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How much did you cry at your wedding?

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Hungboisking · 11/08/2023 10:37

I’m getting married in a week and now the important stuff is all sorted I can relax a bit and it’s sunk in that it’s so soon!

I’m not an overly emotional person in general but I cry without fail at touching moments and seeing others emotional.

I start to cry when I read my vows, and when I think of our wedding song, seeing future husband at the end of the aisle, seeing my stepsons and Newport at the end of the aisle.

I know I will cry during the vows, i hope I can get them out 🤣.

So how much did you cry at your wedding? I know it sounds a bit wet, I’m an independent strong no nonsense lady usually I assure you 🤣

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Hungboisking · 11/08/2023 10:37

*Nephew not Newport…

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Ohthatsabitshit · 11/08/2023 10:41

I didn’t cry at all. I did shake like a leaf which was a bit unexpected.

Notamum12345577 · 11/08/2023 10:42

I was going to ask if that was Newport IOW or Newport Wales 🤣

Simonjt · 11/08/2023 10:43

We almost didn’t manage to get married as I was crying so much I couldn’t actually speak. The video is top tier cringe.

Enjoy your special day.

Letsnotargue · 11/08/2023 10:44

I cried a bit when I got to the end of the aisle but that was just due to having had such a busy few days and morning, and suddenly I was there and everything was quiet and I could finally relax. It was weird, I don’t normally cry at things like that. Made it through the rest of the day fine.

RosesAndHellebores · 11/08/2023 10:47

I didn't. It was the happiest day of my life. I was, however, very moved by the spirituality of the blessing and daft as it may seem felt God was with us. It was very profound but nothing about it was tear jerking. I knew who would be in church and where.

Uncooperativefingers · 11/08/2023 10:48

Oh congratulations! I hope you have the best day

I'm getting married in 4 weeks and already super emotional. I'm also usually pretty stoic and chilled, but so far I've cried seeing DP in his suit, cried seeing my wedding dress tailored to fit, when mil gave me my something borrowed... Not bawling, but being a little weepy. It's mad

Mummyme87 · 11/08/2023 10:51

Oh god I started getting teary once the bridesmaids walked through the door down the aisle, by the time I was walking I was a complete mess. I mean full on sobbing. I had had a delayed wedding due to Covid, was meant to be April 2020 then November 2020 and ended up august 2021, I found the whole thing so stressful and was struggling with the lockdowns etc having young kids, homeschooling and working in a hospital, this day had finally arrived and I think it all just hit me at that moment

Defiantlynot41 · 11/08/2023 10:51

Tip for not crying during vows is to practice, out loud - a lot! You almost need to normalise saying the words and eventually the emotional significance of the words will fade a bit.

This also works for funeral readings!

Babdoc · 11/08/2023 10:51

Not at all. Got 24 hours off work, which reduced my shift as a junior doctor from a continuous 80 hours down to a mere 56 hours, so I was delighted. Low key wedding - me, DH, 2 witnesses, no guests, no reception, let alone silly dress, flowers, cake, photographer or honeymoon. Done and dusted in minutes, back to work next morning.
We only got married to get the tax rebate to replace our written off car, so it wasn’t in the least emotional!

EbiRaisukaree · 11/08/2023 10:53

I couldn’t stop grinning all the way through, having thought I’d blub. However, DH cried during his vows, which I found incredibly touching. We’re still here, 20 years on and he is still someone who is unafraid to show his emotions, which is very healthy. Don’t sweat it - you will feel how you feel, and it really doesn’t matter.

timegoingtooquickly · 11/08/2023 10:53

I didn't but my husband did!!

Glowz · 11/08/2023 10:54

I didn’t cry at all, I was giggling with nerves though going down the aisle and when we got there. There’s a picture of me looking like I’m absolutley howling when I get to the end of the aisle

AnneLovesGilbert · 11/08/2023 10:55

Buckets. I cry easily, especially when I’m happy and I was in floods.

Wishing you a wonderful wedding!

ToughFuss · 11/08/2023 10:55

I, very weirdly, didn’t. Weird because I cry nearly every time at other peoples weddings! I got a bit misty eyed saying my vows but nowhere near crying. I was grinning my head off throughout, I didn’t perfect the insta-worthy soft smiles at all.. what a shame 🤣

BlueBlubbaWhale · 11/08/2023 10:56

I didn't cry. I had face ache at the end of the day from all the smiling though lol

everywherebear · 11/08/2023 10:56

I'm a crier - I literally cry at anything vaguely emotional even if it's nothing to do with me! But at my wedding I didn't cry once, I was just having such a good time I just spent the whole day smiling! Really weird as I normally cry at the drop of a hat. My husband never cries, but he shed a tear during the ceremony and even that didn't set me off.

brokenlore · 11/08/2023 10:57

I got the giggles....so much so that so did all the bridesmaid, the groom and the best man....I've probably just outed myself!

HolyMoleyGuacamole · 11/08/2023 10:58

I'm an emotional person but I didn't cry at all which surprised me.

I was so emotional, nervous and anxious in the build up to our wedding I think I did all my crying beforehand and I was all cried out when the day came.

When the day arrived it was as if all the nervous had left me and it felt wonderful.

PetersSpecialCheese · 11/08/2023 10:59

I didn't cry, neither did DH. We were both super nervous though. 2 glasses of champagne before the ceremony helped!

CarPour · 11/08/2023 11:00

I didn't. I thought I would as I'm definitely a crier but actually think I'd done the crying pre wedding day. I was just happy

coodawoodashooda · 11/08/2023 11:03

I didn't cry. Knowing what I know now, I should have. He was/is an evil pig.

OldTinHat · 11/08/2023 11:03

I didn't. Not a tear.

Shed plenty after both divorces though!

CopperSeahorses · 11/08/2023 11:03

We both shed a tear afterwards because it had been such a special day and we knew we wouldn't be married for long, I felt we would be lucky to see our first wedding anniversary and I was right, we didn't. he died 9 months later. We managed to get a date just as we were coming out of lockdown so were able to have friends and family at the ceremony and we went to our favourite pub afterwards for a meal, it was such a special day.

GreenKimono · 11/08/2023 11:09

Not at all, but it wasn’t the kind of wedding that had aisles, wedding songs, vows other than whatever the standard civil ceremony ‘I’m marrying you/you’re marrying me’ wording. Ours was all done in casual clothes with two witnesses in ten minutes, then we all went for champagne and fancy tapas.

I’ve been to scores of weddings in lots of countries, and the only one where the bride or groom cried enough to be noticeable was one where the groom’s father had died a few months earlier and his mother was too elderly and unwell to travel halfway round the world, but she Skyped into the ceremony, all dressed up and wearing all her family jewellery and looking beautiful, at about 5 am in her time zone. That was a tearjerker.

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