Is there anything you regret NOT having/doing on your wedding?

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Just that really.

Do you regret not having/doing anything in particular your big day?

Inviting people,who made my day a bad memory…regret not having the intimate wedding I wanted..

Regret not having a father daughter dance with my dad and not having a videogeapher.

Board games

i saw someone who had board games at their wedding after we had ours and thought how much fun that would have been.

we had an unconventional wedding anyway as DH and I hate the loud music and dancing segment of most receptions so we skipped that part.

I regret buying cheap white gold engagement and wedding rings as we were on a budget. I have sweaty hands so the plating wore off after a few months and I needed to get them replated three times a year. I replaced them with platinum rings fairly quickly!

I wish we'd had a videographer. DH said it would be a waste of money but looking back, there are so many parts of the day that I wish I could see again.

Also, if I could do it again, there'd be a lot of people I wouldn't invite. They were people that I didn't want there but felt I was obligated to invite. I wish I'd put on my big girl knickers and said no.

I wish we'd had air con - the hotel had just been refurbished but the air con in the function rooms hadn't been hooked up and it was roasting that day.

Microphones for the speeches - it was a big room!

I regret not having a wedding before I had a baby... but hindsight is a beautiful thing.

You never get a chance at a honeymoon with a baby.

MIL not being able to make it. We married in Rhodes and her doctors refused to declare her fit to fly after a stem cell transplant. It was so sad.

Also not having a videographer. We originally booked one through our wedding planners but it turned out ALL videographers on the island were booked/unavailable the day of our wedding. Thankfully we've got some beautiful pictures.

I have seen some videos lately of photographers doing quick group photos with the bride and groom.
Each table called up in turn and posed with the married couple seated in the centre. Quick 30-60 seconds for each table.
i wish this sort of thing existed when we got married.

Oh god... Canapés 🙈

Sorry, I was very tired!

Photos. My brother did them they were shit.
Anyway got divorced so irrelevant really.

A friend did our photos and although we have some lovely ones, i do not have one with my mum which i really regret. However I did nit want formal photos so it was my own fault really.

Food at midnight. We were married late in the day and had a BBQ buffet from 6-8, so honestly didn't think we needed to provide anything else. Friends told us later that they cleaned out the bar of crisps and peanuts etc - we were mortified.

My wedding was 34 years ago and it was common then for parents to pay for a daughter's wedding. My regrets:

• Not taking more control of arrangements. My mother completely took over and I didn't have the courage to stand up to her.
• Not having professional hair and make up done. I had to do it myself and it wasn't great.
• Not having a good photographer. We used a very reputable company who had great reviews, but I reckon the one they sent to us was contracted in, or maybe the dad of one of the proper photographers! He had no idea on groupings. It was difficult selecting enough photos we liked to fill our album.
• The man I married. I had incredibly low self esteem and knew deep down he wasn't right, but I went through with it as I thought, at 26, it would be my only chance. I went on to have a very unhappy marriage and the only good thing out of it was my two lovely DC.

That seems such a good idea, but, could you explain to me how it worked? What stage were they brought out? Did people seem to enjoy? What sort of games?

I'm envisioning the part of the evening where, people have had a bit to drink, not much else is happening and something to do broke the ice with people that may have been strangers/not well known to one another, cutting out that part where people get slightly fed up/don't want more drink, have exhausted small talk?

Not having any food in our hotel room after the wedding. We were so busy seeing everyone and chatting and running on nervous energy that we didn't eat much on the day. Then when we got back to the hotel room at midnight we were really hungry and only had two complimentary biscuits with the tea and coffee stuff to eat. Too late and too remote for food delivery. Should have packed snacks in our overnight bag.

Heating in the marquee. It was summer but the UK is so unpredictable.

Nothing. It was perfect.

There are about 10 people I wish I'd invited.

Massively regret not having a family picture with us and our son. He was 4 months old at the time and really unsettled when we were doing the pictures but I wished I'd reminded the photographer we hadn't managed to get a family pic. Still so gutted about it

Yes! This is my regret too. Not getting a picture with our son and it was at the top of our list of pics to the photographer. Also not enough pictures with my mum either which I'm gutted about. To be honest the photographer was just a bit rubbish! Also didn't like my hair either haha

Oh and DJ was rubbish to begin with too because he wasn't playing our playlist we'd sent him! Once he started playing the songs we sent him then everyone started dancing but I remember thinking what the hell is this music!

The only way we could afford the venue we wanted was to book it out of peak season and on a Sunday. The out of season thing wasn't an issue ( April wedding), but I wish I'd not gone for the Sunday, and paid extra. We got most of our guests to come on the Saturday and did a 'wedding eve' Saturday meal out, but a lot of people left the wedding itself early eve Sunday which is fair enough especially if not local, not blaming them at all but it kind of fizzled out and I was in full swing still.

Easy to say from the other side (nearly 30 years married), but I wish we had just taken a pass on the entire ‘white wedding’.

It wasn’t us. Being centre of attention is both of our worst nightmares, and it was a whole day of just that. It wasn’t unpleasant per se, but it was unnatural and needlessly stressful for the sake of ‘tradition'

We were both young and railroaded (by my well meaning parents in particular) into having something that just wasn’t….us. It was a lovely day, but I wouldn’t do it again. So think really hard about what you want, and don’t get caught up in the excitement and expectations of others.

I wish we had been brave enough to just do a small registry office wedding with close family. Then just a run of the mill party some time later for friends. No white frocks, no first dance, no speeches. Just hanging out with friends having a nice time.

So my only advice would be to think of what you WANT, not what you’re expected to want/have.

Chocolate cake. A friend offered to make the cake, which was lovely of her, but it was a traditional fruit cake which I hate. She would probably have made a chocolate one if I had asked her but I didn't feel I could. No cake for me