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How much did you cry at your wedding?

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Hungboisking · 11/08/2023 10:37

I’m getting married in a week and now the important stuff is all sorted I can relax a bit and it’s sunk in that it’s so soon!

I’m not an overly emotional person in general but I cry without fail at touching moments and seeing others emotional.

I start to cry when I read my vows, and when I think of our wedding song, seeing future husband at the end of the aisle, seeing my stepsons and Newport at the end of the aisle.

I know I will cry during the vows, i hope I can get them out 🤣.

So how much did you cry at your wedding? I know it sounds a bit wet, I’m an independent strong no nonsense lady usually I assure you 🤣

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Hbh17 · 13/08/2023 12:45

Not at all. But I don't usually cry during funerals either - in fact, I have trained myself to ensure that I don't cry until I am somewhere more private.

Perfectlystill · 13/08/2023 12:47

Not at all. I was just really happy. Still going 20 years on!

CharlotteStreetW1 · 13/08/2023 12:58

Defiantlynot41 · 11/08/2023 10:51

Tip for not crying during vows is to practice, out loud - a lot! You almost need to normalise saying the words and eventually the emotional significance of the words will fade a bit.

This also works for funeral readings!

Yes. I always try to imagine I'm reading the news (without the weird inflections!).

Anyway. I worked very hard not to cry at my wedding. My dad died when I was young and my mum had died not long before the wedding so I was frightened if I started I might never stop. As it was, I was so happy and excited, I think I grinned from dawn till dusk. DH got a bit teary when the best man presented him with a signed cricket bat from the county team who'd just won the league 🙄

mumofdragons · 13/08/2023 13:02

Congratulations, enjoy every moment because the day goes so fast!

I got married this year on Valentine's Day. I didn't cry at all which I was a little surprised at, I nearly did when I saw my mum crying - she was sobbing watching her granddaughters as flower girls and when my dad walked me down the isle. However, DH is not a cryer at all, when the cello and piano started and he heard our song, he cried. As a joke I said to him if he doesn't cry I'm walking back and starting again 🤣 he was adamant that he wasn't going to cry but when I got to him he was blubbering - which was very sweet.

CharlotteStreetW1 · 13/08/2023 13:07

Glowz · 11/08/2023 10:54

I didn’t cry at all, I was giggling with nerves though going down the aisle and when we got there. There’s a picture of me looking like I’m absolutley howling when I get to the end of the aisle

There's a photograph of my friend about to walk into the church. She's an incredibly beautiful woman and the photo is side-on of her in full veil and head bowed. The picture is breathtaking.

When I complimented her on it, she said she was actually sobbing because she was incredibly late thanks to a rather cavalier hairdresser and make up artist and she was totally stressed out.

Franticbutterfly · 13/08/2023 19:46

Didn't cry at all but DH let out a very weird "pah" noise as were saying the vows. We laugh about it now. I guess the emotion got to him.

arfit · 13/08/2023 19:53

I didn't cry at all and didn't feel emotional. DH and I were just bemused by the ceremony and vows and by the formality of it all. For us the main thing was the legal contract. If civil partnerships for opposite sex couples were allowed at that time, we'd have opted for that instead tbh.

BobBobBobbing · 13/08/2023 19:58

I giggled the whole way through. All 5 mins of it as we had a registry office do with just witnesses.

I cried like an absolute baby after I was the bridesmaid for my friend who was my witness though. I just remember sobbing at dh that it was so amazing that she was my witness and I was her's so our ggg grandchildren would see the link on our certificates. I had had several bottles of fizz by this point

Beaverbridge · 13/08/2023 20:03

Not at all. Cried plenty after, now happily divorced!!

MadCatLady27 · 14/08/2023 16:03

I'm someone who bawls at films at the drop of a hat and expected to do so throughout my wedding

However I managed to keep it at bay, it nearly happened walking down the isle, I got choked up when I got to OH and he said wow with real emotion, I then cackled through one of the hymns (the nerves finally leaving I think and the erm "Dutch Courage" can of pink gin and lemonade I'd had to prevent a freak out getting ready) the tears next threatened during the speeches and I think at first dance

If I hear our first dance song I get emotional. I'm surprised I managed to keep the (happy!) Tears in as I expected to be full on sobbing!

C1N1C · 14/08/2023 16:04

I little... my wife won't let me live it down.

Musicaltheatremum · 14/08/2023 23:05

I cried a lot at my daughter's wedding 2 months ago. So did the minister but he had become a good friend of my late husband and found my son walking my daughter down the aisle very emotional as my son is the spitting image of his dad. Minister also did husands funeral in 2012 and my wedding last year so quite a connection. I cried at my wedding walking down the aisle.

SallyWD · 14/08/2023 23:08

I welled up when I said my vows but didn't cry.

Hairgician · 15/08/2023 19:43

Surprisingly not as much as i thought i would. Considering my mother pulled the rug from under me at the 11th hour and decided not to come.

There was defo a glisten in his eyes as i met him at the altar too lol. Wasnt expecting that.

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Hungboisking · 16/08/2023 14:32

Well ladies it’s a few days away now and highly emotional and I’m getting teary eyed at anything vaguely touching. 🤣

Doesn't help that I’m not sleeping well tbh. Fiancé is working away and some creepy Nottingham Knockers have been around trying to get access to my cellar door (yard is locked) and taking pics of my house se been creeped out at night tbh…! Just what you need prior to your wedding!

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MoonsHaunted · 16/08/2023 14:37

Oh it’s so exciting! Good luck 🤍

I cried when walking down the aisle and also during vows. And when my mum cried when she was doing a reading - I felt bad making my mum cry 😭

ReformedWaywardTeen · 16/08/2023 14:39

I got the giggles! Not one tear all day.

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Hungboisking · 16/08/2023 15:25

MoonsHaunted · 16/08/2023 14:37

Oh it’s so exciting! Good luck 🤍

I cried when walking down the aisle and also during vows. And when my mum cried when she was doing a reading - I felt bad making my mum cry 😭

This will be me 🤣. And thank you 🤍

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Hairgician · 16/08/2023 17:06

Oh and be prepared for a week of shit sleep.
Didnt expect that tbh. No wonder we are fkn knackered after!

Perfectlystill · 19/08/2023 08:19

Is today the day OP? Have the best time.

I'm sorry about the little bastards creeping you out. Hope you have a fantastic wedding.

Shallana · 23/08/2023 21:44

I welled up quite a lot and a few tears escaped - during the vows and the speeches, but I didn't actually start sobbing.

Jackienory · 23/08/2023 21:46

Ohthatsabitshit · 11/08/2023 10:41

I didn’t cry at all. I did shake like a leaf which was a bit unexpected.

Me too. I was visibly trembling and the vicar asked if I was OK !.

FettleOfKish · 23/08/2023 21:49

I welled up during our vows, but didn't actually cry. I shook like a leaf and was in anxious knots all morning in the run up though. Sitting still for hair and make up was torture and my bridesmaids had to basically force me to eat something. I didn't even want a champagne!

I took that as a good sign having been entirely nonchalant before my first wedding. The second one mattered so much more.

FettleOfKish · 23/08/2023 21:50

Ps. Congratulations OP! Have the best day ❤️

thaegumathteth · 23/08/2023 21:51

Not at all tbf but I'm not really like that - or rather I wasn't then, pre children!

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