Has anyone walked themselves down the aisle?
Would be intrigued to hear people's reflections on this.
Context:
- My dad left my mum when I was a baby and has been in and out of my life growing up. Stayed at his for the odd weekend, never saw him as a father figure. Now we see each other about twice a year as a formality
- I have a step-dad who has done more than he needed to for me. That being said, I don't know if I see him as a father figure either (see next bullet point)
- My mum met my step dad when I was 14. From then until I left home, my mum would leave me home alone (no siblings or other family) for days whilst she went on dates with my step dad. As a teenager, this was a lot to deal with and left me with an eating disorder and all sorts of other issues now as an adult.
I'm on decent enough terms with all three of my parents now. Have never spoken to them about the above as I know they would be defensive and the conversation just isn't worth the hassle. Despite this, my Dad expects to walk me down the aisle, and I know my stepdad will be hurt if I don't ask him. There's the option of course to ask my mum, but I frankly don't know if I want to ask any of them.
So I'm considering walking myself, could be an empowering move in this day in age. But don't want to look back and regret it, also don't want people to pitty me on the day
Would love to hear your thoughts
thanks!