people are allowed to celebrate their own wedding as they wish, be it child free or alcohol free or meat free, or a destination wedding or whatever. Just decline if it doesn’t work for you.
For full disclosure I had a child free wedding. It was a black tie event and I’d rather have 30 of my actual friends there than 30 kids I barely know or haven’t even met.

I dislike any couple who pretends their child-free wedding is so parents can 'enjoy themselves'. Utter bollocks. At least be honest: you don't want children at your wedding. And that's okay!

I don’t understand your issue.

They had a child free wedding, which you could have chosen to attend or not.

They have attended a wedding that allowed children.

There will be things in the future that their child can’t attend, just like there will be for you too.

It’s completely up to them how they chose to spend their wedding.

Exactly this.

That’s what Mums net is for. You come on here to say all the shit that you can’t say in real life. She has stated in the title she knows it is petty but that’s how she feels. It doesn’t make her a bad person.

I didn't say she's a bad person. I said she's a bitter person 😅

This amount of anger about an event that you chose to go to and which was months or years (?) in the past seems very strange.

Hahaha yes! Oh I would never say this out loud 🤣 fully judging myself for feeling so petty 🤣

You sound like you’re annoyed at yourself for going to their wedding OP. You didn’t have to make that choice.

I totally agree! 🤯