Can anyone help me with an outfit colour problem? re Mother of Groom

[Neitherherenorthere]

I’d be grateful for your thoughts regarding my MOG outfit for wedding this October coming.

The bridesmaids are in bottle green dresses, men are in green/brown tweed, MOB has chosen burgundy and the bride has suggested that a rust colour might be nice for me as this matches the colours of the wedding, green, rust, burgundy tones. Thing is… I’m not too keen on rust. I have been talking to MOB about a plum colour but I got the impression she thought I was straying into her burgundy territory so fair enough…. I see what she means…. Does anyone have any colour ideas for autumn weddings? I suit rich tones, dark hair, olive skin. Pastels wash me out.

What do you think the etiquette is here? It’s a posh venue and I want the bride to be happy with the photos. Maybe I was wrong to speak to her but I wanted communication to be good. How do MOB and MOG usually co-ordinate or arrange things? Grateful for any thoughts or advice thank you.

All I wanted for my mother and MOG was to wear something they liked and felt confident in. No one even considered colour coordinating.

Same. Wear what you like. If the bride or her mother end up cross because your outfit is too close or too far away from the colours they think you should wear they really have too much time on their hands.

This level of control over what people wear to weddings is not to be encouraged.

Agree you should be able to wear what you like but how about a deep sea green/blue?

Agree with you about the rust! Also can’t imagine it would be easy to find much in rust.What about teal, would go well with the other colours?

Gold and beige are in that color palet. Along with the orange tones.
were you thinking of a solid color or print/patterned? Long or tea length dress?

My ds is getting married later this year, and both bride, and MoB have told me to wear whatever I want to wear.
MoB and I aren't aiming to co-ordinate at all. We are both going to enjoy wearing something we are comfortable in, or better still, look fabulous in.

If 'rust' isn't something that suits you, then don't wear it.

Even navy works well.
www.monsoon.co.uk/gianna-sleeveless-lace-midi-dress-blue-20000820003.html

You say rust but what about a copper colour?

Wow thanks everyone, I have been tying myself in knots over this! Yes posh venue so I wanted to go for smart, one colour? I like the bronze, gold ideas here. That’s better than rust on me for sure!

I actually love that navy dress GildedRage

But copper could be a good compromise

www.hobbs.com/row/product/addison-pleated-dress/0124-5243-9045L00-MAGENTA-PURPLE.html#isSecondPage=false&start=0&sz=60&is=true&cgid=sale&prefn1=category0&prefv1=Dresses&prefn2=refinementColor&prefv2=Navy%7CBeige%7CGold%7CPurple&pid=0124-5243-9045L00-MAGENTA-PURPLE&pos=13

Online sales section might have the fall colors but being spring you see more pastels

Thank you GildedRage that’s helpful

Is your relationship right to go shopping together?

It’s nice that you want to fit in so much but honestly nobody will mind what you wear. Just get up in the morning, open your wardrobe and choose an outfit that makes you feel good and comfortable. Then you will look lovely.

You’re a person. They aren’t choosing curtains or having a car resprayed. You have been invited to a wedding a public event. Nobody has territory. Nobody has ownership over a colour and all the people who invited you want is your presence and for you to feel happy.

Enjoy!

@MockTheGeek i attended my brother's wedding with little consideration to what others would wear. sadly it is one of my biggest regrets in life. i was seriously underdressed and was conscientious of this the entire day it ruined it for me. i was embarrassed. never again.

Surely there were people in all kinds of clothes. Even if it’s the people you don’t know/who aren’t the invited ones!

I did say something that makes you feel good. I’m sorry you didn’t feel good but no one will remember what you wore. I have no clue what I’ve worn to anyone’s wedding, unless I look up a ohoto - and I barely have any of them.

the people doing the inviting just want you there, surely it’s not about what you eear

What about an ochre or mustard colour?

I feel like weddings can be so different in style and expectations…. It is really great to get different perspectives on my problem. Really giving me food for thought….

Sorry to hear that Gilded. I agree, feeling uncomfortable would spoil my enjoyment of the day. I don’t have the thick skin required not to care about how I am fitting in

Possibly, but it would be my last resort really…

I think the mustard dress above would look v classy.

Bottle green and teal might not look great together

bronze?
a rich brown?
taupe?
deep mauve?
olive? Although this might look bad with the bottle green

MOB can’t veto all red, purple, plum and brown tones. There are only so many colours that will fit with autumnal

It’s lovely but not against very pale skin. OP could you pull off the bright mustard?