Can anyone help me with an outfit colour problem? re Mother of Groom

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I’d be grateful for your thoughts regarding my MOG outfit for wedding this October coming.

The bridesmaids are in bottle green dresses, men are in green/brown tweed, MOB has chosen burgundy and the bride has suggested that a rust colour might be nice for me as this matches the colours of the wedding, green, rust, burgundy tones. Thing is… I’m not too keen on rust. I have been talking to MOB about a plum colour but I got the impression she thought I was straying into her burgundy territory so fair enough…. I see what she means…. Does anyone have any colour ideas for autumn weddings? I suit rich tones, dark hair, olive skin. Pastels wash me out.

What do you think the etiquette is here? It’s a posh venue and I want the bride to be happy with the photos. Maybe I was wrong to speak to her but I wanted communication to be good. How do MOB and MOG usually co-ordinate or arrange things? Grateful for any thoughts or advice thank you.

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I’d go for navy. Would work with any number of colours for acccessories.

full on navy for a very Kate Middleton head to toe colour drenched look.

copper/rust accessories to tie in with theme

the right shade of green shoes/bag might work too, to tie in with bridesmaids

but equally, gold and silver just as easy

Wow everyone! Thank you for all these thoughts and ideas. I need to read through properly and consider these suggestions. I will be back! It’s interesting how many of you say that everyone did their own thing re outfits…

Interesting also about recessing navy… the comment about navy and rust is inspiring me!

I also love Springbringshope’s colour suggestions and Shortpoet’s palettes are exciting. I feel much happier after talking to all of you 😊

This. My eldest daughter specified a colour for my MOB outfit at her wedding. My youngest daughter told me to wear whatever I liked at hers, as long as it wasn't jeans. So I wore a black dress.

This!
We got married just over a week ago and all we wanted was for our mums to be comfortable and feel good in whatever they chose. They themselves wanted to check that they weren't in the same shade/colour but we wanted happy folks at our wedding not some colour coordinated aesthetics 🤷🏼‍♀️

What about a deep but bright (ie not navy) blue -a jewel colour, preferably in silk. Different from the range of colours worn by the others but would complement them.
Otherwise the gold colour would be lovely and autumnal and blend with the colours the others are wearing.

Navy blue. I suggest that because my mum wore blue to my brothers wedding and pink to mine. Also, it’s classic and chic and you can’t go wrong with navy.

They're being very unfair, choosing their colours and leaving you with rust!

A couple of shades lighter of the bridesmaids' green.

Rust sounds really dull! How about a vibrant peacock blue/teal shade with copper/bronze accessories? Colour palette in attached photo...

I don’t mean get up that morning and wear something from your wardrobe. Definitely buy something new and fabulous but pick something you like in a colour that you like and suits you.

This, otherwise mob and bride are choosing what she wears and what you wear. Mob can wear the rust if it fits the theme so well!

Navy blue looks lovely at autumnal weddings
I’d wear what makes me feel confident and comfortable